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Topic: Maybe someone here can explain
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Mon 08/18/08 05:47 PM
Now why is it: he gets mad when i don't call him regularly but yet he hardly ever picks up the phone; he doesn't want to go hang out, but gets upset if i do and don't let him know; he always assumes that I'm dating someone if I go out...

We're only friends and have been for 11 years; he states he has no interest in me on a level moreso than friendship; i have no interest in him moreso than friendship; but yet he gives me the 3rd degree...

I just don't get it...



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Mon 08/18/08 05:47 PM
he has some serious issues.

sara89's photo
Mon 08/18/08 05:48 PM

he has some serious issues.

agreed

MirrorMirror's photo
Mon 08/18/08 05:49 PM
:smile: He's a little too attached to you or maybe just cares a little too much.:smile:

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Mon 08/18/08 05:50 PM
he wants you
really not being honest with you or himself

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Mon 08/18/08 05:52 PM
Ask him.

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Mon 08/18/08 05:52 PM
Edited by Lord_Psycho on Mon 08/18/08 05:53 PM
well if he is not pickin up a phone thats stupid! he like u alot n gets pissed off u go out with other friends! n if ur friends with him n he knows it well talk to him and explain to him and compromise a solution which other can turn into tellin him. Are u that into me or are u jealous? or wats up with ya?

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Mon 08/18/08 05:56 PM

:smile: He's a little too attached to you or maybe just cares a little too much.:smile:


I don't know.. but we have always been friends only

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Mon 08/18/08 05:57 PM

Ask him.


I have asked him but he just tells me that he doesn't have "relationship" feelings for me then get all angry thinking that i want more than friendship

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Mon 08/18/08 05:57 PM


:smile: He's a little too attached to you or maybe just cares a little too much.:smile:


I don't know.. but we have always been friends only

flowerforyou Maybe he just cares about you (as a friend)flowerforyou

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Mon 08/18/08 05:58 PM

well if he is not pickin up a phone thats stupid! he like u alot n gets pissed off u go out with other friends! n if ur friends with him n he knows it well talk to him and explain to him and compromise a solution which other can turn into tellin him. Are u that into me or are u jealous? or wats up with ya?


He may call me once or so every few weeks but if i don't call him every other day or so he thinks that i'm in a serious relationship or don't want to have anything to do with him...

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Mon 08/18/08 05:59 PM


he has some serious issues.

agreed


me too

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Mon 08/18/08 05:59 PM



:smile: He's a little too attached to you or maybe just cares a little too much.:smile:


I don't know.. but we have always been friends only

flowerforyou Maybe he just cares about you (as a friend)flowerforyou


That i know he does but dang... why does he get so offensive if i don't let him know i'm going out or whatnot...

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Mon 08/18/08 06:00 PM
some guys are just unexplainable...

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Mon 08/18/08 06:03 PM
Does not sound like just a friend to me. huh

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Mon 08/18/08 06:05 PM

Does not sound like just a friend to me. huh


He and i haven't been anything more than friends, but if he does have feelings moreso than friends he doesn't show it or say it...just gets upset with me

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Mon 08/18/08 06:07 PM
Lay down the law to him. Sounds like he thinks he owns you which he does not! Also sounds like only his feelings matter, yours do not! Another no-no on his part! A very controlling type of person. You are the one who has to tell him like it will be since he only wants to think what he thinks is how it will be.

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Mon 08/18/08 06:09 PM

Lay down the law to him. Sounds like he thinks he owns you which he does not! Also sounds like only his feelings matter, yours do not! Another no-no on his part! A very controlling type of person. You are the one who has to tell him like it will be since he only wants to think what he thinks is how it will be.


we've had many conversations on this topic, he just gets upset and doesn't talk to me for a couple of days.. he started this crap about 2 months ago... it's not always been like this, that's one thing that has got me ALL confused.

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Mon 08/18/08 06:12 PM




:smile: He's a little too attached to you or maybe just cares a little too much.:smile:


I don't know.. but we have always been friends only

flowerforyou Maybe he just cares about you (as a friend)flowerforyou


That i know he does but dang... why does he get so offensive if i don't let him know i'm going out or whatnot...
:smile: Sounds kinda brotherlyflowerforyou

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Mon 08/18/08 06:14 PM
Edited by DestinysDream on Mon 08/18/08 06:14 PM


Ask him.


I have asked him but he just tells me that he doesn't have "relationship" feelings for me then get all angry thinking that i want more than friendship



Next time he does it tell him he is doing it again and to knock it off. If someone says something I find troubling I tell them off the bat. Things that fester don't tend to go away.

You:"That bothers me when you say _____________ please don't do that."
They: "Why does that bother you?" or "You are acting that way because _________"
You: "That's the way I feel, I don't like it so please don't."
If they do it again go through it again but usually it's never needed.

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