Guys there are a lot of posts for single moms. We need to know what the guys go thru or face. Are guys as maternal as women? Is it harder for men to be moms? Dating; do you bring up the fact that you come with a bundle of joy? If so how long before you bring it up? Thx in adv. For posting!

Are guys as maternal as women?


RUN.... While you still can

Well who didn't see that comming???

PATERNAL .

Quick delete it & I delete it...

Well I was talking about single Dad's ability to be maternal. Mom like.

Yanno...I have seen some single dad's that were better mother's than women and I have seen some single mom's better at being dad than some dads.

Personally I think it comes down to the person themselves.

I know I raised my kids basically alone for 12 years.. I had to teach my boyz about sex.. fighting.. hunting all the manly things. And I didn't do too bad of a job I have great son's and great daughters. Yet I as a parent wished it could have been a two parent household.

When do you tell? that you are a package deal..
Right off the bat.
I would tell the men that I was dating I am a package deal and if and when we decide that maybe sorta of we might become exclusive I would bring kids into the equation slowly and in a totally relaxed way.

I was very cautious about my children being involved with my lovelife. I believe in setting the example of what I expected from my children.

I raised two kids by myself(24/7 no breaks)and you do have to be both paternal and maternal(in some respects).
Working, shopping, cooking, cleaning, laundry and helping with school work and activities takes a lot out of you.
Specially when they are young. It takes a lot of sacrifice and love to get them through it all.
Depending on their age, there isn't much time for relationships or dating.
Hopefully you can meet someone while you are enjoying activities with the kids at the beach, school programs etc.

Sitka,
I belive you were a great Frontier woman, in another life! Great post!

See, that's what I'm talking about. Thanks for the post!

Aww I don't know I did what I had to do...
Still that way dang it...

** Were to start
* "Are guys as maternal as women?" Government owns the product, female staff look after the inventory with quality inspection by supervisors. Union fee's and benefit's are also paid by the three levels of Government.
* "Is it harder for men to be moms?" Historically this was common, as training in the use of swords. A preteen Page was at times unruly and a firm gauntlet was needed.
* "We need to know what the guys go thru or face" Hell's-fury in a bankrupt board meeting is easy compared to societies shivering chill. Just the thought "single-dad with children 24x7, is heretic.
* "Are guys as maternal as women?" Personally I feel guys have a stronger deeper passion. Poets/ writers/ revolutionaries, all for the social good. Do females stop at the side of a road to help a stranded stranger?
* "Dating; do you bring up the fact that you come with a bundle of joy?" Up front and center, with-in minutes of any conversation. I find the "chaff" is quickly sorted and quality known. Dating is way to formal and reminds me of youngsters. Friends I do need, if a closer relationship "sprouts" mutually great. My children are kept very private from my "close relationship". They have a mom.
* "Guys there are a lot of posts for single moms" Social change is a fact.
Why: A single guy involved with a mother, often will accept her children and in time will love them 100% . I am not so sure about the reverse. Call it um, a women's instinctive drive?

** Rare exotic species all but extinct/ Single dad 24x7

(this took me an hour of thinking)

Wow that was very insightful. You started a bit Orwellian, but it came toghether nicely.

Since I obviously am not a guy I can't give a guys view point for experience but when I had kids I dated almost exclusively guys with kids and now I hear a lot from younger guys who have kids and they tell me how tough it is.

I think it really depends on the guy but most of the Dad's I know are a lot more maternal than they are given credit for. Maybe it is because the one's I dated were custodial parents. And; I do not think it was as often a case of inadequate Mothering skills as they just were into being parents which I don't think is a defined by gender.

Is it harder for Dad's to be Mom's?

Yea I think so because women are socialized from childhood most often to know some of the typical Mom things; especially for infants. But that is not true across the board on some of the most important skills; like structure, that the buck stops with the Parent, discipline, and dealing with crisis which is another way to spell kids. lol

How long to tell that you have kids.

Maybe one percent of the time I did not hear it as pretty much the second sentence out of a guys mouth behind my name is ----. While I always thought it was kind of weird if he did not mention it on the first date I was always kind of relieved when it was not the soul topic of conversation.

I generally asked if they did not say because I was dating in a military community and military Dad's often don't get a fair shot at visitation or custody you did not always know if a guy had kids. A fact that was not always easy for a guy to say since many had a hard time that the career made it hard to be a Dad. Almost non existent as a custodial Dad.

Civilian Dad's were maybe slightly slower to tell that they had the kids because I think it was rare for Dad's to have kids unless the Mom had issues or died; kind of a where do we take the conversation now thing.

A single dad doesn't have to be maternal. He has to be paternal.