People are not what they seem you don't know the person till u live with them so they say .But there ate morals or did some forget them ?When you're dating someone there should not be this sneaking around and given out phone numbers .That's what some people don't seem to see they treat a relationship like it was just a toy oh he won't find out she won't find out then it leads into more and then what?Who gets hurt ?I spoke to a few women through the years discovered they contracted herpies they didn't ask for it it came from men who slept around behind there back so who's to say you don't catch something ?And then what your screwed .My point is people think it's a joke it's not to get evolved with someone then mess around behind there back and when discovered they damage there property now why the the out break? My guess is she was caught and tried to get out of it I don't mess around .

I think that people often do it because of problems in their relationships and it can be harmless enough. It can be a bit more serious if the person has mental health problems though. They are often like that due to a history of abuse and they just can't cope with "normal" relationships or intimacy.

well, once I was able to get through the OP, so that I think I have the gist. I agree with him. It sounds pretty weird and I'd hightail it if it were me....and don;t look back...

I see a lot of people OK with curiousity and that's understandable just a one time blip, but if it becomes a regular thing that is a red flag (no pun intended)

As I said my grammar not so great and sorry for the typos people

Hi

punctuation are seriously needed in this post

I think what is key is the 'sneaking' and her reaction.

IF there is honest and open communication about it and it is strictly an enhancement to fantasies,,,it wouldn't be something to cause me to leave,,,
if there is REAL TIME contact or promise/intent for REAL TIME contact,, that is a deal breaker
This particular person seems to have had a reaction which, by itself, would send me running another direction
I cant do the unpredictable violent outbursts,,, life is too short at this point,,
Edited by msharmony on Sun 03/30/14 04:27 PM

My 2 cents worth:
Bi-polar has so many degrees to it and one needs counseling to also understand the disease as a partner if you are already aware of it, the sufferer too needs counseling, sometimes meds for life and constant monitoring for the triggers of high/low. I am not an expert but I have dealt with it in my past.
That said though, there is also a line that one crosses, once the cyber-world becomes an addiction, becomes a way of living your fantasies, until there is no clear line any longer and your partner can only be completely and utterly satisfied when they have surpassed their un-satiable lust for their addiction - in the cyber-sex world that is dangerous because fantasies are no longer enough and their expectation is that a live partner will play out this part. Sadly this leads to major complications and completely dysfunctional relationships, which spiral totally out of control, together with the common sense and composure of the addict until they have reached unrecognizable personality distortions.

It saddens me though that some end up being played, again, and again and again