Morning Holly

I am looking for some now

having problems finding ones that will post in the forums

Thursday's Quote of the Day

Hi T

hi T

The Wheel of Power and Control





POWER and CONTROL

Abusers believe they have a right to control their partners by:


• Telling them what to do and expecting obedience


• Using force to maintain power and control over partners


• Feeling their partners have no right to challenge their desire for power and control


• Feeling justified making the victim comply


• Blaming the abuse on the partner and not accepting responsibility for wrongful acts.

• The characteristics shown in the wheel are examples of how this power and control are demonstrated and enacted against the victim.


ISOLATION



• limiting outside involvement


• making another avoid people/friends/family by deliberately embarrassing or humiliating them in front of others


• expecting another to report every move and activity


• restricting use of the car


• moving residences




EMOTIONAL ABUSE



• putting another down/name-calling


• ignoring or discounting activities and accomplishments


• withholding approval or affection


• making another feel as if they are crazy in public or through private humiliation


• unreasonable jealousy and suspicion


• playing mind games

ECONOMIC ABUSE



• preventing another from getting or keeping a job


• withholding funds


• spending family income without consent and/or making the partner struggle to pay bills


• not letting someone know of or have access to family/personal income


• forcing someone to ask for basic necessities

INTIMIDATION



• driving recklessly to make another feel threatened or endangered


• destroying property or cherished possessions


• making another afraid by using looks/actions/gestures


• throwing objects as an expression of anger to make another feel threatened


• displaying weapons


USING CHILDREN or PETS



• threatening to take the children away


• making the partner feel guilty about the children


• abusing children or pets to punish the partner


• using the children to relay messages

USING PRIVILEGE



• treating another like a servant


• making all the big decisions


• being the one to define male and female roles


• acting like the master or queen of the castle

SEXUAL ABUSE



• sex on demand or sexual withholding


• physical assaults during sexual intercourse


• spousal rapes or non-consensual sex


• sexually degrading language


• denying reproductive freedom

THREATS



• threats of violence against significant third parties


• threats to commit physical or sexual harm


• threats to commit property destruction


• threats to commit suicide or murder

PHYSICAL ABUSE



• biting/scratching


• slapping/punching


• kicking/stomping


• throwing objects at another


• locking another in a closet or utilizing other confinement


• sleep interference and/or deliberately exhausting the partner with unreasonable demands and lack of rest


• deprivation of heat or food


• shoving another down steps or into objects


• assaults with weapons such as knives/guns/other objects

same to you my friend

To all my early bird / night owl friends

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Private Practice Episode 3:
"Right Here, Right Now"

Original Air Date: Oct 15, 2009

Episode Synopsis:
Miranda Bailey (Chandra Wilson) arrives with a kidney patient, and Addison isn't the only Oceanside doctor who's happy to see her; Addison begins to pay the price for her involvement with Noah; the identity of Violet's baby's father is revealed.

New episode tonight 8PM CDT on ABC!


New Episode: Invasion

It's Day 1 of the Seattle Grace-Mercy West merger, and residents react as though their jobs are on the line. They are, especially Izzie's. Meanwhile, Callie's father (Hector Elizondo) gets a priest to urge her to date men. Callie's enraged, and Arizona stands by her.

ABC, Thu, Oct 15 8:00 PM (7PM CDT)
Episode: Black Swan

Bryce believes a patient's flash-forward may be the key to a correct diagnosis and treatment, but Olivia isn't sure; Demetri and Mark argue over their reactions to their flash-forwards; Nicole returns to work as Charlie's babysitter and shares what she saw: a murder.

New episode tonight!
7PM CDT on ABC!

Great show be sure and check it out!