This is a question for the more mature ladies.

How realistic do you think that it is to expect to get a man that isn't a bit of an old git?

Hun, they can be an 'old git' at 25.

It is enviable.
I like grumpy. You have a problem with that? jk


Younger people can be grumpy too, they just don't know it or admit it. Or they call it something else.
Older people tend to worry less about what other people think. So in a way, it is a more honest way to live. Imo. It certainly is more freeing.

I have no problem saying
"I am in a bad mood",
" Get away from me",
" I don't care ". And I respect people, even if I don't like them, if they are honest with themselves.. at least.

I also laugh a hell of a lot more also, including at myself. And I appreciate the little things in life that matter & things I use to take for granted.

There is a greater honesty or maybe just more forthcoming to the positive as well. If I like you or love you or think you are funny, spiritual etc.. I am going to tell you.
If I don't tell you... it is not because I am grumpy, it is because I don't think so.

Yeah, it's like this story this guy told me once about this girl whose friends were giving her a lot of crap and when he asked her why she was putting up with it she said, "Because they're my friends." That's pretty sad but I guess that made her a nice person? Or a doormat.

Why was it important to be popular at school? Can anyone remember? Was it because you didn't want to be bullied or shunned by the cool kids? So that you could get a girlfriend or boyfriend? Now that you've left school do you still care about being popular?

Yes, it is sad. Some people learn to live for themselves & the people they love & their spiritual life & others are so concerned about opinions & being liked & not offending .. that they really are not living their own life.
Others have to learn it. Sometimes the hard way, that people pleasing will probably make you a doormat & miserable inside. So they aren't fooling anyone. Imo.

Wow... I haven't thought about this stuff for years, I honestly don't worry if people like me or not. For every person that doesn't there is one that does.

As far as being a doormat because I am accepting of my friends and what they are going through Nope.. Just compassionate I believe a whole lot of difference

How do you think someone becomes an old git?
The women in his life?
The lack of women in his life?
Both?
Or is it in the genes?

Of course some people are "grumpy old men" due to health reasons and constantly being in pain that they may not realize they are in due to it being pervasive and constant so they just got used to it and it's always in the background.


Fear.
Basic innate atavistic fear of being ostracized.
No different than what monkeys or lions or horses feel when they are kicked out of the troop/pride/herd and forced to find another.

People need groups to feel safe, secure, wanted, purposeful.
The safest is being in the "best" one.
Of course then you get conflicts between groups over which is the best one.
Which leads to racism, violence, war, bullying, etc.


You know how people use forums as chat rooms?
Arguing, bickering, or just constantly adding their opinion over and over, trying to have some kind of debate, or pretending they are building relationships with online "friends?"
That's basically people competing to be "popular."

If you've participated more than once in a forum, you care about being popular.
If you've ever used a forum to complain about someone, especially someone specifically noting how they did something wrong and how you'd do it differently, you care about being popular.


Just a normal human being.

Some abuse victims stay with their abusive spouse simply because they believe everyone is in the same type of relationship they are, that abuse is just the norm, that no matter what they are going to be abused.
Better to be abused and with someone, than all alone.

Look at prisoners. They'd rather suffer the violence and rapes and general prison social system than be in isolated cells.

People simply can't handle not belonging to a group, being isolated.

I don't know about that. You can get more attention on a forum by being unpopular and saying contraversial things. You don't have to be looking for some people to agree with you when you post a rant.

I'm a master at posting rant threads. I'm permanently banned from the flame forum that I was on for managing to piss almost everybody off. I got a thread about feminism locked for posting something that was so vile and awful that the site admin couldn't let it go on and they never lock threads there because it's a flame forum. I considered it to have been a personal acomplishment.

You're not trying to be popular when you play internet tough guy. You maybe amuse and entertain some people but it's a reall narcissistic thing because everyone is attacking you and calling you a prick, so you get to call them a bunch of sheep that are getting on the bullying bandwagon and they're picking on someone that's different. You're different because you're not really a dipshit that gets all butt hurt over something that someone posts on the internet.

I am not grumpy Nor am I old
Nothing you can say will convince me otherwise.

ciretom quote

Of course some people are "grumpy old men" due to health reasons and constantly being in pain that they may not realize they are in due to it being pervasive and constant so they just got used to it and it's always in the background.

Women can be grumpy because of health reasons as well. My ex had arthritis. People can be grumpy for all sorts of reasons. In extreme cases they become psychotic or psycopathic. A person can induce a psychotic state through the use of drugs, alcohol or the like and then he becomes the divine madman that is shaman to the tribe.

yes indeedy I like em a little older and a bit on the grumpy side

hahaha ye it's a weird thing with me



maybe it's cause I had grumpy grandpa's growing up

I prefer the term cranky geezer to grumpy old man if it's all the same to you.

I would imagine it would be pretty easy to get them.. just kick ther walking stick out from underneath them.. easy peasy..

ppfffft I will steal the remote

..I am in love with her mmmhhmm..sooo hot

so you can turn the stereo up louder????

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A little rough around the edges is A-ok, but actually grumpy all the time?!...no, that does not appeal to me.

I think that at this age, peeps are certainly set in their ways, which may be taken as grumpy. If someone is actually mean-grumpy, I lose interest quickly.

I'm not grumpy. I just don't care anymore. There was a time when I would hold back what I thought. Now, It doesn't bother me one bit to say exactly what I think and how I feel straight to whomever's face. And smile while I'm doing it. And if you manage to kick my walking stick out from under me, you better be quick. You better run. That's all I'm gonna say about that.