In life we all have a choice of how we approach things. we can have a positive outlook and strive to accomplish what we want or we can have a pity party and blame others about why something is missing in our life.

at home we grew up with sexist ideas which were simply called old fashioned. the woman was supposed to take care of the inside chores.
the man was supposed to garden, be carpenter, mechanic, etc.
or so they said. yet my step dad, being retired, was the one teaching me how to do the housework and cooking. at the same time, since I followed him around and asked a million questions, he taught me about woodwork and simple car repairs.
what we eventually learned the hard way is he was teaching us to be self sufficient.
there won't always be a significant other in your life.
when he died, my then eleven year old brother became the 'man of the house'. what does a boy know about being a husband, provider, or anything?

you said your profile states you're a mom.
going by my mother's example, a mom works and does her best to take care of her children.
the best gift my mom gave to us is to know how to do for ourselves. to not have to depend upon anyone for your existence.

in the context of a relationship, this means being able to have an equal partnership. liking a person for what you mutually share. enjoying their company. sharing experiences and still being your own person. not being defined by someone else.

.. Wow.. crackalackin..lol..
I wish I had that option.... to work or stay at home... must be nice..lol