I HAVE BEEN LOOKING FOR SOMEONE FOR 12 YEARS NOW. I AM TIRED.TIRED OF GETTING MY HEART BROKEN AND TIRED OF FAKE PEOPLE WHO ONLY WANT ONE THING.IS THERE ANYONE OUT THERE WHO WILL NOT BE SCARED OF THE WORD LOVE? I AM ALSO SEEKING A GUY WHO DOSE NOT JUDGE WOMEN ON WHAT THEY LOOK LIKE ON THE OUTSIDE...STOP WORRYING ABOUT WHAT OTHERS WILL SAY TO YOU. GO WITH YOU HEART..

I'm not going to go all Freud on you... but aren't artificial expectations like not having your heart broken as shallow as judging on looks?

I mean... at heart the issue is expectations.

Now that you expect to be heart-broken it will infiltrate your life through your unconscious thought... until it becomes conscious.

Much love.

The problem might be that you are "looking" Love just happens - when you least expect it- it sneaks up on you and bites you in the butt

there are so many men out there that don't judge on looks- they do exist-

12 years of actively "looking" wow!! you must be exhausted- stop and give yourself a break- do what makes you happy and the rest will fall into place.

Reading your post, you yourself are pre-judging every man whom approaches you. It's always the same. They only want one thing, or they lied to you in that they were married and wanted a fling. Or, they used you for the time being until something better came along. Sad to say, men and women (some...not all) do this. And the problem is that it is easy to do. Why be honest? Honesty is the right path no doubt, but why take the hard road when the easy road leaves less stress for them. Sure, you end up heart broken and dealing with your conscience while they act like it doesn't bother them (and it doesn't because they have trained themselves to deal with it). Yes, this is very sad, but it is also a reality. And alot of people have gone through it.

I don't know where you are looking, but perhaps it is time to just go on about your own life, doing the things you love to do and then (if some dude comes along) see if he can mesh his life with yours. Cause in the end...that is what it is all about. Finding someone who can and will fit his life with yours.

I think your caps lock button is stuck, you might want to check that.