You 2 successfully hijacked and derailed my thread.

-Guys compete for women so many women assume that anyone who doesn't have a girlfriend, must have been loosing the competition, so they must be losers.

It's the wrong assumption. There are single guys who don't go into competition even if they would probably easily could have a girlfriend.
There are many reasons, but I find the most common reason lately is because they had their priorities laid out and it got messed up by either financial troubles, loosing a home or a job or having a hard time paying the bills. While they wish to have a girlfriend or wife or even a family, their current situation makes them to be passive and even repulsive and even though they try, reality comes in and they back off. It's not because they are evil, but the opposite. They don't want to drag any woman into their current situation. Many will fantasize about having a date or a new girlfriend, that's why they are doing it online. Talking through the internet to someone keeps a safe distance not to become too attached.

Just my opinion.

I don't think they are "evil", I think they are in a transitional stage of their lives. I have to say from my experience, I have men "hitting" on me, and it appears that they are looking for a "mother" figure. Someone to take care of them, and with your comment about financial troubles, being laid off from work etc.. It makes more sense to me now. I don't mean to offend, or be overly harsh, I just wish to express my experiences on sites like this. I don't think it has to do with "competing" it has to do with need that comfort level they may have had, or wish they had. The internet is a very poor alternative to a real man or a real woman.

You're looking at the other side of the card what I'm talking about. I beleive there are men out who wants a mother-figure because they are in a bad situation, I don't doubt that. But also, there are men out there who wants to crawl out of the mess they are in and it is the reason they don't date. To prove they are capable doing it on their own, without any external help.

The only women I have ever dated that were financially better off than me were older women.

I mean, someone you can work on getting close too, while working on yourself. Is this possible? Very interesting.

Oh, it is definitely possible, to bring up my case as an example, it ended up as me to be accused of "you are not paying enough attention to me" or other times it was "I want to have changes now or else".
In the first case it wasn't about not paying enough attention but I got other things I want to take care of and I can't just stop doing everything and drop everything I work on and she failed to understand it would also benefit her in the long run while the other was simply inpatient.
These sort of things can haunt a man every time the chance of dating comes up.