Topic: Feelings vs. Decision
Nursenell76's photo
Wed 07/30/08 01:18 AM
Feelings are not a choice, but love is! Real love, unconditional love, is not feelings-driven. The divorce rate is as high as it is because people go by their feelings instead of decisions to be unselfish. Real love and commitment are decision-driven.

What are your thoughts on this??????

I feel that this statement is the most accurate in describing love. Everyday you make decisions in your relationship with others. Some for better, some for the worse. We choose to cheat on our spouses, etc... maybe if we choose to stay commited and maintain that unconditional love things would be better and our lives richer.

sweetandstrong's photo
Wed 07/30/08 01:46 AM
I agree. Relationships take commitment and work. Either people have forgotten this or never learned it.

davidben1's photo
Wed 07/30/08 02:10 AM
the fear of following the true WANT of the heart, lead to many disators later........

the truth of any one destiny only lay in the want of the heart, that does not try to manipulate others to create it's own picture of happiness, then all happiness abound........

no friendship or love can ever be real without the encouragement of all the wants of another.........

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Wed 07/30/08 02:12 AM

the fear of following the true WANT of the heart, lead to many disators later........

the truth of any one destiny only lay in the want of the heart, that does not try to manipulate others to create it's own picture of happiness, then all happiness abound........

no friendship or love can ever be real without the encouragement of all the wants of another.........
Ok.........the fear of following the true want???? what does that mean????huh

davidben1's photo
Wed 07/30/08 02:15 AM
many relationships have been forsaken because they were not meant to be, for now or for long, as who run away from unconditional love from anyone, as if unconditional love was had, who would not be sent away with love if their was not desire.......

free something, if it return, then it wishes to stay......



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Wed 07/30/08 02:18 AM

many relationships have been forsaken because they were not meant to be, for now or for long, as who run away from unconditional love from anyone, as if unconditional love was had, who would not be sent away with love if their was not desire.......

free something, if it return, then it wishes to stay......



Kung fu!!! The legend continues!!! What book are you reading from?huh

Nursenell76's photo
Wed 07/30/08 02:19 AM


many relationships have been forsaken because they were not meant to be, for now or for long, as who run away from unconditional love from anyone, as if unconditional love was had, who would not be sent away with love if their was not desire.......

free something, if it return, then it wishes to stay......



Kung fu!!! The legend continues!!! What book are you reading from?huh



ROFLMFAO I think Yoda has spoken.

Nursenell76's photo
Wed 07/30/08 02:20 AM
Confuscious say "Women who spring on box spring this spring have offspring next spring."

davidben1's photo
Wed 07/30/08 02:25 AM


the fear of following the true WANT of the heart, lead to many disators later........

the truth of any one destiny only lay in the want of the heart, that does not try to manipulate others to create it's own picture of happiness, then all happiness abound........

no friendship or love can ever be real without the encouragement of all the wants of another.........
Ok.........the fear of following the true want???? what does that mean????huh


following what one MOST want, not following ideas......

ideas are not want........

want is desire, then ideas come and paint possible pros and cons......

accept all the pros and cons the mind say as already happening, and then true want is known.......

follow that one even if the mind says your missing out.......



davidben1's photo
Wed 07/30/08 02:27 AM
no books, it's my warped twisted mind that speaks, lol.........


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Wed 07/30/08 02:30 AM
So the fear of following your true want can be why some people are afraid of committment?

somewhat like the fear of being successful???huh

davidben1's photo
Wed 07/30/08 02:30 AM

Confuscious say "Women who spring on box spring this spring have offspring next spring."


women that have offspring this spring have no spring left by summer.........

Nursenell76's photo
Wed 07/30/08 02:32 AM

no books, it's my warped twisted mind that speaks, lol.........




Haha I like the way you talk. LOL I think I went crosseyed trying to decipher all of it.

davidben1's photo
Wed 07/30/08 02:37 AM

So the fear of following your true want can be why some people are afraid of committment?

somewhat like the fear of being successful???huh


if one does not listen to their fears as equal perfect input, how can successful decisions ever be made.....

if fear is feared, it can never be utilized as one of the greatest wisdoms ignored.........

not one decision ever made that was regretted fear did not warn.........

fear also block many doors, so the only way to make a whole logical decision is to accept all potential pitfalls the mind says, and then if "want" is still there, then gooooooooo.

no wisdom ignore ANY input of the mind.........



no photo
Wed 07/30/08 02:43 AM
ohhhhhhhhhhhh grande master!!! hahaaaaaaaaaaaa

some of which you say is almost confuscious!!bigsmile drinker

no photo
Wed 07/30/08 02:44 AM
fear also block many doors, so the only way to make a whole logical decision is to accept all potential pitfalls the mind says, and then if "want" is still there, then gooooooooo.

I concur Dr.Livingston!!:wink:

davidben1's photo
Wed 07/30/08 02:45 AM


no books, it's my warped twisted mind that speaks, lol.........




Haha I like the way you talk. LOL I think I went crosseyed trying to decipher all of it.


lol........i like everything........

it is not easy to put into words what point back to each being itself, never allowing the mind to give words, that mislead others into ones own past pitfalls and opinions, but rather whole logic lie in each and is equal, so giving this be the only WHOLE TRUTH that exist............ditto's

davidben1's photo
Wed 07/30/08 02:48 AM

fear also block many doors, so the only way to make a whole logical decision is to accept all potential pitfalls the mind says, and then if "want" is still there, then gooooooooo.

I concur Dr.Livingston!!:wink:


ms livingston is almost confusciousing to my confusion......laugh