I like to think that going slowly in a relationship, at the same speed as trust is gained and granted, is a good idea.

For instance, it takes five years of forum membership for a guy to convince some woman that he is not an axe murderer.

Another ten years of texting will somehow make her think he hasn't got AIDS. "He would have died by now," figures the woman.

Give it another thirty yearts, and she will be sure he is not after her money.

Forty years after that, they go on their first coffee date, she makes love to him, he gives her Hepatitis B in exchange for all her jewellery and bank accounts, she signs her house deed over to him, which he gets out of her by saying that if she wants him to go at the love again, he needs some "perks", and the last thing that goes through her mind is the axe blade she keeps in her bedroom just in case a date gets "fresh" with her.