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Thu 05/12/16 06:11 PM
Ok....
We get so many newbie’s posting on this topic...
I have a little experience on the topic...
So here is my take on the subject...

You meet on the net, a chat room, a dating site or when you visit another city or country....
Whether that first meeting is on the net or not, you have obviously “clicked” and both of you have discovered you have something in common...and you want to take it further...

Meeting on net presents itself with its own special set of challenges...you have to lay the foundations of a relationship whilst apart...this in its self is quite the challenge but can be achieved if you share some deep commonalities...

Meeting while you are on holidays or visiting another city is the best way to start an LDR...you have already met...and started bonding...those foundation building blocks have been started...

Now for the hard work...maintenance...
Every day you must phone, text, viber, skype, whatsapp....whatever....everyday communication is key...
This requires constant maintenance...both of you have to make it fun...storytelling...joke nights...date nights...Skype sleeping...cyber sex...

As you get closer and your feelings grow you need to formulate a plan...with short term goals that lead to the end goal...being together full time....
The first goal is that scary first visit...this first visit must happen quite soon in your new relationship...firstly to see if the other person is “a” real and “b” if both of your feelings are true...

Providing that first visit is successful one or both of you must make multiple repeat visits...this is vital in the bonding process...
You also need a time frame on when you envisage your end plan to be...this plan can’t be for years away...your plan needs to have an end date...your LDR needs to become a SDR sooner rather than later...
Obviously one of you is going to have to move...are you prepared for that?...

I believe LDRs can work, but it is certainly not for everyone and it’s not a relationship to be taken lightly.....it will take time, caring and nurturing....and money....haha

LDR couples that make it work, will all have something special that bonds them together...
This strength will prove to be what keeps them together, thru the tough times...
The times when one of you is sick...or distressed...or after an argument...

Be prepared for a hard slog....
But if it is meant to be...
It a wonderful thing...

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Thu 05/12/16 06:02 PM
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Thu 05/12/16 05:48 PM
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Thu 05/12/16 05:46 PM

There is no way the Australian accent is sexier than the kiwi accent .. Peggy you just made me laugh :-)

Hi bunny girl .. Welcome home :-)



Crikey...it is when its a mixture...auswi....laugh

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Thu 05/12/16 05:45 PM
758....lost ur count again ehhhh

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Thu 05/12/16 05:41 PM
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Thu 05/12/16 05:41 PM
Red Hot Chilli Peppers - Greatest Hits 5.1 DTS mix....

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Thu 05/12/16 05:33 PM
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Thu 05/12/16 05:32 PM
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Thu 05/12/16 05:31 PM
^^^ ahhh yeah...Gidday...happy

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Thu 05/12/16 05:30 PM
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Thu 05/12/16 05:29 PM
I'm joining SDs nobody club...ohwell

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Thu 05/12/16 05:28 PM
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Thu 05/12/16 05:25 PM
Edited by mikey5360 on Thu 05/12/16 05:25 PM
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Thu 05/12/16 05:16 PM
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Thu 05/12/16 04:52 PM
766...you cant help it Annie no need to apologize....laugh laugh laugh

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Thu 05/12/16 04:42 PM
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Thu 05/12/16 04:31 PM
Nice post....and a great attitude that will go a long way here...drinker

Too many newbies complain about the very same things, but if you are open to any possibilities...even just chatting...never know what might eventuate...

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Thu 05/12/16 04:28 PM
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