singmesweet
Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 25612 |
QUOTE: All I ever manage to get are screamers. Does this mean if they take it, they're likely to scream more, or louder? Or perhaps I'm doing this wrong? My perception alway was that it's the man's job to get her all hot and bothered, at least one orgasm out of the way, and then go about getting myself there? Or, does it take all the work out of it? If it does, I'm not sure I like that. I rather liked that part of it, then I could kinda guess when she would attack me. You're just trying to get her orgasm out of the way so you can get yours? Yikes! |
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singmesweet
Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 25612 |
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Online vs real life
QUOTE: QUOTE: Anyone feel like their online persona is completely different from their real one? Is there a difference when I'm online rather than in real life? Well, when I'm online, there is no danger of me being arrested ...err... Never mind. 
In person, do you pretend to be alf, too? 
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singmesweet
Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 25612 |
QUOTE: I was just trying to liven things up a bit with an interesting conversation. Still, I'd like to know just why there were "buttons" that the OP was able to push. Oh, don't play dumb, Dodo. You often try to get people to argue. That's all we were trying to point out, because it seemed like something you were doing in this thread. 
As for pushing buttons in the OP, I don't know that you really did. Most of us seem to think these issues aren't gender specific, so there's not really much to discuss in this thread. |
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singmesweet
Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 25612 |
QUOTE: QUOTE: QUOTE: QUOTE: QUOTE: Dodo likes to try to get others wound up here. Haha. and we fall for it like sheep to the trough lol People can't push your buttons if your buttons didn't exist in the first place.
At least you're admitting to trying to push people's buttons. Most didn't fall for these being women only issues, though.
No, I was NOT trying to push people's buttons. I saw an article pertaining to divorce, and I thought that the article would be an interesting topic to talk about. As I said earlier, (IMHO) nothing mentioned in the OP is a cause of divorce. Really? I thought you were trying to do that with this thread, then that comment seemed like you were admitting to it. Haha |
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singmesweet
Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 25612 |
QUOTE: QUOTE: QUOTE: Dodo likes to try to get others wound up here. Haha. and we fall for it like sheep to the trough lol People can't push your buttons if your buttons didn't exist in the first place.
At least you're admitting to trying to push people's buttons. Most didn't fall for these being women only issues, though.
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singmesweet
Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 25612 |
QUOTE: QUOTE: QUOTE: QUOTE: QUOTE: QUOTE: I realize you want to make this about women, but these are not mistakes that only women make. If they were mistakes that only women made, then maybe you could have separate topics, but really there is no need for separate topics. The same things would be repeated in both. Maybe the living seperate lives one but they do seem like the sorts of things that men complain that women do and women tend to complain that men do just the opposite and don't communicate, don't you think? Not really. Sure, there are some men who don't talk about problems, but there are also those who do. I can see men doing all of those things. Yeah and there are also men that like to wear high heals and makeup. ... Ok? What does that have to do with what we're talking about? Oh, come on. Nagging and trying to get their men to change are typical complaints that men make about women. So is having to talk about the relationship all the time. Ask the average woman what annoys her about men and I don't think she's going to produce a list like that. You don't think men try to get their women to change? And you believe men never talk to their friends about their relationships? I'm guessing you also think all women nag and try to change men, too. |
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singmesweet
Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 25612 |
QUOTE: QUOTE: QUOTE: QUOTE: I realize you want to make this about women, but these are not mistakes that only women make. If they were mistakes that only women made, then maybe you could have separate topics, but really there is no need for separate topics. The same things would be repeated in both. Maybe the living seperate lives one but they do seem like the sorts of things that men complain that women do and women tend to complain that men do just the opposite and don't communicate, don't you think? Not really. Sure, there are some men who don't talk about problems, but there are also those who do. I can see men doing all of those things. Yeah and there are also men that like to wear high heals and makeup. ... Ok? What does that have to do with what we're talking about? |
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singmesweet
Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 25612 |
QUOTE: QUOTE: I think divorce is a two way street. That list just could have easily been written about men. I agree dodo is just a wind up...lol Dodo likes to try to get others wound up here. Haha. |
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singmesweet
Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 25612 |
QUOTE: QUOTE: QUOTE: So, do you agree that wives are making a mistake if they do the six things cited in the author's article? I think maybe people are making mistakes when they do 3, 4 or 5. There's no point in being married if you're going to live totally parallel lives, expecting someone to change doesn't work and being negative all the time is not a good thing. What about the author's point #2? Here is what she says: QUOTE: 2. You think that talking about these problems with your husband is the answer. All too often, women think that talking to our husbands is the way to make them see how their behavior affects us. If the behavior doesn't change when we first bring it up, we want to talk more, longer, or louder because we think maybe they didn't get it the first time.
