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Edited by
no1phD
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Sat 07/18/15 09:23 PM
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to your online family and friends..hmm. what do your family and friends think about... You being online..
I tell my friends! about all of you.. well!. most of you..lol.... most of my friends and family get it ,and understand but my sister my youngest sister.. thinks I'm crazy and she's probably right!...lol.... But I don't introduce women I know from my offline.life .. to my online life.. that would just be awkward..wink..lol... well ..there is just one woman.. Who I am slowly introducing. her to my online life.. she seems to understand and knows I need a place to be creative..... a place to release stress outside of the bedroom that is...lol.... but I digress.  .. back to my little sister.. she always says you don't really know them.. how can you spend time.. talking to complete strangers.?. I say well sis.. there not exactly strangers...! . she said yes but you don't really know them? you've never met them..?.. . I say to her I know them pretty well.. . and we carry on conversation.. exchange information.. and have a lot of fun together.... .. so why do you have such a problem with it..?.. she says I don't know its just you don't know them..... and you have never met them..... I tell her it's no different than texting one of your friends.. . she just does not seem to get it..  so do you have any friends or family.. that just don't get it..?  .. . |
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My family and friends tell me I should pay for an online site that is not international.
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Well hell..I introduced my Sweet Miss Rains to a whole
passel of relatives at my family reunion this weekend. They are all happy for us and wish us the best. They don't think I'm any more wacked than they did before. |
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Yes.. and see boys and girls..^^.. all the positive things that can come from being online..
.. try telling my sister that though..lmao.. 
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Nope, none of my friends or family get it and when I did meet someone they all jumped up and down loudly.
At the end of the day, it is our life to live, not theirs, but it is nice of them to care. |
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<shrug>
my x g.f. talked to my father and x parent in laws and she was all the way in japan wait so if you meet someone in person you know them ? ? ? |
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Exactly!! I don't understand what meeting someone has to do with knowing them ?..any more personally than you would get to know from talking to them either through texting or face to face?
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But again try explaining that ! .to my little sister lol
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Edited by
no1phD
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Sat 07/18/15 09:44 PM
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I can't tell you ,how many dinner dates I went on with her and her husband ..and got into a huge argument with her about being online..
she just can't wrap her head around it.. No matter how I explain it to her lol |
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best wishes with that : )
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I can't tell you ,how many dinner dates I went on with her and her husband ..and got into a huge argument with her about being online.. she just can't wrap her head around it.. No matter how I explain it to her lol No one, who has not experienced it, can grasp the potential intensity of an online relationship. They can come out of nowhere. On day you are just chatting, as usual, when you realize it has gone far beyond that. It is real in every way. Except...you have not met. Until you meet, it is just high hopes. Until you meet, you can call it love. But after you meet, you will know for sure. |
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Well personally for me my first clue it has gone well beyond chatting is when I have my pants down around my ankles lol sorry I couldn't resist
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Well personally for me my first clue it has gone well beyond chatting is when I have my pants down around my ankles lol sorry I couldn't resist And you have no memory of how they got there? |
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Well in that case then it's really true love lol
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Awwww... I know !so sweet right?
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Lol my family thinks it's funny when I tell them stuff and they are laughing
Mum tells me to be careful. My siblings thinks its like mail order husband. (what ever) Kids waiting to put him through the testing I put their partners through I say its mates on line that your learn from with laughter. Best friends both have said it's good they don't live to close cause one of you is enough. |
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so do you have any friends or family.. that just don't get it..? No. We're smart enough to understand this: you don't know them..... and you have never met them..... rather than rationalize. we carry on conversation There was a lady in Iowa that had a pet chimp. She ate with the chimp, bathed with the chimp, carried on conversations with the chimp, loved the chimp, treated the chimp just like her kid. Other people "just didn't get it." Then the chimp ripped the face off of her friend. You never really know people you interact with personally, face to face, on a day to day basis. At best you get to observe their behavior over a length of time and determine what is consistent. No one can control all of their behavior, all of their indirect communication, all of their immediate reactions and how they "truly" feel.....except online. Online is a controlled environment. Anyone can edit themselves. Anyone can build up a personality, and even maintain it for a while offline. If you believe you have any kind of meaningful relationship based solely or primarily in a controlled environment, on online interaction, then you're just deluding yourself that a chimp is your kid. You may get to avoid getting your face ripped off because you can always keep them at a distance behind a screen. That safety net doesn't make it real, change their nature, or remove the risk, though, and it limits the depth of the relationship considerably since you don't get the "real" uncontrolled feedback. Unless of course you are only capable of maintaining shallow relationships and like to call acquaintances "friends" because having a bunch of online acquaintances sounds pathetic. No one, who has not experienced it, can grasp the potential intensity of an online relationship. Just like no one can understand the true love fanboys had for Lara Croft after playing tomb raider. Or the true, intense, passionate, care and love, people have for celebrities. These all lead to realistic relationships based on true knowledge of the other person, and not solely in the minds of the people interacting with a controlled character from a distance...just like online interaction. But I will admit at the time, in the middle of infatuation, without any kind of conflict to the contrary, the guys totally in love with video game Lara Croft, or Cindy Crawford, or Tom Cruise, truly felt "intensity" in their relationship with those people. So she just does not seem to get it. I'm not sure it's her that does not seem to get it. |
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Well, my sister has used dating sites herself, my brother thinks it's cool that I've managed to pull women half my age on here and my dad thinks that anyone that I date is a tart anyway. My mother thought that it was good that I did this and got dates and girlfriends out of it as well, although because of the way they were she doesn't seem to think that I should keep doing this now and I kind of agree with her about that.
