Most bad things are people, in my experience.

Love is only blind if you treat it that way. You have to use your head in all things, not just operate from pure emotion. To make a statement that you keep getting hurt because you "go all in and love so much it hurts and you have a big heart" is only setting yourself up for failure.

Yes, I do think it's stupid to keep making the same mistake over and over again, because you're supposed to learn from the past not repeat it. Have I made mistakes in my life? Hell yeah. Have I learned from them and made a conscious effort to not repeat the same unhealthy behavior over and over again? Hell yeah. Do I feel sorry for anyone who takes pride in giving themselves completely to another person at the expense of their own health and happiness to the point that it makes them ill and sad and bitter with the rest of the world? Hell no.

The main thing that separates humans from animals is our ability to think and reason. We choose to do what we do, we don't operate from pure instinct. We have the ability to think and reason and weigh the pros and cons of a bad choice over a good one. And we have to be willing to suffer the consequences for our actions and not be so quick to blame the other person for mistakes that we keep consciously making.

I hold to what I said; we make our own choices. We choose to trust. We choose to stay in abusive relationships. We choose to consciously make the same mistakes over and over again. You might not be in control of who you fall in love with, but you're damn sure in control of who you allow to use and abuse you and I will not take that back. It's not my intention to insult or belittle anyone, I call things as I see them, sometimes the truth hurts, that's life. We deal and move on. And hopefully we learn.

I don't date foreigners; I have a hard enough time getting along with men from my own country, what the hell would I do with a guy from a whole other land???

That could be fun, too.

Good and bad are relative terms, what's bad to me is good to someone else and vice versa. You have people who are involved in what the outside world would consider a really ****ed up relationship, but if it makes both of them happy, it's not bad. And then you have people involved in what appears to be a normal, healthy relationship (like the one my parents had) and no one is happy, so it's bad. Most things are up to interpretation and perception.

And they're usually super hot, too, don't forget that....

No conjugal visits in the psych ward....

True...

Most of the ones I've dated have been committed....

Welcome and good luck to you.

How sweet.

This.

And most of the time, once you get to know them, you realize you don't want to date them anyway.

Trust is something that is earned, not something I give immediately and freely. I never put all my trust in anyone and I don't feel sorry for anyone who does and gets burned in the end. It takes time to get to know people, I've known some people for years and they still have a way of surprising me and not in a good way. Whatever works for you is your business, but it's still your fault if you keep getting hurt from making the same naive mistakes.

One of my classmates proposed to her boyfriend. It's not something I'd ever do, because I think that's the guy's role, but to each his/her own.

Yes.

Aww, kitty.

Lamp is hot.

And Doritos.

And kitty cats. So sweet. Especially the orange ones.

Sending positive thoughts to your mom, Izzy.

I just read the updates, so I'm glad she's doing well.