If I thought talking about problems was a problem, I would have said so. I think not talking about problems is a problem. |
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singmesweet
Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 25612 |
Topic:
A pre-date bombshell
QUOTE: I don't think this is about insecurity. It is more like "a house divided will soon fall." I have always viewed a bisexual as divided or conflicted, never really knowing what she wants (a man or woman). I'd hate to be in that predicament. There are straight people who never know what they want. I don't think that's just a bi thing. And it absolutely sounds like insecurities on your part. |
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singmesweet
Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 25612 |
QUOTE: QUOTE: QUOTE: QUOTE: I realize you want to make this about women, but these are not mistakes that only women make. If they were mistakes that only women made, then maybe you could have separate topics, but really there is no need for separate topics. The same things would be repeated in both. The topic of this thread is an article written about mistakes that wives make (and yes, the author of the article is a woman). Trying to shift attention to husbands doesn't refute anything that the author says in her article. I didn't say women didn't make mistakes. I said these weren't things that only women did. So, do you agree that wives are making a mistake if they do the six things cited in the author's article? I think maybe people are making mistakes when they do 3, 4 or 5. There's no point in being married if you're going to live totally parallel lives, expecting someone to change doesn't work and being negative all the time is not a good thing. |
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singmesweet
Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 25612 |
QUOTE: QUOTE: I realize you want to make this about women, but these are not mistakes that only women make. If they were mistakes that only women made, then maybe you could have separate topics, but really there is no need for separate topics. The same things would be repeated in both. The topic of this thread is an article written about mistakes that wives make (and yes, the author of the article is a woman). Trying to shift attention to husbands doesn't refute anything that the author says in her article. I didn't say women didn't make mistakes. I said these weren't things that only women did. |
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singmesweet
Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 25612 |
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A pre-date bombshell
QUOTE: Within the past couple of months, I have been in steady online and phone communication with two ladies, who I felt I was very compatible with. One lived close to me, the other pretty far away. I connected with each on many different levels. Then, out of the blue, each of them admitted to me that they were bisexuals. I just about hit the floor. Nothing was mentioned in either profile, and there was nothing that ever came up in conversation that would suggest that they were anything but straight. I have nothing against gays, lesbians, or bisexuals, but being straight, I have little understanding of their circumstances. Needless to say, I was shocked and disappointed. I had developed feelings for both of them, but, being that I'm looking for LTR or marriage, I don't think it would work out. I would always feel that I would be involved with only half the other person, and that there would always be an uneasy feeling that she would someday decide she would rather be with a woman. I have since remained on friendly terms with both of them. Has anybody ever run into this kind of situation? Please be civil in your responses, and stay serious. Thank you. I've never been in this situation, but I don't see why it would be a big deal. You seem to think there's more of a chance they'll leave you for another woman than a man. Seems to me that you're just letting insecurities shine through and are using them being bi as an excuse for those insecurities. |
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singmesweet
Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 25612 |
QUOTE: QUOTE: I realize you want to make this about women, but these are not mistakes that only women make. If they were mistakes that only women made, then maybe you could have separate topics, but really there is no need for separate topics. The same things would be repeated in both. Maybe the living seperate lives one but they do seem like the sorts of things that men complain that women do and women tend to complain that men do just the opposite and don't communicate, don't you think? Not really. Sure, there are some men who don't talk about problems, but there are also those who do. I can see men doing all of those things. |
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singmesweet
Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 25612 |
Travel wherever I want.
Pay off mine and my family's bills. House on the beach. Donate to animal charities. Yes, I realize that's four things. |
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singmesweet
Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 25612 |
I realize you want to make this about women, but these are not mistakes that only women make. If they were mistakes that only women made, then maybe you could have separate topics, but really there is no need for separate topics. The same things would be repeated in both.
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singmesweet
Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 25612 |
Topic:
Online vs real life
QUOTE: QUOTE: QUOTE: QUOTE: am the same offline as on.i don't change for anything.no place for fakery and ****ery in life.always be yourself no matter what or where Well good, I think it's hard to be the same person, see someone who is very serious irl and never smiles could be a guy in the forums here making everyone laugh etc it allows you to be what you can't be irl. But yeah I do agree 'fakery' is bad What's the point of being serious off line, but completely different online? I don't know maybe someone has to be serious offline in front of people like if they're a boss of a company whereas online they can let themselves relax I can't imagine having to be serious all the time in person and only being able to relax here. I just don't relate to that.
Edited by singmesweet on Thu 05/30/13 09:50 AM
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singmesweet
Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 25612 |
Topic:
Online vs real life
QUOTE: QUOTE: am the same offline as on.i don't change for anything.no place for fakery and ****ery in life.always be yourself no matter what or where Well good, I think it's hard to be the same person, see someone who is very serious irl and never smiles could be a guy in the forums here making everyone laugh etc it allows you to be what you can't be irl. But yeah I do agree 'fakery' is bad What's the point of being serious off line, but completely different online? |
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singmesweet
Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 25612 |
Topic:
Online vs real life
QUOTE: Anyone feel like their online persona is completely different from their real one? I'm sure you do, as I do. But what about dating sites, are you different on Mingle2? if so, do you think it is a good thing? No, I feel the same. There's no point in acting differently online and in person. If you did act differently, you'd be leading people on, as they'd expect the same in person. |
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singmesweet
Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 25612 |
Topic:
Just got back...
QUOTE: 
"And you could have come here! Four golf courses within a 20 minute drive, and FREE at the Casino one where krupa works. And you can vacuum all you want." ~Soufie "I'll pay yer gas and cook dinner..... and even leave the dishes for ya" ~Z "Also, if my guest cleaned my house while I was away, I would be thankful, and express that" ~Luv2 AKA Kitten "Hey now you can come clean my house anytime and plenty of yard work too ...I would even treat ya to a steak dinner and leave ya the dishes so you want feel unwelcome" -TxsGal I think I figured it out Men... Chances are If you vacuum, You'll get, free golf, Gas, 2 dinners and probably an awesome friggin time with awesome ladies who would surely appeciate you for it!  
Damn. Some women must really hate vacuuming!
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