It seems the problem here is that you find women who do not like you the way you are. They are settling and making you suffer for it.

My take on it anyway.

Find someone who really loves you the way you are.

Just my thoughts.

Ok, let's say your are alone and let's say you've been alone for several months...maybe years. So let's throw in some dates here and there, and then also meet up with friends, but mostly you are just living your own life, you got everything arranged around you for your liking and so on.

Wake up in the morning..brush your teeth, go to work, come back home and you have this "rythm" formed, that changes only a few times, family visits or you go somewhere, but basically it all falls in place.

Now imagine you start to talk to someone and then start meeting, and you start to neglect certain things, because now she is kicking up the "order".

Ok, so not too bad so far, but now you start seeing her, then she shows up at your place and for a while it's all ok.

But then she starts telling you what she doesn't like and how to change things..start rearranging things that were perfectly fine for you and now she starts complaining about things you do (or don't do) and now you feel like you are being "told" to stop this or start that and do this and do that.

And now things just arent' the way you like it and you suppose to "adjust things" you don't want to adjust, and if you won't then she will give you an attitude to make you feel bad how the way you have done things for years are now suddenly no good.

Or now, you can't even rent your favorite war movies, because she will say "you always watch these crap and not what I like " or " you always eat this and never that" and so on.

Eventually now you are just fighting to get a smile out of her, try to figure out what have you done wrong again when she gives the sour face about something or for the question "Honey what's wrong?" she says "nothing" so now you supposed to feel guilty about something that you don't eve know about.

Now....you actually just WISH she would go somewhere, whatever..store or find something interesting to do so you are not "required" to be hanging in her neck, otherwise she's gonna say, "looks like you love this ____________ (fill in anything you like) more than love me."

At evenings you begin to wonder if she actually wants to sleep with you anymore, so you try to figure out if she is angry or moody or maybe you have done something bad again you don't know about...should you touch her or just leave her alone or what?

The more it goes on..the more you feel like you are "serving" someone and even room you really liked and lived happily for years as a single - you can't even recognize it- you might even hate it now, and all things you liked , you have a given temporary time to do , "what is allowed" without getting her all moody and start asking again if you actually love her or not and regardless what you say, get ready for a 100 explanations for the whys but at the end you just can't win anyway.


Now you end up yearning for the time being single, you didn't have to worry about all this , everything made sense to you and you did all the stuff you liked and never had to worry about someone else telling you if it's good or bad. But now you can't get out, because you got feelings for her and you like her and you gonna be hurt and you know it...it was better when you had nobody and while it can be depressing time to time, it was temporary and it doesn't have such consequences such as your room rearranged or watching movies you don't like but you must and doing various things that just doesn't make sense.

So now...what did you get out of the whole romance thing?
1. You have a woman around who perhaps likes to clean so sometimes it's not you who empties the trashcan
2. A Woman touching, kissing and sometimes even sex when she has the mood.
3. If she cooks, it's a plus..but if not, then it's nothing.

So all that..just because you didn't want to stay single and you wanted sex more often and someone kissing you sometimes..you gave up all the pluses and extras, and she turned your world upside down.

This is pretty much my whole life up there.."being in a relationship"...every single one of them ended up like that.