Okay; let's try this one more time. I never asked him to hang the shelf as I was going to do it myself but he volunteered; even insisted that he would and should do it as I gave him a place to live. Second; I only asked him once after waiting for two weeks if he intended to hang the shelf; so that is not nagging; it is simply asking a question. If I bugged him constantly about when he was doing this; then that would be considered nagging. After week 3; I said nothing and did it myself.

I agree that it is all relative. I can't judge a man on his looks as I know what it feels like. Men don't date me because of my looks so I would be a hypocrite if I were to do the same thing.

Actually; no he wasn't working and no he wasn't contributing to the household funds. However even if he was; he still could help with household chores as he is living there and contributes to the mess of the house. I am not his maid and cook. Are you saying that if he is contributing to half the bills that he shouldn't help with household chores as well? Also, why did he volunteer to do a job if he had no intention of doing it? I waited three weeks; asked him once after waiting for two weeks(apparently that is nagging according to him) did it myself; then he got mad; started yelling at me and said he was going to do it and I shouldn't have done it. This made him feel useless as a man. I have read pages and pages on different threads of men on this site saying they want to be needed and there way of being needed is doing things for women. When a woman does things for herself; it hurts his ego and he feels less like a man. Its silly to me but that seems to be the way of the world.

Actually; no he wasn't working and no he wasn't contributing to the household funds. However even if he was; he still could help with household chores as he is living there and contributes to the mess of the house. I am not his maid and cook. Are you saying that if he is contributing to half the bills that he shouldn't help with household chores as well? Also, why did he volunteer to do a job if he had no intention of doing it? I waited three weeks; asked him once after waiting for two weeks(apparently that is nagging according to him) did it myself; then he got mad; started yelling at me and said he was going to do it and I shouldn't have done it. This made him feel useless as a man. I have read pages and pages of men on this site saying they want to be needed and there way of being needed is doing things for women. When a woman does things for herself; it hurts his ego and he feels less like a man. Its silly to me but that seems to be the way of the world.

Oh; I misunderstood compromise then. An example is the guy wants to eat at an Italian restaurant and I want to go to a Japanese restaurant. The compromise is we do take out orders from our favourite restaurants and that way we both get what we want and neither one of us has given in. Am I wrong in that thinking? Or we do Italian one night and Japanese another night. Isn't that too a compromise?

It does seem to be a vicious circle doesn't it. A man won't look at a woman that isn't pretty and thin; so she can't get to know the real you as you won't give her the time of day.

Oh my; that is even worse than being a werewolf.

In my case; the man was living with me and he volunteered to do some things around the house. I don't mind doing things myself but if a guy offers to do something; then shouldn't he keep his promise? Why should he sit in my house and do nothing while I do all the work and then expect sex as well. I believe in equality but not in being taken advantage of. Incidentally; when I do things for myself men whine that they feel useless, not needed, and less of a man because they can't do anything for me. Seems I am damned if I do and damned if I don't.

Yep; it is childish. I just stopped asking him to do anything and even when he volunteered to do something; I still just did it myself. It was way easier.

I don't rely on anyone to make my life complete as I am truly the only one that can do it. Money is a necessity as you need to eat and have shelter. Love for me is my friends and family that love and it doesn't cost me a cent. Can't say the same for relationships though.

I don't feel like 30 but some times I can act like it. Bottom line is I am 52 with a lot of energy but that doesn't make me feel like 30. I have some young friends too and for a short while I could keep up but eventually their fast life style would probably kill me. LOL I prefer someone who is active but also knows how to act his age.

I would bite all of our politicians.

Me; I double check that all my chores are done and that I have everything ready for work; then onto the computer to work on lesson plans for my teaching.

I have a deeper trust with friends whom I can put my life in their hands but they are few and very rare.

Same here about not snaking at midnight but instead of milk; I drink water.

Me too. My friends would say "why are you dating him as he is not good looking?" Although; I must admit these friends are considerably younger than I am so are still at the shallow stage.

When I go to sleep; all I can think about is sleep as I am damn exhausted. Don't want to think about the day or the next day as it will just keep me awake.

This is so true. An ex of mine volunteered to hang a shelf for me; after two weeks passed; I asked him when he would do it. He accused me of nagging because I asked once. Needless to say; I went and did it myself as I didn't appreciated being called a nag.

Women wear make up to cover their imperfect complexion as very few are born with a perfect complexion. So, I don't see why a man can't do the same.

Sorry; I couldn't resist.