I don't think I would just pack up and leave, I would call the
prosecuting attorneys office and check what the law is in your
state~~each state is different. Does your husband live in your state? He
doesn't see the child at all? Does he help support your daughter?
I think if you wanted to move back to NY I would be checking out all of
this before you get your divorce, I know here in Indiana you are not
allowed to move more then 100 miles within the state. You need to make
up your mind and follow through rather quickly before everything goes
through. But, do it legally!!
I wish you and your daughter the best of luck

Have fun SurryBirdMan~~welcome to JSH

I must admit, there are some pretty nasty topics on here! I myself don't
see anything wrong with this post!! People do talk about some naughty
things and no one else gripes about that??

I agree with Kojack...once you give the control to your mate, you are
pretty much in trouble! I think it should be a 50/50 relationship or its
not going to work very well! Sooner or later, the one who is being
controlled will get tired of it.

Hey Morena, can I go to the workouts with you? I need a trainer also!! I
think thats what I need to do is just tone up, I think I am done losing
the weight now its just toning up...ugggg

I do believe that it works both ways! Nice girls also finish last!!
Don't you think that maybe you are just with the wrong one? I hate to
say that all men don't want a nice girl~~I just want to say the man that
I had didn't respect what I did for him! I think thats better then
comparing him to all men?

So I think not only "nice guys" finish last but "nice girls" also finish
last

I use to live really close to there~~now I am in Indiana
You should be in a big town?? Look how people meet someone and they end
up packing up and moving~~good luck!!

Yep I am still on my diet!! It seems like I am always on a diet~~ick!!!
Now that summer is coming it won't be so bad, I can hopefully walk some
and maybe that will help a bit. Plus I love watermelon

See thats why I don't let is go past 2-3 pounds because its so easy to
let it go! I know summer is coming so hopefully I can get out and walk a
bit, then maybe I won't be so worried all the time. I am sure that you
will lose it back buttons, its just so easy to gain and its an every day
struggle to keep it off!!

Oh I think if its leading toward a split...they are probably trying to
hit on you!! Thats why I won't be friends with a married man unless I am
friends with his wife...and then I would never meet with him unless she
was there! I think its just to dangerous for me!!

OK I have a question~~~does anyone else feel pressured about staying in
the same size of clothes? If you feel your clothes get tighter, do you
instantly go on a diet?
I lost 125 lbs and now if I even gain 2-3 lbs and feel my clothes
getting tighter, I feel all kinds of panic to get back on my diet and
get this weight off! I don't know if its because I have been heavy all
of my life and I have finally lost most of my weight~~~I have kept it
off for about 3 years now but its a struggle every single day.
Just wanted to know if anyone else panics???

I do believe in spanking a child as long as you do it right! I have 2
boys and trust me, they were no angels! I told them the rules and if
they didn't follow then I would try to take things away, when that
didn't work, I would spank their butts. Worked every single time, but
now a days you have to be careful because so many reports of child
abuse.
The terrible 3's will get better until they turn about 15 then trust me,
it keeps going down hill!! Good luck!!

Great post!!

UMMM is this over the well-endowed thing?

So Fedman...you think that if a person cheats once that they it might
just be a one time thing? HMMM I really don't know about that...don't
you think it would be really hard to trust someone that even cheated
once?

thanks tretia...thinks are fine!!
So very true Gardenforge--I was thinking that but just didn't say it.
You really don't know what he is going to bring you back.

Just know that its not easy to get over someone but we all have to do it
sometime! What I do is get my friends together and we all go out,
doesn't have to be in a bar, maybe just out for dinner or to a good
movie.
He can't respect you to much because he is cheating on you, so don't
even give him the time of day. You are to good and can do so much
better! There are so many single men out there, why waste your time on a
cheater? Once a cheater always a cheater! Find a man that would be happy
to be with you and that will treat you the way you deserve to be
treated.
It might be a rough road to forget him, but well worth it once you are
over him!! Good luck and I am sure that if you give it time that you
will be happy that you walked away from the situation!!

Leaf...I do not see any pity in your writings and I do not think you are
weak..I do think that you got into a situation that you can very easily
figure out! Obviously you are being honest with both of these guys, so I
do not see what the big deal is! The only bad thing is...you are now in
doubt of who you like! I do believe that the country boy is not ready
for any kind of a commitment~~he is just getting out of one. Maybe the
city boy just doesn't know how to communicate that well because he
hasn't really experience a relationship that has been that great!
Have you met these guys? You said something about the country boy shows
how he cares about your daughter? If you have met them, has he been
around your daughter? Its really hard when the children are
involved~~but its also hard not to involve the children when its been
going on a year.
I wish you luck on figuring this out, the heart makes you do crazy
things! I am sure that you will find and do whats best for you

Congrats Shagna!! I believe that if you take things very slow its much
better, then that way you won't be wondering this very important
question: Am I staying because sex was good or am I staying because I
really like him? I am telling you sex boggles your mind at times!!
How many times have you wanted to break up with someone but you couldn't
because you wasn't sure how you felt? If you would have just waited a
little bit longer on the sex part then maybe you would not have been so
confused!! This is why I have a waiting period~~I know some of my
friends think its crazy, but I think it saves me a lot of hassle!!
So if a guy don't want to wait and only date me and have no sexual
relationship...then oh well, move on, I don't mind!! So good luck and
happy huntin~~go slow

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