Damn you're taken op....


Anyways bad idea women are more territorial than you think...it will end badly...

Just a question op are you subconsciously trying to pass off your ex

.. well first off.. I'm not taken..
I'm still a free agent...

.. and secondly... thanks to everyone's great advice...I may have to chalk this up to... the one that got away..
..hmm.... maybe she'll come back around... when things are more or less... less complicated...

Take no notice of me if you like, PHD, but I'd feel really awkward about dating a friend's ex/ex's friend. I'd feel like I was walking on egggshells around them. I would keep sensing some sort of ticking time bomb, waiting for the ex to explode. "I DON'T FIND THIS FUNNY", something along those lines. Before she threw a drink over me. There's millions of others to choose from, yet your choosing a bit of a "dodgy" situation? I'm just not sure. Not telling you what to do. Just that I wouldn't do it MYSELF. But you're a respectable guy, so I should trust your judgement.

I see what you mean but women talk if this was a man situation men handle it better for the most part....

well you have to picture this..
my exwife and her friends are like that reality show...
Housewives of Orange County.
our house wifes of . Beverly Hills.
pick anyone you want.. they're all the same... they're all very hot..
but in their own little way very superficial.... now for god sakes don't let them hear I said that...lmao..
. you know they get together for dinner.. its darling this and darling that... kiss kiss.... and whenever I attend the dinner... I have noticed how a few of them... seem overly friendly towards me... so perhaps it may be best.. to keep this door closed.. I would not want word to spread... that I..ohh.. I almost used my name there..lol..phD.. was a gun for hire so to speak...lmao...
. either way.. it is too complicated.
. and I do not need complications right now... I need comfortable.
easy.. nothing heavy.. dinner drinks laughter... not drama..
but once again thank you everybody..
you're all the bestest..

.

thats a tuff one

YES IT IS A TOUGH ONE..lol..
but at the end of the day..
I just can't see it working..
either now or down the road somebody's gonna get hurt..
it is really just too bad..
I wish I had met her now..
and she didn't know anybody I know..
she is one of a kind..hmm..
oh well better safe than sorry I guess..
.. too many variables...

Your ex is your ex for a reason... Why would you care what she thinks about your life without her.
Personally, I think your goose is cooked with the ex's close friends bud, it's just taboo, sloppy seconds kinda...
Women tend to consider this as betrayal and most likely wouldn't act on it.

You join in on their dinners?
My Canadian brother, you may need to break up with your ex again I'm afraid...

no I don't join in on their dinners .
I would much sooner go golfing..
. and have my caddy take the nine iron.. and drive a golf ball.. straight into my sack.. then sit through dinner with those ladies..lmao..
don't get me wrong they're all very nice.. but you know women.. yak yak yak... no I attend the dinners that their spouses attend... BBQs get togethers things like that.. we used to go to each others houses for wine tastings...
. play poker..

The way I see it...if blondie was a true friend to your ex then she would never jump into her bed whilst its still warm...and you would never have posted this question if you had no intention of going for it ...so all these morals that are allegedly making you uncomfortable..are really ...your genuine guilt at feeling the way you feel....that doesnt mean you are doing a bad thing. It just means maybe your relationship with your ex was never quite all that you hoped for..for whatever reasons
Do what feels right..life is a journey and so short...good luck.

well first off she's not blonde..
she has strawberry red hair..
. not bright red but that really soft nice red.. and nobody's jumping into anybody's bed yet... and my relationship with my ex.. was everything I hoped it would be..
. and the bed isn't that warm...
.. it's more of a.. moral question..
but the same time.. do you stick to morals or follow your heart...

. but I have decided so..

Ok I think we can save this man!

Here's my advice, At the next get together BBQ, put a few moves on her friend, not too heavy though and make sure your ex notices this.
When your ex gets up to help clear dishes or walks off, follow her and ask her right there at the BBQ if she'd mind if you asked her friend out. Easy!

It's very delicate... one wrong move and yer toast LOL

hmm.. leave it to a blonde.
to reverse things...lmao.. well that is the dilemma isn't it.. so many things to consider... first you have your own feelings... your wants your needs or desires.. your fantasies..
then you have her needs to consider.
her wants her needs her fantasies...
then I have the feelings of my ex's to consider... her wants her needs her fantasies...hmm.. wait a minute I do not fulfill her fantasies anymore..
are her wants.. just her needs..
I need you to fix the the tap it still leaking... and the garage door is creaking when it opens...hmm.. perhaps you're on to something blondie... I hook her up with one of my friends... now he gets to fix all those things....lmao...
. I would really not want to know who she's dating.. that's what makes this complicated...hi.u

to be honest id move on.theres such a thing as good tact

I am.. but brother.. this lady let me tell ya.. not only breathtaking but smart.. funny like really funny..
great style and taste..
you know the type of woman I'm talking about... but ya need to let it go... but now I have to call her and tell her that... sounds like another topic.. how do you tell somebody that you want to get to know.. that you don't want to get to know them...hmm... this sucks.

Awww shucks lil lady Blondey!

Step away from that phone mister...
NEVER call a Woman to let her know you can't call her anymore. That's drama!
You can thank me later. lol

Do you pick up the boys from her place or drop them off? I know you said you've made a decision. But why not casually ask your ex about her friend, and get the info you really need to make the decision. Your ex's friend gave you her number and told you to think about it. And if you really seem to click with this strawberry gal, then why not get coffee and chat.
I can say I know I wouldn't want to miss out on a chance of love, especially if there was a good click.


I'm jealous because I like Reds and Strawberry Blondes.

well I have to say something�?.
... last thing I need !!is running into her.
at some function... and she goes off about why I did not call her..no..
.. better yet I'll give you her number.
you can call her for me and let her know...hmmm.. wait a minute!!.
this was your plan all the time wasn't it... get me to drop her and then you pick her up... haha. very sneaky..
. but I'm on to you now mister..lmao..
.. no but seriously.. I need to give her some explanation...hmm..
. I know I'll tell her the old..
I am being transferred to a new country new position....
. no that won't work.. because she knows my ex...lol