There are those of us that don't have any qualms about publicly exposing our naked bodies and sexual acts, hence the existence of nude beaches, nudist colonies, and online porn sites where people can join others of like mind and personal proclivities to share in their various experiences.

Likewise, there are also those of us that do have qualms about exposing ourselves at all, and in any light.

So my multiple-pronged questions are...

Regardless if we are for or against this obviously controversial lifestyle choice activity, shouldn't we respect each others right to express ourselves in whatever manner we are comfortable, whether it is open-minded or prudish?

And shouldn't we respect ourselves and each other by not gossiping about what we learn through our dating experiences? Or does getting involved in a relationship that may not last primarily due to our differences automatically give us license to spread the word?

Please keep your responses on point and don't use this topic as a means to attack other members or to reveal their private business you may be privy too.

Interesting...

I think I should respect others views, opinions, expressions, etc.. Hence they are the other persons to own and therefore not of my own..

And clearly, what someone else thinks of me, is none of my business to begin with..

Good luck staying on point ;)

Hi Thomas, it's nice to meet you.

I know staying on point might get hard, but we are all adults and know how to cleverly express our views.

What others think about us may not be our business, but what they say within our hearing surely is. And I think when people reveal personal things it's so they can try to save face.

But does that justify their lack of discretion?

women that like to get naked make me happy

Yeah, I kinda got that drift from you, JT...

i'm pretty sure the whole world knows now.that's why i'm banned from 5 nude beaches

Hi Kic... yes, talking about our lives helps us to get to know each other. And that's sorta my point especially for us long term Minglers.

When we know the overall community we're involved in and how we do things while also knowing each other we don't always have to speak directly about things.

Sometimes just starting another post and infusing parts of others posts in order to instigate a negative vibe while taking subtle jabs at them is all it takes to get gossip going.

Still, on a dating site, should we always be discreet, or cleverly disclose what we know while feigning it's not intentional.

Only 5?

there's some i haven't been to yet

My personal opinion is that it's bad form to instigate negative vibes, or try to cleverly circumvent decorum with malicious intent. Those that choose to resort to that type behavior however, are perhaps shinning an even brighter spotlight on themselves.

If on the other hand the intent behind disclosure is to warn, caution etc, when possible I think it's more appropriate to do so privately.

My thoughts exactly.

Even if we're not in like with each other anymore it's still not polite to talk about one another.

Humm I will incorporate a bit of my thoughts as well as the sites.

First of all talking gossip is only gossip only a few know the whole truth of what really happened. Things seem to get stretched all out of wack after it has passed through several people.

Now if someone knows the facts due to first hand and they want to protect another. Then I'm all for telling them. But only privately. Unless it is going to directly affect another person they know there is no reason in even telling what one knows.

As far as airing things on a public forum I feel it does not go there. Most sites as this one has that stated within the Rules.

My father told me that a real gentleman doesn't kiss and tell, and men who do talk should be avoided at all cost. Likewise, a real lady doesn't talk either. What's between two (or more) people is private unless they equally decide to go public.

As for warning others... well...

Sometimes with relationships people like to stick their nose in where it doesn't belong. Kinda like some mother-in-laws do...

But especially in small, tight knit communities where everybody likes to know everybody elses business. And we choose sides either for or against depending on who we like and know more about.

The problem with cautioning people with details is that they may very well be spun in such a way as to deliberately make people look bad so it's more difficult for them to find somebody else.

The motive behind this type of "cautioning" can be jealousy, resentment, even anger over a break up. So unless we really know everyone involved we have to take what people say with a grain of salt.

Here I go slightly veering...

Let me get this straight then..I think what you are
saying is:
If you woke up in a dark closet with you √Π|÷ all greased up,
Then you wouldn't tell anybody, right!
Then let's party..lol

Well I guess if people would know the other person or the person
could read about it like an open forum then that would be in poor
taste.


It can be healthy to talk about and read peoples experiences and
the does and donts of relationships because the more you read something positive that you would like to adhere to, the firmer
you will be with it. Many know the right thing to do and the way they should be treated but can still fall short.
So repeat repeat repeat or you will repeat repeat repeat.

If I woke up in a dark closet for any reason I'd be smart enough to know I better keep my mouth shut, or else.

Wise advice from your father indeed. I agree, with few exceptions, that public disclosure should be a unanimous decision by all involved parties. One exception for me would be if I had knowledge of a threat of harm to someone else.



I don't condone public or surreptitious disclosure. But if someone chooses to I think doing so privately will likely limit any negative impact.

I very much agree that we can learn from each other. What works and what doesn't.

And based on this premise, I'll state emphatically that it's not polite for anybody, for any reason, to publicly speak ugly about those we have fallen out with. Even if the insults are subtly lobbed.

Just because one person isn't our cup of tea doesn't mean the next one won't be.

And unless we've been financially scammed or our computers have gotten viruses and the like by those with the skill to seek revenge in this manner, thereby giving us sufficient reason to "warn" others to steer clear, then we should live and let live.

Hi TxsGal... if any of the parties involved have never shared their version of events with anyone because they are private people then it's impossible for the whole truth to be known.

And yes, one side of a story can get stretched way out of proportion when filling in the side that hasn't been made known yet. That's why I thought it would be expedient to bring this subject up.

Not everybody feels the need to explain why, we simply go on about our lives and leave dead dogs to lie.

No, I'm not talking specifics, because if I was you wouldn't be confused, see.

I'm merely expressing my thoughts and personal position on a subject that matters to me. Perhaps you would understand more clearly if we were better acquainted, but alas we are not.

I appreciate your input though, as I learn from every interaction I experience.

I know this guy that went to a disco and he met a girl there that gave him a handjob. Afterwards when they were having a chat she said to him that she was just about to start the high school.

WTF is the problem with me telling you that? You don't know the guy that I'm talking about, or the girl. They are anonymous. For all that you know, I just made that story up.

What I see on this forum is a few people that are open about themselves and their experiences and a load of trolls that just come here to take pot shots at them, while keeping all of their own closet skeletons "discreet".

Take away the stuff that you're talking about and you're left with the dull repetitive threads where every knucklef**ker on this forum just repeats their moral prejudices ad nausiem apparently in some lame atempt to impress people that are going to do what? Jump on a plane and marry them?