navygirl
Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 6138 |
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navygirl
QUOTE: QUOTE: QUOTE: Here's to navygirl, wherever you are. May life bring you peace and bliss. (She has disappeared from the forums!) Hi OldHippie. Sorry I haven't been on the forums lately but between work, the military, helping family, and being sick; I haven't had much time to be on the forums. Thanks to you and all those people who have shown concern for me. You truly are wonderful people and I love my Mingle family. 
Yay! Thanks. Just a couple more busy weeks and I will be back. 
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navygirl
Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 6138 |
Topic:
navygirl
QUOTE: Here's to navygirl, wherever you are. May life bring you peace and bliss. (She has disappeared from the forums!) Hi OldHippie. Sorry I haven't been on the forums lately but between work, the military, helping family, and being sick; I haven't had much time to be on the forums. Thanks to you and all those people who have shown concern for me. You truly are wonderful people and I love my Mingle family.
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navygirl
Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 6138 |
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Real woman
QUOTE: Guess I'm not a real woman, since I'm not a mother. Meh. EDIT: Hmm... I'm not submissive either. Most of the guys I know don't even WANT that in a woman. Good thing! I am not a real woman either as I am none of the things but I really don't give a crap. I am a real person and that is all that matters; not what men think of me. 
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navygirl
Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 6138 |
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True Love
QUOTE: QUOTE: QUOTE: Have we all given up on a true love? I have. Giving up is not the answer. I just have better things to do with my time than waste it on a relationship. |
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navygirl
Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 6138 |
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blabbering in a relationship
I think it's about communication but maybe it's also tied to being well-rounded and having interests in many different areas...My husband took pride in having broad interests. So he could engage in interesting conversations with men as well as women...He actually felt that some men could be too "limited." (Limited to conversations about sports or cars or maybe their stock holdings or jobs etc.)...And some women "limit" their conversations to their kids and grandkids or maybe clothes or styles or "house stuff."...Men and women who have broad and varied interests seem to do better when it comes to conversing with the opposite sex. Don't you think? Greeneyes; I agree. Being well-rounded is important to me. I think its particularly hard for me to meet a man on my level. I have done a lot of traveling and have had experiences in the military that most men simply can't comprehend; so the conversation with them is very limited and can be quite boring. |
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navygirl
Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 6138 |
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blabbering in a relationship
QUOTE: I can't imagine being with a guy who is constantly complaining about women blabbering too much. Or about unnecessary talking. Maybe the guy just can't communicate so that is why the girl is doing the talking. I have found through my own experiences most men simply don't know how to communicate very well. |
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navygirl
Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 6138 |
QUOTE: QUOTE: QUOTE: QUOTE: QUOTE: One guy told me has purposely brought up religion and politics cause the girl will drop any act and show her true self. It maybe a good thing to bring it up early on in a relationship since faith and political beliefs play big roles in people lives. Having different beliefs can create problems if not address. That is my two cents and some of you may say that is all I have. 
That is interesting. If a guy brought that up with me; I would tell him to talk about something else as I don't care for either topic. Exactly..first they are very boring subjects..second, it can really get people heated So true. I find both topics boring too. I am an aethist so religion wouldn't be my topic of choice. As for politics; unless I can affect some type of radical change; I would rather not get myself upset over things I simply can't change. |
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navygirl
Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 6138 |
QUOTE: QUOTE: QUOTE: One guy told me has purposely brought up religion and politics cause the girl will drop any act and show her true self. It maybe a good thing to bring it up early on in a relationship since faith and political beliefs play big roles in people lives. Having different beliefs can create problems if not address. That is my two cents and some of you may say that is all I have.
That is interesting. If a guy brought that up with me; I would tell him to talk about something else as I don't care for either topic. Exactly..first they are very boring subjects..second, it can really get people heated So true. I find both topics boring too. |
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navygirl
Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 6138 |
Topic:
blabbering in a relationship
Thanks Greeneyes. This is why I just can't be bothered with the dating or even trying to meet someone. I don't think things will ever change with men my age and I just accept they will always act that way. I think if it weren't for my friend Lee; I could easily have turned into a man hater but I realize there are good men out there like him but just my luck they are spoken for.
