I have some playful questions for the males,,,

it isn't lost on me that people are physical and that both men and women are capable of just seeking sex for the temporary physical satisfaction, without any real substance or value beyond that

but what of peoples hearts? I do believe both men and women are capable of genuinely CARING for each other too. So this is the question:

You have spent time with a female, you seem to have good chemistry, you aren't yet sure if its 'love' on your part

and one evening, during a flirty conversation, she closes into your personal space, looks in your eyes, and kisses you

what is your next move? do you simply kiss her back and try to avoid it going further? do you draw back from kissing her and have the discussion about your feelings? or

do you go all in and take advantage of the moment to have some sexual gratification?

There is little stigma on females to simply state we aren't 'ready yet',, or things are moving 'fast'

but how often do men feel that way and EXPRESS it?

It depends very much on the situation. Sometimes in a situation like that a guy can feel pressured to perform. I've turned women down before though that were offering me it on a plate.

One time, years ago, I was talking to a couple of different women that I had met through a dating thing. I had just got off the phone after aranging a date for the next day with one of them and then the phone rang again and it was the other one and she asked me in a sexy voice if I wanted her to come over. I explained the situation to her and she said to me that I shouldn't just say no to be honourable but I had made a date with the other one and I was looking for a girlfriend and not just a one night stand. The date with the other one didn't go well anyway and I guess that I missed out on a shag there but I figured that I could meet both of them and if the one that had offered me the night of passion was genuinely interested in me that she could wait. Also, she was going through a divorce and was quite emotional and she had been on the wine when she called me that night. I just felt that I would have been taking advantage and I did resist the temptation, even though she seemed the sexier of the two.

I could give you examples of other situations like that that I've been in but a bird in the hand is worth more than two in the bush and if a woman comes on to me I would probably take it further if I liked her. I would feel that I was committing myself to something more than just one night of sex though.

I've never made the first move this should be an interesting topic.

that is a refreshing pov

but Im curious if you would then express that 'commitment' to her in some way?

I know it was meant for the men but as I'm a lot older now if the moment felt right and I went to kiss him whatever his reaction may be considering many circumstances I think most men are gentlemen

Ive never made the VERY FIRST move either,,there was only one that inspired me to wanna kiss on him whenever I saw him, AFTER he made the first move

but, I was just curious how guys do handle it when the female pushes it to 'the next level' and what they make of it

I am also should be interesting.maybe we've been doing it all wrong lol

I don't do well with hypothetical situations.
msharmony, how about you and me act out the situation.

smh,,,

you sly one you...

Wow.. daily.. I honestly don't want to jump into anything too quickly.....
.. but that being said.. harmony. what you doing later baby... just kidding... no I guess that depends.... but you stated you have spent time together.. so the parameters.. are pretty much already in place.. I would have to think.... so I would just ask him or her.. if this is truly what they want... and I'm a GUY so I automatically want it.. ..lol

There's a weak part when it comes to someone's heart, personal space & staring into their eyes! Surely, chemistry played a partwhich only means one thing in the end - combustion! But in that moment, I would savor it & play with her mind by pulling away & nodding my head. Then, swoshed to give her a simple kiss. If she would be tease playful, will also try to pull away. All will be a regret tomorrow morning when woken up sober! ;)

it honestly depends on the level of chemistry....if it's there I have no problem taking it to the next level...I'd rather find out sooner rather than later if we are sexually combatible...sometimes the chemistry before hand lets you know.....but if it doesn't then why not find out

Yes, I would. My last girlfriend made most of the moves and basically seduced me for example and I really wasn't sure about her and said so but I did say to her in the morning that I was glad that we had not just decided to be friends and I told her to call me, or that I would call her if she wanted. Admittedly, that's not making a big commitment but I was saying that I wanted to keep seeing her and that we would just see how it went. It was just about trying to strike a balance between saying that she was now my girl sort of thing and not being clingy or possessive. I discussed it with her as it went along and quite apart from anything else, I want to keep these things monogamous for health reasons.

awesome responses,

Does this mean that you and I can act out the OP's situation?