Topic: A third chance
thulibabe's photo
Fri 03/21/14 02:00 PM
What do you do if ur partner is a cheater or do any unimaginable things to you, then one day you sit him/her down to show him what he is doing,then he/she apologises but go back to what he usually does, then u invite one of his/her family member to talk some sense into his thick skull then he said im sorry for everything, i want to change for the better but really doesnt change, instead do worse things than before. If this person apologises again and reassure you that he/she is a change person,would you forgive n give a third or fourth chance? Or would you believe him?

no1phD's photo
Fri 03/21/14 02:01 PM
.. well if you need strangers to tell you this.. I don't know what to tell you... leave them blowing in the wind... that's all I got to say about that...

smokeybette's photo
Fri 03/21/14 02:04 PM
fool me once, shame on you !
fool my twice, shame on me !
and you're up for thirds? for shame,,,

teebee79's photo
Fri 03/21/14 02:05 PM

What do you do if ur partner is a cheater or do any unimaginable things to you, then one day you sit him/her down to show him what he is doing,then he/she apologises but go back to what he usually does, then u invite one of his/her family member to talk some sense into his thick skull then he said im sorry for everything, i want to change for the better but really doesnt change, instead do worse things than before. If this person apologises again and reassure you that he/she is a change person,would you forgive n give a third or fourth chance? Or would you believe him?


NO!
He keeps apologizing because it's something you want to hear, not something that he feels.

After the 3rd of 4th time... even HE can't believe you are forgiving
him? His sorry's sound like this....
" Uh, sure.. I'm sorry, anything here to eat" ?

no photo
Fri 03/21/14 02:09 PM
When it comes to cheating, there are no second chances. That, in my opinion is the biggest show of disrespect there is.

CatchMyBreath's photo
Fri 03/21/14 02:10 PM
Oh hello no! As a human being you need to find out what YOUR self worth is to you! You are not a doormat but your being treated as such and if that is what you feel you are worth then by all means continue..... But NOBODY should be the crumbs of anothers so called "love" you are a person that deserves to be the whole dame cake!

kc0003's photo
Fri 03/21/14 02:12 PM
people will treat you the way that you allow them to.

if they do something once and you forgive them, they don't deserve a second or third or forth chance. you are, in effect, giving them permission to treat you like chit! at some point their behavior becomes just as much your fault as theirs.

do yourself a favor and find someone that actually cares about you.

DX3FortyNine's photo
Fri 03/21/14 02:17 PM

When it comes to cheating, there are no second chances. That, in my opinion is the biggest show of disrespect there is.


Roger that! game over...

mightymoe's photo
Fri 03/21/14 02:18 PM

What do you do if ur partner is a cheater or do any unimaginable things to you, then one day you sit him/her down to show him what he is doing,then he/she apologises but go back to what he usually does, then u invite one of his/her family member to talk some sense into his thick skull then he said im sorry for everything, i want to change for the better but really doesnt change, instead do worse things than before. If this person apologises again and reassure you that he/she is a change person,would you forgive n give a third or fourth chance? Or would you believe him?


whoa if you were reading this written from someone else, how would you answer it?


GIVE HIM THE BOOT! right in the a$$...

Shy_Emo_chick's photo
Fri 03/21/14 02:19 PM
Hmmmm. I'm no fool. So he'd be running out of apologies pretty damn quick, if it were me. I may give a second chance, because he REALLY COULD be genuinely sorry. You never know. But no way do I hand out THIRD chances.

Dodo_David's photo
Fri 03/21/14 02:57 PM

What do you do if ur partner is a cheater or do any unimaginable things to you, then one day you sit him/her down to show him what he is doing,then he/she apologises but go back to what he usually does, then u invite one of his/her family member to talk some sense into his thick skull then he said im sorry for everything, i want to change for the better but really doesnt change, instead do worse things than before. If this person apologises again and reassure you that he/she is a change person,would you forgive n give a third or fourth chance? Or would you believe him?


Just dump the dude. He isn't going to change until he hits bottom.

no photo
Fri 03/21/14 03:29 PM

What do you do if ur partner is a cheater or do any unimaginable things to you, then one day you sit him/her down to show him what he is doing,then he/she apologises but go back to what he usually does, then u invite one of his/her family member to talk some sense into his thick skull then he said im sorry for everything, i want to change for the better but really doesnt change, instead do worse things than before. If this person apologises again and reassure you that he/she is a change person,would you forgive n give a third or fourth chance? Or would you believe him?


Sounds to me like it's time to move on. Unless you feel you deserve to be treated like that.


Screw me once...shame on you.
Screw me twice...shame on me.
If there's a 3rd time...neither of you will learn!

sparkyae5's photo
Fri 03/21/14 03:43 PM
''the only person you can do anything about is you---its never one handed---you need to see your part---maybe you need to ASK for what you need---SET LIMITS AND STICK TO THEM if he is the one he won't run off---when there is a relationship there is a OTHER most want there other to be like them---until we except there otherness as they are we will always be unhappy with them---flowerforyou BOTTOM LINE ITS UP TO US NOT TO EXCEPT LESS THAN WHAT WE NEED--most women go for the alfa male and then try to change him to a beta male try going direct for what you want try a beta male they are not as hard to train--- good luck i wish you well---catchmybreath is right on listen to her good advice---

mightymoe's photo
Fri 03/21/14 03:44 PM


What do you do if ur partner is a cheater or do any unimaginable things to you, then one day you sit him/her down to show him what he is doing,then he/she apologises but go back to what he usually does, then u invite one of his/her family member to talk some sense into his thick skull then he said im sorry for everything, i want to change for the better but really doesnt change, instead do worse things than before. If this person apologises again and reassure you that he/she is a change person,would you forgive n give a third or fourth chance? Or would you believe him?


Sounds to me like it's time to move on. Unless you feel you deserve to be treated like that.


Screw me once...shame on you.
Screw me twice...shame on me.
If there's a 3rd time...neither of you will learn!


laugh laugh how true on #3....flowerforyou flowerforyou

soufiehere's photo
Fri 03/21/14 03:52 PM

fool me once, shame on you !
fool my twice, shame on me !
and you're up for thirds? for shame,,,

Hear, hear :-)