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Topic: How do you handle rejection?
BertrandGeneva Joined Sat 04/23/11 Posts: 5	Mon 04/25/11 01:53 AM
rejection..... developed a Social Phobia from being rejected.....

wux Joined Wed 07/29/09 Posts: 7426	Mon 04/25/11 02:32 AM
It's been 12 years for me. I'm practically a virgin. Okay, you win. I concede this to you. Not that I am conceited. I guess you're just one of them fanatic virgin-again non-christians.

josie68 Joined Mon 11/22/10 Posts: 6270	Mon 04/25/11 07:02 AM
A bit off topic, but for the record, as it has become necessary it seems, to spell this out. - I am not married. - I have never been married. - I had had a steady girlfriend for nine years once, she got married then, then we did not see each other, then after she became a widow, we resumed the relationship, but it was rocky and on-and-off (sexual relationships are always on-and-off, if you get my drift), then we became better and better friends, and now, about thirty years after we first met (29 to be exact), we see each other on our birthdays only, and no more sex whatsoever, coz she's 80 and has become physically incapable. - I have my own health problems. - I have not: been on a date in the last four years, seen a naked woman in the last six years, and been in a relationship in the last eleven or twelve years. - I can back this up. HUH, I dont think we thought you where married . I was just replyingto the comment you made, and that for me if someone was married and they left their wives, I would think they would leave me as well. For me I would never ever get mixed u with someone who had cheated before. I wouldnt care how much I liked him, for me thats a no go..

josie68 Joined Mon 11/22/10 Posts: 6270	Mon 04/25/11 07:05 AM
Hmmm forgot to answer the question. I have always just laughed when someone rejects me, its either that or cry, so laughing is much easier.. But if my man rejected me now ...What would I do.. Hmmmm, I guess he would probably have to get used to just having 2 legs, as the middle one would be removed..Slowly and painfully. I always wondered: What do women do with that part that they remove? Do they have further use out of it? If not, what is the fate of the part later down the road? - party balloon? - screw driver? - cigar prop for movies? - rear-view mirror hang-decoration for Camaros? What? Bummer hadnt thought about what I would do with it.. maybe feed it to the turtle.

Jeanniebean Joined Wed 01/30/08 Posts: 40028	Mon 04/25/11 10:34 AM
For me I would never ever get mixed u with someone who had cheated before. I wouldnt care how much I liked him, for me thats a no go.. Once I dated a guy a few times who was married. We were mostly friends. He wanted to marry me and divorce his wife. I said flatly NO. He wanted to know why not, "Didn't I love him?" I said, sure, I loved him, but I didn't want him for a husband. He asked me why: I said "Because you drink too much and you cheat on your wife." He thought I was mean. I was just being honest.

EasternSquirrel Joined Wed 04/20/11 Posts: 131	Mon 04/25/11 01:00 PM
How do I handle rejection? 1. Avoid it. 2. Shover her off a cliff. (jk) I'll live to see another day. Big deal, it wasn't as though my world would crumble .... because I wouldn't build my entire world around her. I had other more important priorities to deal with.

actionlynx Joined Wed 08/18/10 Posts: 5448	Mon 04/25/11 01:09 PM
Rejection? What's that? Never heard of it... It might sting, but eventually I just forget about it.

dhska Joined Sun 08/22/10 Posts: 88	Mon 04/25/11 03:28 PM
I treat it something like a business transaction: thank them for their time, then move onto the next prospect. Expect lots of rejection, but know that experiencing lots of it is the best way of finding success, partially because it's also character building so your mindset adjusts.