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navygirl
Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 6138 |
QUOTE: One guy told me has purposely brought up religion and politics cause the girl will drop any act and show her true self. It maybe a good thing to bring it up early on in a relationship since faith and political beliefs play big roles in people lives. Having different beliefs can create problems if not address. That is my two cents and some of you may say that is all I have.
That is interesting. If a guy brought that up with me; I would tell him to talk about something else as I don't care for either topic. |
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navygirl
Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 6138 |
Another rule is turn the damn cell phone off. I think its rude to taking calls and texting while on a date. WTF are people thinking?
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navygirl
Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 6138 |
Me; I am cynical of relationships and don't trust anyone with my heart.
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navygirl
Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 6138 |
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IMPROPER DRESS
QUOTE: i see the fashion police is out in here... only question i have is why you think you have a say in what other people wear? if someone wants to wear a tutu with a football helmet, what right do we have to say anything? I agree. I believe in the MYOB method myself. I have better things to worry or focus on rather than what people are wearing. |
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navygirl
Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 6138 |
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please read!
QUOTE: QUOTE: QUOTE: Heart cannot give a reason only our mind can. Heart can feel and mind is naive. Heart is emotional and mind is logical. Welcome christie The heart is not emotional; its all in your head. The heart pumps blood and has nothing to do with your emotions. That is either anxiety or you are having a heart attack but it is still not your heart feeling emotions.
Edited by navygirl on Thu 03/07/13 03:44 PM
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navygirl
Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 6138 |
Topic:
blabbering in a relationship
I think you hit the nail on the head Greeneyes; it was like walking on eggshells. I also didn't appreciate him saying I was nagging when I only asked him once after waiting for two weeks if he would put the shelf up. I can't see how that is considered nagging. I just asked in case he forgot but he flew off the handle. He was removed from my home after he hit me from behind so I guess the warning signs were there over the shelf situation. I would ask him to help with the chores like mowing the lawn or taking out the garbage but he wouldn't even do that. I never realized how lazy a man can get until I lived with him. He wasn't the only one that was like that so I got used to doing things for myself. My friend Lee is an exceptional man and when he offers to do something for me or help me with something; he actually does in and in a reasonable time. However; men like him are very rare.
Edited by navygirl on Thu 03/07/13 03:42 PM
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navygirl
Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 6138 |
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Presence or money
Being practical; it would be money. Fact is if I leave my job to be there for someone; I probably won't have a job when I come back. With this unstable economy; one can't afford to take that chance.
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navygirl
Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 6138 |
Topic:
please read!
QUOTE: Heart cannot give a reason only our mind can. Heart can feel and mind is naive. Heart is emotional and mind is logical. Welcome christie The heart is not emotional; its all in your head. The heart pumps blood and has nothing to do with your emotions. |
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navygirl
Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 6138 |
QUOTE: I've decided i'm going to join the airforce, I feel like being in the military would put a strain on any relationships I would try and have. I would Be moving every few years, no continuity. And countless other stresses of military life. How would you girls feel about being with a guy in the Air Force? I will give you my perspective of the one serving in the military. My relationships did not last serving in the military. As well as moving every couple of years; I was also away from home months at a time. I served in both army and navy and although the Navy was way worse for time being away from home; I had 3 to 4 month stints with the army as well. So; be prepared to stay single. JMO |
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navygirl
Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 6138 |
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Gender Bender
QUOTE: QUOTE: QUOTE: I've found from personal experience that compromising is the same thing as giving in... what becomes the debated issue is who always has to give in/compromise first or most... if one person always has to do the compromising, this often leads to feelings of "being taken advantage of"... of course two people have their own expectations from the other they would like met... but that's what the friendship and courting phase of relationships are for.. to find out what we want and what we're willing to do, or stop doing, to keep the other person in our life, or not.. imo... Oh; I misunderstood compromise then. An example is the guy wants to eat at an Italian restaurant and I want to go to a Japanese restaurant. The compromise is we do take out orders from our favourite restaurants and that way we both get what we want and neither one of us has given in. Am I wrong in that thinking? Or we do Italian one night and Japanese another night. Isn't that too a compromise? I am the same way when it comes to something like this. The only thing I won't compromise is when a person insists I eat what they are eating. I remember guys getting mad at me because they would order a pizza and I wouldn't eat it. They said I was being difficult but junk food/fast food doesn't agree with me. I always tell up front that I eat very healthy and I don't eat these sort of foods but they get upset never the less. 
