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I recently met a woman on another dating site. We have been texting and talking on the phone for the past two weeks. She lives in Il. While I Live in Ca. We are both insecure due to the fact that we have both been used, abused, cheated on, and lied to. So we both have trust issues. A problem came up yesturday where while we were texting each other, there were long preiods between her responces to me. First thought that entered my mind was that she was texting another guy at the same time that she was texting me. Has happened to me before. After a period of time I asked her about it. And she told me that she does have text friends that she has had for the past two years. Also, She expressed to me that most days she is busy around the house and dont have the phone near by. Which I can fully understand. Well, just meeting her a couple of weeks ago I realy dont know her all that well. She hasnt Comunicated to me all what she goes through in a day. So, that leaves me to wonder what she is doing during those moments of time that I am waiting for her responses back to me. I told her lastnight that if she is texting a friend at the same time that she is texting me. To please tell me, that way I can tell her that I will wait for her to finish with her friend to talk to her. Was I right or wrong in that? Also, I asked her to share with me what she goes through in a day. so i will beable to know why there are those long periods of texts silence. am I being fair? I want to do the right thing to honor her way of life. and wanting to give her the personal space that one requires. Any advice would be well apreciated. Thankyou  I wouldn't worry about it
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Well, end of story. I texted her and told her that I was sorry and to please forgive me. LOL She wrote back and said that it was only fair to tell me that she had 2 guys wanting her. One guy was her ex. the other guy has been chasing her for two years. So I plainly told her that I dont play the compition game. Im too old for that nonsence. Followed by bye in Capital letters
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Well, end of story. I texted her and told her that I was sorry and to please forgive me. LOL She wrote back and said that it was only fair to tell me that she had 2 guys wanting her. One guy was her ex. the other guy has been chasing her for two years. So I plainly told her that I dont play the compition game. Im too old for that nonsence. Followed by bye in Capital letters Awwwwwwwww shoot! So in the end there probably wasn't much you could do anyhow. Well now you know what to do for next time! Good Luck sir, you sound like a nice caring gentleman. |
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Well, end of story. I texted her and told her that I was sorry and to please forgive me. LOL She wrote back and said that it was only fair to tell me that she had 2 guys wanting her. One guy was her ex. the other guy has been chasing her for two years. So I plainly told her that I dont play the compition game. Im too old for that nonsence. Followed by bye in Capital letters I had to learn through a similar experience, and it opens my eyes to my own behaviors, etc. I think it was nice that you wanted to explain to her and apologize. Sorry it didn't work. 
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A relationship with that big mileage gap is difficult to maintain, even if you knew each other very well. And she sounds like a player anyway. If she is seriously interested in the two guys courting her, why is she trying to hook up with you (and probably others too)? Why? Because she's a player, scoping out the potentials to see if she can do better for herself, while keeping you and everyone else on the back burner, just in case she can't find someone better. You really don't need that drama in your life. She did you a favor.
As for texting, why not just communicate through emails or phone? I don't text at all. And I don't chat on a messenger. I type 80 wpm (not bragging, just a fact) and have a busy day. I don't have time to sit around and wait for non-typists to slowly type back one liners. Email works for me because I can say so much and send off the email. And while the other person is pecking out his reply, I can get a lot of planting done in my gardens or get some bookkeeping and filing done. I hate wasting my precious time, so email is my preferred form of communication. I know it's not for everyone, but chatting and phoning can be so time-consuming. Of course, for the right person, I guess it would be worth it. |
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