a post in the does anyone smile thread got me to thinking,,,

has anyone ever had a situation where a conversation was prefaced with some completely biased point of view so that what followed just felt really ,,,strange?

for instance, the example where one has a profile about how terrible women are and how they expect them all to be stupid or golddigging and then that person ends with 'email me',,,lol

I had a situation where I was dating a male nurse (he went on to be a cop, oddly enough) and he saw an obese woman at a bus stop and started just RANTING about how obscene it was for anyone to let themselves get that way, and all people had to do to control their weight was stop eating, and just an entire rant about eating and weight loss and then after the rant he turned to me and said
'do you wanna go get something to eat?",,,,lol

I think I didn't want to eat for at least a WEEK after that rant,,,,



what have you heard from people in the same conversation that seems inconsistent or leading?

I think my sarcasm makes my comments confusing often. I usually think I recognize sarcasm in others, but sometimes it's a tough call.

its VERY hard in black and white, without the body language or facial clues that would usually give it away,,,

lol, yeah, IM sure we know when we are being sarcastic,, but others may not

I think it's easier to recognize if you're sarcastic yourself. Emoticons help.

the obese one of the groups you need not be politically correct with

Often times, the "true meaning", isn't in the black or white.
It's in the grey.

In my experience about 90% of any conversation is "inconsistent" or "leading."

Just because everyone wears masks.

That's one of the fun things about dating, learning who they are vs. how they see themselves vs. how you see them vs. how they are perceived by other people.


It's very hard but it's very fun, because it doesn't really matter if you are right or wrong.

I think that's a big part of the joys of the forums.


Sometimes people think they are being sarcastic but its really a motive to let out something deeper, or an attempt to hide something.
So, I think we sometimes know when we are being sarcastic, but tend to rationalize being sarcastic if it suits another person at other times, and can't (because we don't want to) know the difference.

not sure op easy when off line ...to understand unless you have watched their reasoning awhile on here with their answers...and their icons used ... you can misunderstand some but not in the case with what you posted with seemed rather insensitive to people and the way they look ... while you know it might not be just becouse of eating... some misunderstands me a lot and then if i give them more info like on here typing they just go well why didn't you just say that ... but i believe they always think I am being critical and take affiance when i don't mean it that way ... and if thats the case your really going to know how critical I can be and not a shame to tell them ... but that does not happen very often ... least i feel i don't to do that often...

I have learned from dealing with tourists that people have different mindsets. You have to go with the flow when you get olders and stuck in your "rut".

Probably because what they're saying is not funny.