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Topic: Ok For All The Men
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Wed 10/28/09 07:03 PM

waving My son would like to know if he did the right thing in letting this girl go.He felt she was to clingy and she seemed to like someone else but could never be honest in her answer.Every time he asked her about this she could not look him in the eyes and she would look off.Also she didn't seem as happy unless she was with the other guy.He only stayed in the relationship because he felt sorry for her.He needs a males perspective on this if he should stay or get out.
:smile: If she didnt deny liking some other guy, then he was right to let her goflowerforyou

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Wed 10/28/09 09:35 PM


At 16, he should be bangin every chick he can...then at age 30, he can settle down with just one.:wink: laugh


Yea that is genuis advice. Sixteen is too young to be dealing with STD's, unwanted pregnancy, still birth, abortion, and or child birth, and child support. Not to mention angry siblings and parents. Yea you can tell a 16 to use a condom that that has a very high vailure rate.


Worked for me.laugh

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Wed 10/28/09 09:40 PM
...i stayed in a marrage for three years.... she cheated on me with 25 guys the first time i deploied....ive been deployed 3 times... quick math... 75... point is.. i dam near lost it... i just recently after 8 mnths being single have moved past my trust issues, and my self esteem is back almost to my cocky old self.... and as a health care provider speaking... people souldnt, and cant handle a situation such as that...mentally or physically... im sorry hes hurt that shes gone... most of us can relate, but its for the best...

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Thu 10/29/09 05:29 AM


waving My son would like to know if he did the right thing in letting this girl go.He felt she was to clingy and she seemed to like someone else but could never be honest in her answer.Every time he asked her about this she could not look him in the eyes and she would look off.Also she didn't seem as happy unless she was with the other guy.He only stayed in the relationship because he felt sorry for her.He needs a males perspective on this if he should stay or get out.



Sounds to me like your son has lost interest in being Prince Charming to his girlfriend. Maybe for good reason, teenage girls are not the securest people.

This one sounds a little intimidated by his demands about the loyalty of her feelings. Maybe she has had trouble talking to her parents or peers historically but a few words about communicateing rather than demanding and answer when you want the truth. He is smart to pick up on her body language but I would remind him not to jump to conclusions. Life is not NCIS. She might have just felt less pressure to be lovey dovey with the other guy around and actually does care about your son.

Probably in everybodies best interest to attempt and amicable seperation by just "drifting apart" and trying to remain friends. Not saying they are but it is likely that they have been intimate and she maybe clingey because she is worried about a bad reputation or pregnancy. It is in your son's best interest to be reminded that it might seem macho to kiss and tell it is not a cool social move.

This is a great teaching moment to talk about realestic expectations about High School relationships, personality types, and maybe the need to keep some women just friends and not FWB's be cause as practical as it might sound it rarely works out. Maybe asking if he sees some importance in not being so caught up in being a hero when just being a supportive friend will be easier to live with.

This may be a lonely time for your son. Girlfriend's, weather desireable or not, give a position in the social pecking order in high school and he may be in need of moral support. You want to make sure he doesn't do anything rash like joining the military or dropping out of school. Keeping and eye out for signs of depression is not a bad idea.

YMCA has a group for teens that give young people opportunities to have peer support with the input of quality mentors, activities to serve the community (very important on college applications), and fun activities that are a great relief for single parents and lonely teens. Membership is on sliding scale.
I just want to thank everyone for their moral support in this but I do want to comment here The only thing is he lost interest is she was to clingy and pressured him into doing things he didn't think was right .Girls here are very aggressive about sex and alot of other things.Guys are feeling they have to because the girls putting pressure on them.As far as being macho he isn't in any way at all He has been taught to respect and honor women.He did all he could to respect this girl but she wanted more and I think because he wouldn't give in she looked else where.I can say this I admire him for wanting to wait till he gets married.Also as far as him doing anything rash I don't think I have to worry about that he has worked hard to get where he is going in life.He just stands up for people that hurt and feel lonely and look down on them selves.He does not go to regular high school he goes to a college academy where he can succeed and become all he wants to be in life.He is going into the military because that has been his dream for along time and to serve his country.I think just because he comes from a single parent home does mean he is a child that maybe in trouble that's just society opinion on things.Not all kids are in trouble because they are being raised by single parents.I have seen kids from single parent homes to turn out to be the most high honored kids and really succeed and that is what he is trying to do and make a way for himself he just don't need a girl messing up his life right now.So in conclusion I want to thank you for all your advice and support.

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