As far as what you say about internet "friends" being no different from real people that you know in the real world goes, I'm afraid that's just bollocks. It's just not the same at all and I don't take anyone that I have only had emails from seriously and certainly don't get emotionally involved with them. I've even told my family about "women" that I've chatted with and told them how I doubt that they're genuine and how they waste your time, mess you about and even try to scam you. |
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so do you have any friends or family.. that just don't get it..? No. We're smart enough to understand this: you don't know them..... and you have never met them..... rather than rationalize. we carry on conversation There was a lady in Iowa that had a pet chimp. She ate with the chimp, bathed with the chimp, carried on conversations with the chimp, loved the chimp, treated the chimp just like her kid. Other people "just didn't get it." Then the chimp ripped the face off of her friend. You never really know people you interact with personally, face to face, on a day to day basis. At best you get to observe their behavior over a length of time and determine what is consistent. No one can control all of their behavior, all of their indirect communication, all of their immediate reactions and how they "truly" feel.....except online. Online is a controlled environment. Anyone can edit themselves. Anyone can build up a personality, and even maintain it for a while offline. If you believe you have any kind of meaningful relationship based solely or primarily in a controlled environment, on online interaction, then you're just deluding yourself that a chimp is your kid. You may get to avoid getting your face ripped off because you can always keep them at a distance behind a screen. That safety net doesn't make it real, change their nature, or remove the risk, though, and it limits the depth of the relationship considerably since you don't get the "real" uncontrolled feedback. Unless of course you are only capable of maintaining shallow relationships and like to call acquaintances "friends" because having a bunch of online acquaintances sounds pathetic. No one, who has not experienced it, can grasp the potential intensity of an online relationship. Just like no one can understand the true love fanboys had for Lara Croft after playing tomb raider. Or the true, intense, passionate, care and love, people have for celebrities. These all lead to realistic relationships based on true knowledge of the other person, and not solely in the minds of the people interacting with a controlled character from a distance...just like online interaction. But I will admit at the time, in the middle of infatuation, without any kind of conflict to the contrary, the guys totally in love with video game Lara Croft, or Cindy Crawford, or Tom Cruise, truly felt "intensity" in their relationship with those people. So she just does not seem to get it. I'm not sure it's her that does not seem to get it. ^^^^ YES YES YES !!! So true. But...in defense of those whose family & friends don't "get" their online relationships/friendships, it helps to look at it like this: some people compartmentalize everything & everyone. There are work friends, college friends & friends from _______ (fill in blank w/whatever social/hobby organization you belong to). These types of people would just not be comfortable introducing their work friends to their college friends or their knitting club friends etc. These people have to be in control of every aspect of the life they are living & that includes who socializes w/who. Maybe the OP sister is like that? |
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Well, my family actually when I started out thought I was nuts way back when. As the years have gone by and I have made some great life long friends out here they accept it.
I do have one sister that tells me all the time that it isn't possible to have real friendships with people on the internet since they can't be real... Doesn't matter that I have one friend I made in the first month of being on the internet way way back and we are as close as can be. One of my closest female friend is someone I met via a dating site... I don't even try to share this lifestyle with others, that I know won't get it unless I want to for entertainment value only.. |
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