The main reason why you would get a mail notification but not have mail when you get to the site is because the mail was sent to you by a scammer who we have since deleted from the site.

When we detect a scammer, we delete all of the messages that they sent so that no one is lured into their trap.

Regarding who's viewed me, we are only showing the people who have viewed you within the last 30 days. So every day, some of the people who viewed you are deleted off your list, while others are added as they view you. That's why the number changes daily.

Hope that helps.

ezguy - can you send me a message and tell me which message you are trying to reply to? We'll take a look and see if we can figure out what's happening.

Anyone else having this problem?

Sorry fine, not sure what to tell you. It works fine for me. I very very highly doubt that it's anything on our site that's causing your computer to crash. Have you tried just rebooting? Kicking it sometimes works for me, lol.

Which thread?

And fingerpaintbynumber, it's absolutely appropriate that if people are feeling attacked, they SHOULD report abuse to us. If they don't and instead attack someone back, they'll be suspended or banned.

We are all adults here, but even adults can get out of hand sometimes. We have an environment we are trying to maintain, and we have put rules in place for that reason. Anyone who can't abide by them will be banned in the long run.

That having been said, we ban people as a last resort. We prefer to educate users first. But if they can't follow the rules, they will be banned - there are many users who've found that out the hard way.

Look folks -

The whole point of my warning is that you are NOT to attack other members. So don't call anyone "cold", don't say someone should be "banned", etc. They have a legitimate opinion and expressed it. And you are free to do the same, as long as it is in a respectful manner. Most of you have absolutely no context as to what was actually said or whether it was said sarcastically, etc.

If you want to argue with their position, that's absolutely fine. You can say "what if they were serious", "why take the chance that they are not joking", etc. etc. But you can't say "you're a cold hearted *****"

And finally, you may accuse me of being cold, but in the future, we're going to delete threads like the one last night as soon as they appear. This is a dating site, first and foremost. We delete all threads that cause drama on the forums. And a suicide note certainly qualifies.

Thanks,
Mike

It's definitely not a sexual site. But we need everyone's help to keep it that way. We just can't review every single picture that gets posted on the site. So if you see a bad one, please use the report abuse button so it gets flagged for us and we can take the appropriate action.

Folks -

There have been a lot of inappropriate posts attacking or insulting other users tonight. I want to remind everyone that attacking or insulting other users under any circumstance is against the forum rules and will result in your posting privileges being suspended or even in a permanent ban from the site.

Please make sure to read the forum rules again and obey them at all times. If you have an issue with someone, you can use the report abuse button to let us know and we will be happy to investigate. That is the only appropriate action to take.

Thanks in advance for your cooperation.

Daniel - do you connect through AOL dial-up?

If anyone else is having this problem, can you also tell me if you connect through AOL dial-up?

Sorry, we had an issue with our email server that's now clearing up. The emails should stop in just a second, we're just clearing out the old backlog.

Sorry again,
Mike

Whisper - what happens when you try to log in on IE? Can you give me details on what happens, i.e. do you get a message saying the password doesn't match, does the site just hang, does the page just refresh as if nothing happens, etc.? If you can give me some details, we'll definitely look into it.

Sorry, not sure what purple box you are referring to. What pages are you seeing that on?

ike66 - if there's no mail when you check your mailbox, it's most likely because the user who sent you the message has either deactivated or been banned. You can see if the user is active by going to:

http://www.justsayhi.com/username

...but replace username with the username of the user who sent you a message. For example, to see my profile, you'd go to:

http://www.justsayhi.com/mike

UK, different, and gypsy - what's not working? If you're talking about the voting system, sometimes people will incorrectly nominate a topic for deletion, but that should get corrected as people vote. This topic, for example, was saved because people voted that it should not get deleted (which was the correct decision in my opinion).

You can't send a message to yourself. I just sent you a test message, let me know if you receive it.

Yeah we did some more testing and realized there was a bug that could cause that in IE. It's been fixed now so everything should be working correctly. If you see any more issues like that, definitely let us know.

Sorry about that. Thanks for pointing out the error.

Hope you'll still give us a chance Lex, we're getting more and more new people every day...

Do you know what operating system and browser are you using? Is it Windows XP and Internet Explorer?

OK I moved that topic, thanks for the heads up Whisper

I do know what you mean. We may add an option for "Move topic" instead of just deleting it. But for now, deleting is the only option.

Either way, definitely do not mail Vanchau or myself if you want a topic moved. That's what the new system is for, so until we have something better in place, please use the new tools to help teach users that topics should be posted in the appropriate forum.