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Topic: Cheated on, used and re-used.
ValentinaSS's photo
Fri 07/09/10 08:36 PM
Edited by ValentinaSS on Fri 07/09/10 08:45 PM
Yes, get out FAST. I had been in a very long marriage, and had to leave it, it`s NOT easy. You need to value yourself more than you value your love for her (she is very UNworthy). And don`t be afraid to be alone. Learn the comforts and strengths of your own company/self. It`s a real learning experience, you will grow from it. Give yourself some time off from relationships. Good luck :smile:

PoloM's photo
Fri 07/09/10 09:30 PM
Yep, while at work today the wife called me and she tells me how bad she wants to be back with me and will do anything. I just don't believe her and really cant put up with it anymore. It was easy to say no. But hard to stay nice. I don't want to be mean to her. But when she keeps begging me, I start to get irritated. Where the hell was this the first time around? No No No. I'm sorry but no. No more thanks you guys.

sherry4382's photo
Fri 07/09/10 09:33 PM

Yep, while at work today the wife called me and she tells me how bad she wants to be back with me and will do anything. I just don't believe her and really cant put up with it anymore. It was easy to say no. But hard to stay nice. I don't want to be mean to her. But when she keeps begging me, I start to get irritated. Where the hell was this the first time around? No No No. I'm sorry but no. No more thanks you guys.


Congratulations..now you can start the healing process and make yourself happy again!!flowerforyou

no photo
Fri 07/09/10 09:35 PM
drinker ... Excellent!

Good/Right, if hard call ... :thumbsup:


Now the inner healing work begins ... flowerforyou ... Take your time!

msmyka's photo
Fri 07/09/10 09:43 PM

Isn't amazing how the tables turn when you are truly done trying to make it work. Every time one of my friends asks how to keep or get a guy back I say "get over it". Typical response is "but then I won't want HIM anymore". Yep, that sounds about right.

Atlantis75's photo
Fri 07/09/10 09:51 PM
Edited by Atlantis75 on Fri 07/09/10 09:53 PM

WOW I was not expecting all the response. Thanks guys.

I think the thing that scares me the most is being alone. Man 7 years with someone, then all of a sudden they are not there. It kind of sucks I tell ya. But yes I do feel numb to her and I don't want to hate her, so I will have to move on. I'm also not talking with my friend for awhile to clear my head. I really do appreciate the support guys.


If you feel numb about it, you are not loving her, period. Your fear of loneliness is keeping you attached to her. Not the love. It really sux but it's not so bad. Millions of us are single and millions of us have been cheated on and been left deserted.
So deal with it and just honestly think about it, that if you feel numb to the fact that she is cheated on you (lost interest in you sexually) and you feel nothing about it, then you are not in love.
For example, if it would happen to me and I'm in deeply in love with her, I would be so wounded, that I couldn't sleep for weeks. And that exactly what happened to me 2 years ago and it took 2 years to recover from it, although her lost of interest in me wasn't the sex part but her appetite for wealth, which I was lacking.

PoloM's photo
Fri 07/09/10 09:57 PM


WOW I was not expecting all the response. Thanks guys.

I think the thing that scares me the most is being alone. Man 7 years with someone, then all of a sudden they are not there. It kind of sucks I tell ya. But yes I do feel numb to her and I don't want to hate her, so I will have to move on. I'm also not talking with my friend for awhile to clear my head. I really do appreciate the support guys.


If you feel numb about it, you are not loving her, period. Your fear of loneliness is keeping you attached to her. Not the love. It really sux but it's not so bad. Millions of us are single and millions of us have been cheated on and been left deserted.
So deal with it and just honestly think about it, that if you feel numb to the fact that she is cheated on you (lost interest in you sexually) and you feel nothing about it, then you are not in love.
For example, if it would happen to me and I'm in deeply in love with her, I would be so wounded, that I couldn't sleep for weeks. And that exactly what happened to me 2 years ago and it took 2 years to recover from it, although her lost of interest in me wasn't the sex part but her appetite for wealth, which I was lacking.


Nicely said! Yes definitely numb to everything she says to me and when she cries to me. And I'm aware that the loneliness will pass.

ValentinaSS's photo
Fri 07/09/10 09:57 PM

Yep, while at work today the wife called me and she tells me how bad she wants to be back with me and will do anything. I just don't believe her and really cant put up with it anymore. It was easy to say no. But hard to stay nice. I don't want to be mean to her. But when she keeps begging me, I start to get irritated. Where the hell was this the first time around? No No No. I'm sorry but no. No more thanks you guys.

Good for you, you can`t believe her words, when her actions have been so disgusting. You don`t have to be mean, be STRONG, when dealing with this/her.

irisheyes79's photo
Sat 07/10/10 03:55 PM
frustrated whoa ohwell

iRon's photo
Sat 07/10/10 05:08 PM
dude she cheated on you deserve better.

I went through somewhat of the something and It finally came to this conclusion. I deserved better, a women with morals and ethics, someone I could trust. It was a good day when that realization came to me.

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