Topic: Is infidelity...
STARTRAVELER's photo
Sun 02/28/10 08:36 PM
This is all just so forking wrong !

DaveyB's photo
Sun 02/28/10 08:36 PM

Seriously though, been cheated on several times, the only one I
gave a second chance to was my kid's father...begged, pleaded, and swore he learned his lesson. Took him back and...yup...did it again.
NEVER again.drinker



My second cheated. But we got past it and I do not believe she ever broke that promise. So it is possible as far as I'm concerned. But it does take some serious convincing.

yellowrose10's photo
Sun 02/28/10 08:36 PM

Seriously though, been cheated on several times, the only one I
gave a second chance to was my kid's father...begged, pleaded, and swore he learned his lesson. Took him back and...yup...did it again.
NEVER again.drinker



yeah....I know some take them back. I don't think I could ever get the image out of my head to take him back...but that's just me

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Sun 02/28/10 08:39 PM

Is there something in the forking water tonight or what? bigsmile


Nope...nothing in the water...it's a full-moon tonight! A night that all the utensils come out, I guess!

drinker :laughing: drinks

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Sun 02/28/10 08:39 PM
Well, it took a long time, but we became just good friends so I
figured I would give it another chance for the kids...stupid me,
but, live and learn. You pick yourself up, dust yourself off, pick
a few daisies and move on. :smile:

(and quietly plot your revenge bigsmile , j/k)

DTHRomeo's photo
Sun 02/28/10 08:40 PM
I gave someone a second chance once but it wasn't the same

We split after that ... now it's a deal breaker

No second chances or second thoughts

STARTRAVELER's photo
Sun 02/28/10 08:41 PM
Did'nt say it was easy Kim A lot of hard work but then I believed in my vows better and worse and all that Bs. But where are we if we do'nt believe in something ,so I tried would have worked if other truths did'nt come out plus the second affair .Sad part is she came from a broken family in the first place figured she woulda learned from that !

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Sun 02/28/10 08:41 PM

I gave someone a second chance once but it wasn't the same

We split after that ... now it's a deal breaker

No second chances or second thoughts



Ditto. Once the betrayal is done and the trust is gone, it's over.

DTHRomeo's photo
Sun 02/28/10 08:43 PM


I gave someone a second chance once but it wasn't the same

We split after that ... now it's a deal breaker

No second chances or second thoughts



Ditto. Once the betrayal is done and the trust is gone, it's over.


Yes indeed

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Sun 02/28/10 08:43 PM
That reminds me of the old saying:

First time, shame on you...
Second time shame on me...

I don't think anyone that cheats on their other, should EVER have that 2nd chance! If they didn't love you enough before it happened...then what makes you think they would love more! Don't make sense...

JMO-If I still have one

yellowrose10's photo
Sun 02/28/10 08:45 PM

Did'nt say it was easy Kim A lot of hard work but then I believed in my vows better and worse and all that Bs. But where are we if we do'nt believe in something ,so I tried would have worked if other truths did'nt come out plus the second affair .Sad part is she came from a broken family in the first place figured she woulda learned from that !


oh sunshine....not saying you were wrong to do that. Just saying I don't understand it. we all do what we need to do.

I understand someone wanting to make it work. I just could never get past it to begin with.

DaveyB's photo
Sun 02/28/10 08:47 PM


Did'nt say it was easy Kim A lot of hard work but then I believed in my vows better and worse and all that Bs. But where are we if we do'nt believe in something ,so I tried would have worked if other truths did'nt come out plus the second affair .Sad part is she came from a broken family in the first place figured she woulda learned from that !


oh sunshine....not saying you were wrong to do that. Just saying I don't understand it. we all do what we need to do.

I understand someone wanting to make it work. I just could never get past it to begin with.


By the same token, I would never tell anyone they should try and make it work. Just sayin' it can and did for me. But it is by no means easy.

STARTRAVELER's photo
Sun 02/28/10 08:49 PM


Did'nt say it was easy Kim A lot of hard work but then I believed in my vows better and worse and all that Bs. But where are we if we do'nt believe in something ,so I tried would have worked if other truths did'nt come out plus the second affair .Sad part is she came from a broken family in the first place figured she woulda learned from that !


oh sunshine....not saying you were wrong to do that. Just saying I don't understand it. we all do what we need to do.

I understand someone wanting to make it work. I just could never get past it to begin with.
I know dear !But you wanted to know why and those were my reasons ,I do'nt understand a lot of things in this world anymore !

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Sun 02/28/10 08:50 PM


Did'nt say it was easy Kim A lot of hard work but then I believed in my vows better and worse and all that Bs. But where are we if we do'nt believe in something ,so I tried would have worked if other truths did'nt come out plus the second affair .Sad part is she came from a broken family in the first place figured she woulda learned from that !


oh sunshine....not saying you were wrong to do that. Just saying I don't understand it. we all do what we need to do.

I understand someone wanting to make it work. I just could never get past it to begin with.


But if you gave another chance, it would never be the same again... I guess that is why I have 2 divorces under my belt...I don't give 2nd's either. It's not worth the pain!

JMO-If I still have one


flowers

yellowrose10's photo
Sun 02/28/10 08:50 PM



Did'nt say it was easy Kim A lot of hard work but then I believed in my vows better and worse and all that Bs. But where are we if we do'nt believe in something ,so I tried would have worked if other truths did'nt come out plus the second affair .Sad part is she came from a broken family in the first place figured she woulda learned from that !


oh sunshine....not saying you were wrong to do that. Just saying I don't understand it. we all do what we need to do.

I understand someone wanting to make it work. I just could never get past it to begin with.
I know dear !But you wanted to know why and those were my reasons ,I do'nt understand a lot of things in this world anymore !


we all have our own reasons. I wouldn't tell anyone they were wrong for trying. You did what you needed to do. and I appreciate you explaining it to me.

DaveyB's photo
Sun 02/28/10 08:51 PM



Did'nt say it was easy Kim A lot of hard work but then I believed in my vows better and worse and all that Bs. But where are we if we do'nt believe in something ,so I tried would have worked if other truths did'nt come out plus the second affair .Sad part is she came from a broken family in the first place figured she woulda learned from that !


oh sunshine....not saying you were wrong to do that. Just saying I don't understand it. we all do what we need to do.

I understand someone wanting to make it work. I just could never get past it to begin with.


But if you gave another chance, it would never be the same again...


Nothing every stays the same, but it can be good again.

STARTRAVELER's photo
Sun 02/28/10 08:52 PM
You are welcome as usual.flowerforyou Sorry I probably come off as a little strong on some of theses subjects But I am passionate about them !

yellowrose10's photo
Sun 02/28/10 08:57 PM

You are welcome as usual.flowerforyou Sorry I probably come off as a little strong on some of theses subjects But I am passionate about them !

laugh not at all. now come fork with us in the fork thread laugh

STARTRAVELER's photo
Sun 02/28/10 09:00 PM
I'm not forking crazy !

4974's photo
Sun 02/28/10 09:08 PM
Done, nothing he could say or do would excuse it, or erase it from my mind...so wouldn't even care to listen to a rhyme or reason.