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Edited by
therapy30
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Mon 04/06/09 12:09 PM
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Than Just You.....
I know it may not always be the case where a relationship falls apart because we were looking out for ourselves, but it usually plays a big part doesn’t it? |
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yes...
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-I need to get more work done
-I’m too busy -I’m too tired -I can’t talk right now -I won’t be able to make it for dinner  |
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yes... hi sweetie
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yes... hi sweetie Hi 
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Than Just You..... I know it may not always be the case where a relationship falls apart because we were looking out for ourselves, but it usually plays a big part doesn’t it?  I agree
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yes partly,but if we don't look out for ourselves who else will?
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Edited by
therapy30
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Mon 04/06/09 12:30 PM
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yes partly,but if we don't look out for ourselves who else will? Sure, we don’t plan for it to be that way, but all to often our relationships tend to become less and less of a priority as we become more and more concerned with our own needs |
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Than Just You..... I know it may not always be the case where a relationship falls apart because we were looking out for ourselves, but it usually plays a big part doesn’t it? I agree 
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Edited by
MelodyGirl
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Mon 04/06/09 01:12 PM
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-I need to get more work done -I’m too busy -I’m too tired -I can’t talk right now -I won’t be able to make it for dinner Why can't the other person make dinner? Where is the partnership? If someone feels overwhelmed, maybe their partner is being selfish and not tending to the relationship? At some point, the inundated person will close up and stop contributing too. I'm not saying this is always the case or the only reason for failure -- but it's one concept to explore. Communication can resolve most problems. If one person is very selfish then its possible they don't belong in a relationship, and it would be up to their partner to exercise their right to call off the romance. Some people say a relationship is 50/50. I disagree. I think relationships are 100/100. I don't give only half of myself to my partner; I give 100% to my partner.  I have zero tolerance for such games/issues. If the relationship is not a partnership -- helping each other -- then I won't bother. |
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-I need to get more work done -I’m too busy -I’m too tired -I can’t talk right now -I won’t be able to make it for dinner Why can't the other person make dinner? Where is the partnership? If someone feels overwhelmed, maybe their partner is being selfish and not tending to the relationship? At some point, the inundated person will close up and stop contributing too. I'm not saying this is always the case or the only reason for failure -- but it's one concept to explore. Communication can resolve most problems. If one person is very selfish then its possible they don't belong in a relationship, and it would be up to their partner to exercise their right to call off the romance. Some people say a relationship is 50/50. I disagree. I think relationships are 100/100. I don't give only half of myself to my partner; I give 100% to my partner. I have zero tolerance for such games/issues. If the relationship is not a partnership -- helping each other -- then I won't bother. I agree with you. I was giving some examples on what some people say when they are not contributing enough time in a relationship 
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Of course, it is about more than just you. It takes two to carry on an conversation, a relationship, an argument, a marriage and a friendship. They are all about more than one person. It takes a bit of selflessness, not selfishness, in order to make it work.
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Of course, it is about more than just you. It takes two to carry on an conversation, a relationship, an argument, a marriage and a friendship. They are all about more than one person. It takes a bit of selflessness, not selfishness, in order to make it work. exactly and once in a relation, both should maintin it. |
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Clearly! Relationship is either WITH someone else or with yourself...
Choose! |
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Edited by
Jess642
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Wed 04/08/09 09:32 PM
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Hmmmmmmmmmm.........any relationship is about more than just you....parenting, friendship, neighbours, humans, etc...
I still cannot fathom why people 'box' their relationships, and why there are so many rules, and sub clauses, with romantic relationships. The best advice I ever heard with having a healthy successful romantic relationship, was.. "Tolerate EVERYTHING, you expect to have tolerated. Your romantic partner is the same as your closest girlfriend, just clothed in a different gender." |
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Than Just You..... I know it may not always be the case where a relationship falls apart because we were looking out for ourselves, but it usually plays a big part doesn’t it? |
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I can't tolerate everything. I did that once. You end up in jail, alone, and broke. Because of someone else? No thanks.
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I can't tolerate everything. I did that once. You end up in jail, alone, and broke. Because of someone else? No thanks. Kyle... there are two parts to that sentence...tolerate everything, you expect to have tolerated. SO, if it is intolerable, for you, then it is also intolerable from you. |
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Edited by
Miss_No_So
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Fri 04/10/09 03:37 AM
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A gent was being interviewed about his book
he had written on relationships... HE was asked,"What makes your marriage so successful" HIS reply was "the wife has a low expectation of me" ***IF you read it as it was meant, one can see, when we lower our expectations of others and sometimes of self, lesser is the disappointment, greater is the tolerance*** This by no means, means not to do ones best. ------------------------------------------------------------- AN old couple was asked what was the secret to their long marriage, one replied.... "We never fell out of love with each other at the same time" |
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