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navygirl
Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 6138 |
Topic:
blabbering in a relationship
QUOTE: QUOTE: QUOTE: QUOTE: QUOTE: QUOTE: QUOTE: nagging is a lazy word .if you being asked something or too do something then its probably a real concern for your partner to get a reply or a shelf hanged a door mended. or she may just need some extra tenderness because she has had a really stressfull day ,to ingnore her and call it nagging is just being neglectfull of your partners feelings and or needs .. Hold on there. Aren't men and women supposed to be equal? Why can't she hang her own shelf or mend her own door or spend some of HER money to hire a carpenter? If these things are important to her, she needs to take care of them herself. That's what men do. In my case; the man was living with me and he volunteered to do some things around the house. I don't mind doing things myself but if a guy offers to do something; then shouldn't he keep his promise? Why should he sit in my house and do nothing while I do all the work and then expect sex as well. I believe in equality but not in being taken advantage of. Incidentally; when I do things for myself men whine that they feel useless, not needed, and less of a man because they can't do anything for me. Seems I am damned if I do and damned if I don't. Did he have a job? Was he contributing to the household funds? If not, then you have every right to "nag" him about doing things. But, if he said he'd do something and hasn't gotten to by the time you think he should have, don't nag, just do it yourself. If men don't like your independence, it's because they want you under their thumb. They want to have something to hold over you. I don't think that's the kind of man you'd want to be involved with anyway. Actually; no he wasn't working and no he wasn't contributing to the household funds. However even if he was; he still could help with household chores as he is living there and contributes to the mess of the house. I am not his maid and cook. Are you saying that if he is contributing to half the bills that he shouldn't help with household chores as well? Also, why did he volunteer to do a job if he had no intention of doing it? I waited three weeks; asked him once after waiting for two weeks(apparently that is nagging according to him) did it myself; then he got mad; started yelling at me and said he was going to do it and I shouldn't have done it. This made him feel useless as a man. I have read pages and pages of men on this site saying they want to be needed and there way of being needed is doing things for women. When a woman does things for herself; it hurts his ego and he feels less like a man. Its silly to me but that seems to be the way of the world. First of all, if you were working and supporting him, he should have been doing ALL the household chores as well as taking care of a god part of your personal needs like laundry. Second, if both partners contribute equally to household funds, then both should be cleaning up after themselves. But, neither should be asking the other to do extra duty. I don't know about you, but cleaning up after myself doesn't normally include hanging selves of fixing doors. Maybe some men do feel that way. I've never heard of it, but I don't have your perspective. The only thing I ever wanted from a woman is for her to acknowledge and appreciate that I do work hard and am tired when I come home. It sounds like you've never dated a man, only boys. If the thing he did required a new shelf, there would be a new shelf. Since he doesn't need one it's easy for it to slip his mind. However, because the job isn't done when you want it done doesn't mean he never planned on doing it. So yes, you were nagging him. And no, he should not have gotten pi$$ed when you did it yourself. After 3WEEKS?? Then NG should have waited for 2months before she realised that these shelves are really needed,yet she could do it herself?? comeoooooon!! If Mr wanted to work on these shelves,the first week was the time(if not a few days after him volunteering for the job!!!) NG,am with you-you go girl! Thanks Newbie Chick. You got it that he volunteered to the job. I never asked him and was very willing to do it myself but he insisted that he do it. I had stuff sitting on the floor for two weeks waiting for that shelf. I also knew that if I went ahead to put up the shelf that there would be a fight which is what happened after week 3 as he got mad at me for doing it myself. |