Just finished a quaint little movie and a scene inspired me to open this topic.
What grand gesture would you do for the one you love (are in love with)?

In the movie, the guy said to the gal "..I want to live in a world where grand gestures get the girl. So, here is my grand gesture..." he then played his Oboe for her right there on her front porch swing. He was very nervous, it sounded awful but she was very flattered and they absolutely made a connection.

I am fortunate to have 2 grand gestures made to me for my favor.
Late Hubby always told me "I have traveled the world, and came back home to find the Love of My Life, YOU"
My other relationship.....we had been together for about 3 months and his gift to me on my birthday was a piece of lidded pottery that had come from his grandmother...(it actually was awfully ugly, but an heirloom just the same). What he said when he gave it to me "I don't have a lot of money, I don't have good ideas about gifts, but I want to give you something very special because You are very special to me".

What would be your Grand Gesture to your love?

He's not an SO or anything, but he got me out of a heap of trouble, still does....I think that's pretty grand...

Nothing romantic or movie line worthy, but hey, love is love...

(((Mel)))

Depends on the one I'm in love with.

The grand gesture is only a relevant grand gesture if she see's it as a grand gesture.

Usually they are either creepy, manipulative, or both.


Helps when you have writers as gods that make people have connections and they can end the movie on the premise that they lived "happily ever after."

IME most of the time people that make grand gestures are doing so out of desperation because they feel the other person slipping away, or there is an expanding distance, so want to try to "fix" something by doing something "grand."

It just delays the inevitable.

IOW relationships are a marathon not a sprint.
A grand gesture is done when one senses they are losing the race so try a quick burst of speed. It keeps them even for a little bit, but eventually they pay for it.


To make it so grand gestures are never necessary or desired.

One man I was with, serenaded me. It was quite sweet. He could be a bit of a show off all the same.


I'd probably try not to make it about buying anything for him. However, I've always thought about buying them a promise ring. I want to make it look meaningful.

grand gestures cool.well at 19 I went to morocco with my friend for her wedding to Radouane.i met his brother and when I came back we wrote letters talked on phone etc for ages.i kept going back and the final time I went back I married him and stayed there,so I gave up my country and everything for love.it lasted 18 yrs so I think it was a pretty grand gesture on my behalf .

Committing my life to them. It hasn't worked, so far.

Thank You

It does not have to be romantic or movie line worthy to be IMPORTANT to the ones involved That's why I asked the question...it's different for everyone and thought it would be fun to hear others stories.



Yes they are ciretom....just not necessarily as you may think they should be. It can be anything as simple as an "I love you" or as grand as a big production of expensive gifts or what-have-you, or anywhere in between. Small or big, a grand gesture is always present when peeps fall in love.

OOOOOO...a promise ring for a man??!! Hadn't thought or heard of that one. That sounds cool!

Being serenaded also sounds very cool to experience.

Simply to be my best friend

I do have a plan to take her on a rowing boat on a lake somewhere and feed the ducks

I got several grand gestures that meant and mean so very much to me but only once from a SO - and that was complex of little gestures that made me feel secure and loved. His big gesture was to show me what love truly is and how it feels. If he wasn�t part of my life I might be very bitter now and not capable to belive in love. He saved me.

Other grand gesture was from my best friend - he suggested me to get married in order to get citizenship here. Life of a foreigner in a foreign country is very crucial and he knew it. I cried overwhelmed by his offer and friendly love he showed. but I rejected it - for two reasons: he would sacrifies 5 years of his life and probably his relationship with his girlfriend to help me. And the other thing was that I belive in marriage as a union of two people who really love each other. I couldn�t do it for any other reason.

One another was from my another friend who helped me when I started to doubt of myself, meaning of my life, when I was in a such deep depression that I was praying to die, that my life has no sense, that maybe everything I belived in is just an illusion in this world. He didn�t say too much, but he showed me by being who he is that it has meaning and it is golden way. Not easy but so very worthy. He lives all the values I belived and still belive in. He saved my life by being example for me, by being simply himself, by his understanding and by his support when I needed it. And when I wasn�t able to communicate almost with anyone else of my friends.
For each of them I would give the last drop of my blood if needed. because that is what their actions meant for me.

I actually do not believe in grandiose gestures to show love..
oh when I was 23? Sure it would have swept me off my feet and blown me away
Now?moonlight and roses and poems and love songs and expensive dinners.or jewlery or writing your name in skies belong in movies

Its not that I am against being romantic..just think that it clouds the issue and it may make it difficult to distinguish how you feel for the person from how you feel for what they do for you

my grand gesture... to cut her loose..
its the best thing I could give her..

Tmom...I understand what you are saying. I still WANT romance, though. No, I don't want it to cloud his or my judgement, but I DO WANT IT

no1....that actually is very sweet Not everyone can admit that it is the best thing sometimes.