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Topic: how long?
tessa68's photo
Sun 03/08/09 10:45 PM
how long it will take to forgive and forget?

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Sun 03/08/09 10:46 PM
Depends with me. Either in a matter of hours, or days. Sometimes, there IS no forgiveness or forgetting.

wannacuddlewthme's photo
Sun 03/08/09 10:47 PM
Forgive 10 minutes
Forget.......Never

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Sun 03/08/09 10:52 PM
Forgive easily but forget is hard to doflowerforyou

Puffins1958's photo
Sun 03/08/09 10:53 PM
Sometimes...it just never happens.

Peccy's photo
Sun 03/08/09 11:04 PM
Never do

citygurl's photo
Sun 03/08/09 11:10 PM
Depends on who it is and what they did..

74Drew's photo
Sun 03/08/09 11:11 PM

how long it will take to forgive and forget?


i don't forgive unless the wrongdoing was accidental. and i don't forget.

at this stage of life we're adults and should no better than to hurt others. people need to be held accountable for their actions.

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Sun 03/08/09 11:14 PM
We must forgive to go on, but we don't have to forget.
If we don't forgive then we don't grow as we should

74Drew's photo
Sun 03/08/09 11:15 PM
some people don't deserve forgiveness.

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Sun 03/08/09 11:19 PM
Just cuz they dont deserve it, doesn't mean you don't deserve to move on. And in order for you to go forward, you must forgive. You don't have to talk to them, trust them or anything else, but for your own mind, heart, and soul, forgive them.

tessa68's photo
Sun 03/08/09 11:24 PM

some people don't deserve forgiveness.
huh huh huh but God can forgive,why human can't?

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Sun 03/08/09 11:32 PM
It can take many years to forgive someone.

74Drew's photo
Sun 03/08/09 11:34 PM

Just cuz they dont deserve it, doesn't mean you don't deserve to move on. And in order for you to go forward, you must forgive. You don't have to talk to them, trust them or anything else, but for your own mind, heart, and soul, forgive them.


when a person is deliberately hurtful then they deserve and get no forgiveness from me. it has nothing to do with my moving on. as far as i'm concerned, that person has no place in my life. but i will not forgive that person just so that they can sleep better at night. they have done wrong and they need to be punished for their actions.

in my opinion


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Sun 03/08/09 11:36 PM
I think that by holding on to all that hate only hurts yourself....flowerforyou

Peccy's photo
Sun 03/08/09 11:43 PM

I think that by holding on to all that hate only hurts yourself....flowerforyou
I don't hold it, I just ignore people...lol

tessa68's photo
Sun 03/08/09 11:44 PM

Just cuz they dont deserve it, doesn't mean you don't deserve to move on. And in order for you to go forward, you must forgive. You don't have to talk to them, trust them or anything else, but for your own mind, heart, and soul, forgive them.

Forgive And Forget?A time in life that caused you pain….Seems the heartache will forever remain.You try so hard to forgive and forget….
Though not capable of letting go yet.As time goes past you start to forgive….But how can you forget as long as you live.What if you could forget when you had pain….Some of the good memories may not remain.When you forgive it is tremendous relief….That when you recall it causes you no grief.You may not forget as long as you live….
Though you’ll be at peace when you do forgive

MirrorMirror's photo
Sun 03/08/09 11:46 PM

how long it will take to forgive and forget?


flowerforyou I am ashamed of myself holding grudges in the pastflowerforyou

Citizen_Joe's photo
Mon 03/09/09 03:49 AM

how long it will take to forgive and forget?


Forgetting is optional. Forgiving is for you, not for him. Bitterness is a hell of a way to live.

74Drew's photo
Mon 03/09/09 06:15 AM
Edited by 74Drew on Mon 03/09/09 06:20 AM


how long it will take to forgive and forget?


Forgetting is optional. Forgiving is for you, not for him. Bitterness is a hell of a way to live.


i believe the apology is for you and the forgiving for them. if you don't accept their apology then you don't absolve them of their wrongdoing. most people don't apologize because of any sense of remorse, they apologize to try to alleviate tension or ill-will. if someone is truly remorseful about something they've done and i feel that they have learned from their mistake, then i may forgive them. but it is my option whether or not to pardon them for their malfeasance.
if i am wronged then it is up to me to decide what must be done for the wrong to be righted. i decide the penance. i decide when the debt is paid.


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