IT IS OFTEN NOTICED THAT WOMAN ARE ALWAYS SILENT...
IN SUCH FRIENDSHIP SITES AT LEASE WOMAN HAS TO BE OPEN MINDED....
THEY ALWAYS RISE THEIR VOICE FOR GENDER EQUALITY BUT WHY THEY DONT TAKE INETIATIVE...

Some women, being feminine by nature, prefer to wait instead of chasing men.

Not all women are 'silent'...

Choice is a beautiful thing...

Yup (nodding)

It's not fear, some women just don't want to because they prefer to be asked or contacted first, a preference born out of culture, this is just my opinion.

I agree. Women like the man to approach them - I know I do.

I live in Australia - so looking in Australia for my someone special.

To me, one needs to be settled and happy within themselves before they
are ready for a relationship.

I agree with Angeinthebox.

Maybe they are silent were you come from. Here in the States, the loud and proud and we like like dat boiy!

So gender equality means we have to take the initiative to start a relationship?
I think you have a long ways to go before you get gender equality ...

meh.. we have to be in the right frame of mind at the time/moment..
timing is everything..

uh ...ya there's gotta be something there worth responding to

Same reason a lot of men fear to contact women.
Fear of rejection which is ultimately fear of being ostracized.
Women are hit harder, feel it harder, than men do.
Men are pretty much born being superfluous.
Most cultures have built up a whole patriarchal system to validate men so they don't feel superfluous, also setting up a system for competition.

It all boils down to babies.
1 guy can impregnate most women.
1 woman can only be impregnated by 1 guy.
Fewer men are necessary. Of the men necessary women want the best one.

So, you get civilization for people to protect themselves, procure food and basic necessities, then you get culture to help with the procreation aspects.

And then you get used to the system and people rationalize away their fear.

Then it's "I'm not SCARED of being rejected, nope, I don't feel fear. Fear feels bad and I only want to feel good. So, uh, I don't ask men out because...well...that's the way it's supposed to be! That's the way I was taught! Because the men are supposed to do the chasing."
Or "I do contact men...if they've communicated they're the 'right' man. It's not about fear! Nope. Fear feels bad, I wanna feel good, so I don't feel fear, if I repeat it often enough then it comes true and I'm better than others because fear is a weakness, yep yep yep."


That's been your experience?
That women are silent?
Women are never silent.
People are never silent.
At best they may not be speaking, but they're never silent.


No such creature exists. Man or woman.
"Open minded" is an illusion.
At best it's "I like to see myself as open minded, so I have to adopt the behavioral traits that communicate I'm open minded."
People aren't open minded. They are image conscious.
Image helps determine their social status within their group.


There's another myth.
No one wants equality.
They just want what they think are the opportunities, benefits, and power they perceive other people/groups have without any of the associated costs or responsibility they don't want to admit other people/groups assume.

Yeah, why don't wemens yell more?

I'd have to say it's probably more like, if the woman isn't interested, why would she message?

Actually it happens all the time .. all those nudges I mean .. looks something like a real interest to me, but the trouble is that winking and blowing kisses is the whole thing .. just send them hello note and they disappear for good lol

Edit: They're teasers

all depends on the person
i know both of each ie . females that ask as well as males that dont

Hmmm...I think perhaps that on the whole, women tend to need more substance to communication.
Men are typically quite comfortable with one word replies and whatnot.
I know for me personally, when I make an effort to have an intelligent conversation by reaching out to a man, their one word or one sentence replies leave me smacking my head on my keyboard, or rolling my eyes.
If someone sends me a one word message...guaranteed I will not reply.
Hope that doesn't sound too harsh?

If I see someone who has potential, and I send a thoughtful message, I hope to receive some thought in their response.

To sum it up...the lack of adequate communication from the majority of men makes me unmotivated to contact them first.

usually I have a three message rule

1. intial greeting such as HI or hello or what's up
2. my response to that greeting
3. now what? ball is in his court..if he drops it or dribbles...I am outta here

dribbling and holding the ball are part of the sport...ball control is a critical skill and involves brain and instinct ..reading words written and those not written can help evolve a reparte to friendship