Why is it after nearly six months I'm just now starting to heal and be able to move on? Its been maybe four months since I've talked to her, and I still can't delete her number from my phone. What's the longest its ever taken you to move on after a relationship has ended?

Well, about four years I couldn�t imagine myself with nobody else. But sometimes it takes only weeks. It depends.

5 years
got tierd of all the BS
after the x with then the x g.f. right after that
false hopes , dreams , lie's , etc etc etc

most people sadly don't tell you the facts
and hard to know what is on there mind, when they don't even know what they want

best wishes on your hunt : )

It's 11 months for me. Have been on a couple of dates but still can't move on.

When you totally invest in someone emotionally,
you are doing everything right.
The collateral damage afterwards is part of the deal.

Most say the pain is worth it.
Especially if you..learn.

So that when one comes along and makes you WANT to try
again, your heart tells you it has been worth the journey.

I think 4 years is long enough to get by them enough to move on.
It was for me.

For me, it has been 8 years since we parted ways, but some of my friends says I am still holding the torch for him.....something must have shown, or maybe I am still single and they feel I may want a reconciliation, or I don't socialize, or I don't look at other men.
But I don't think so......I could never get back that feeling. It would be spoil by the unpleasantness of our bitter fights.

For a single mom, it is difficult to start as my time is on providing for my family and the priority is to see them thru' the education first and foremost. So, if someone should come along and it happens, I will treasure it. If not....my focus will still be on my kids.

Took me 2 yrs. I'd say by the time a year had gone by I was functioning but I'd still get the occasional message from him. I almost went back a couple times but didn't thank goodness. But it was 2 yrs in total to not want to look back. It gets easier. Date, but don't get into anything for awhile.

As long as I found out someone didn't mean me any good,or DON'T,mean me any good,it makes it much easier for ME,to get over them and move on,experience thought me that,I use to be losing sleep over such BS,we never stop learning cause there's always more to learn,but I'm damn sure getting good at it,and i can't remember the longest it took me,but what I've also learned,is you definitely have to get rid of their contacts,no facebook,whatsapp,Skype,all that chit!!

Yes, when we go all in we take the risk of losing it all. I dont agree that its worth it though, if I could do it again, I wouldnt.

Been going with this ^^^^.....

To be honest I felt that I moved on and began seeing other women but in my heart I still loved my ex and really had not moved on.In my case it was about a year before I looked in the mirror and felt it was time to move forward.

Dude.....that is one of those questions that can never be answered. I dated a girl and when she and I broke up it took me a year to get her off my mind. Funny thing is after three years she is now calling me and texting me, saying that I was the one who got away. It's nice to hear but I have moved on. Now...had she said that during that year I couldn't forget her then I would have jumped right back into another relationship with her.

I guess sometimes you connect so strongly (in one certain aspect) with someone that when it's over you have a hard time moving on. There is just that something about them that makes it hard to let go. Maybe because of that connection you feel you didn't try hard enough? Or maybe you didn't communicate enough? I dunno what it is but I believe it happens to us all.

Recycling, is never a good idea.

i totally invested all of myself in her.....sometimes i thought the love was too much she couldn't handle it coz the love i gave her i could easily devide it amongst 15 people & they would still be fulfilled & content....

And i do know if i see her again she would come running into my arms....that bond we developed might never break....however the pain is not worth it....i had disappointments & heartache in my 20s & it taught me a lot....i would be stupid for it to happen in my 30s.....once again it only ended coz i was out of the country on some work & it delayed....i guess she got tired of waiting....but still contacted me recently & it f***kd me up emotionally


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So...Never? lol I have been thinking about deleting her number, just can't pull the trigger yet, so it will probably be soon. I think that will help move me forward, although I do find myself checking her Facebook page at rimes, were not friends on Feb though.

I gave her an eviction notice, but she just won't leave my mind. lol

Well,some tennants are thaaaaaaat stubborn!!! We can't really force them out,but it happens soon or later....long as we don't focus on them 24/7.... Time does wonders!!!

Yes its true time does heal & i figured that ages ago but enough of people saying time heals & all that.....f**k time & the healing or whatever...its best to moveup & focus on ones personal goals & livelihood...slap oneself in the face in a way & wakeup basically

True, the less I let my mind wonder to her, the more I'm able to move forward. I do feel bad letting her fade away, but she left me, so its either I let let her fade away or I waste away. My mother always said its a sin to let a good thing go to waste. :P

lol you drunkenly text her one night till she tells you to never call again. Then you cry and delete her number in spite to feel better. That is the only way to go!