weak and insecure in men?

you hear it all the time, "he was weak" "He was insecure" etc


my questions is when do consider him to be one of these?

is it when he can't open the pickle jar?
or is it when he doesn't want to see you naked around your ex?

where is the line drawn?

It is when they are overly defensive.

Symptoms of weakness and insecurity = jealousy when he sees me around another more attractive man, always stating how he wishes he was as smart as me, telling me that he doesn't like it when I tell him that a man paid me a compliment, telling me that he is jealous when I talk about other men in my life, just general lack of confidence that he can keep me and hold on to me. Hence, this sense of a desirable woman being too good for him and the fear that she will eventually dump him and find someone better because he knows that she can.

Hummm myself I call one that is is weak is one that can not think on their own.. Have to have someone to think for them. Or one that can not stand up to what they believe. They seem to let others over run them. Jmo~~~~

One thing that is being weak and insecure is when he tells you things simply because he thinks it's what you want to hear. Be honest with what you want and how you feel.

Weak - lack of conviction and integrity of self.

Insecure - raises self up / feels better thru the suffering of another. Crab mentality. Bully.

Applies to both sexes.

There is so many ways I consider a person weak..This is going to be for either gender... I do believe each person has weaknesses it is up to the person to realize it and make a choice either build strength or embrace the weakness..

When a person takes the easy road every time... I consider this a huge flaw, when they gripe about things and yet will take no action to better the situation.

When a person gives their word on something and find reasons not to fulfill it and in their minds they are still being honest.

The desire to stand on anothers shoulders to be taller, instead of doing the work to get there themselves.


Negativity is a huge weakness in my mind. We all have moments of being negative the weakness comes in when a person chooses to stay there instead of finding ways to make it better.

Signs of strength to me is when a person realizes where they are weak and make the choice to build strength by changing themselves for themselves not for someone else.

For example,everyone is insecure in someway It is a choice to wallow in the pity party or pull themselves up.

One of my huge pet peeves and turn off's is when someone puts themselves down and expects someone to make a flattering comment. I get sick of that really quick. I think this would be the number one deal breaker for me in the beginning stages of getting to know you... I will support someone for so long then I get tired of the constant building.

I walk...

when someone monopolizes the conversation
a conversation is a two way street
you talk and then you listen

when someone says they will do something and changes their mind at last minute and justifies it


when someone spends all their time crying in their beer or blaming others for everything in their life that did not go right

when they play the whoas me victim

when everything out of their mouth is negative

when they put others down and get some kind of amusement out of it

when they are a used car salesman..they manipulate and spin the truth according to what may gain them an advantage


when they continuously choose the path of least resistance
being right is seldom easy

when they take everything seriously, are easily offended and have no sense of humor and the inability to laugh at themselves

when they are looking for a hand holder and cannot make a decision without other people telling them what to do

Pity seeking blows.