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Topic: what is ur turning point in life?
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Mon 10/31/16 04:50 PM

everybody must has somethin that somehow make a big change in their life. what make u change? what is ur turning point? seems like im lost of purpose..i need somethin..


what is ur turning point in life
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A think the hard right across 3 lanes of traffic.

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Mon 10/31/16 06:01 PM

Change your perspective. Determine to be happy in spite of the circumstances.


If he's the cynical type like me, that's far easier said than done. That's like telling someone with clinical depression to just get over it or someone with Alzheimer's to just remember stuff.

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Mon 10/31/16 07:10 PM
Edited by SimpyComplicated on Mon 10/31/16 07:33 PM


Change your perspective. Determine to be happy in spite of the circumstances.


If he's the cynical type like me, that's far easier said than done. That's like telling someone with clinical depression to just get over it or someone with Alzheimer's to just remember stuff.

Or just build a bridge and get over it.(One of my pet hates) Without a plan.

BUT

Give a picture and a plan can be constructed if possibility is conceived.

As you say it is easier said than done

BUT

Learning that one can change ones perspective and that what ever perspective you have at any one time is not the only true perspective is a very powerful and helpful perspective :-)

Also

Learning that its not what happens but how you react that is the greater decider in the outcome is helpful

If you decide it is impossible it will be hard to find possibility

If you decide it is possible you shall look for possibilities

If you think you know all possibilities, you are wrong!!!!


DMA'S cover Cher 'Believe' for Like A Version
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MmwFnoMoDDg

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Mon 10/31/16 07:39 PM

everybody must has somethin that somehow make a big change in their life. what make u change? what is ur turning point? seems like im lost of purpose..i need somethin..


Mine was my divorce.

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Mon 10/31/16 11:32 PM
Edited by SimpyComplicated on Mon 10/31/16 11:35 PM


everybody must has somethin that somehow make a big change in their life. what make u change? what is ur turning point? seems like im lost of purpose..i need somethin..


The turning point is when you stop relying on other people and find strength within yourself to reach your goals. I don't mean turn to god and become religious, that's one way to empower yourself but it is false and no better than relying on other people. People are false, deceptive and self serving and there are very few that are not. You can only rely on you and the sooner you can learn that the better. Having someone at your side is nice, the real icing on the cake but them being there can't be expected or relied upon.

It is human nature to rely on those around us but American culture pushes us apart in so many ways including fear and superficiality.

So set goals, long term and short. Take baby steps towards those goals, every step is a small triumph. Get a hobby or healthy addiction to fill the gaps along the way. Get a regular sleep/wake schedule that works for your mind/body and if within your means eat healthy.

You are in charge of your life and if you aren't for any reason then you need to get into a situation in which you are, make a life change because if you aren't happy, what do you have to lose?

Oh and if you regularly listen to hard rap or death metal, stop it. That crap is horrible for people that have emotional issues. But too much soft sad music isn't good either, try listening to upbeat music that makes you feel good.


Good advice there from Lazarus102^

Julie_lol
You have stated that you are without purpose and bored

Boredom is just another way of saying I haven't found value

It may surprise you but NOTHING has any value other than the value you assign to it.

This does not mean that there is no value to be found in life.
In fact the opposite is true
Start by learning to value "what is" then add what value you can to it



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Tue 11/01/16 06:28 AM



Change your perspective. Determine to be happy in spite of the circumstances.


If he's the cynical type like me, that's far easier said than done. That's like telling someone with clinical depression to just get over it or someone with Alzheimer's to just remember stuff.

Or just build a bridge and get over it.(One of my pet hates) Without a plan.

BUT

Give a picture and a plan can be constructed if possibility is conceived.

As you say it is easier said than done

BUT

Learning that one can change ones perspective and that what ever perspective you have at any one time is not the only true perspective is a very powerful and helpful perspective :-)

Also

Learning that its not what happens but how you react that is the greater decider in the outcome is helpful

If you decide it is impossible it will be hard to find possibility

If you decide it is possible you shall look for possibilities

If you think you know all possibilities, you are wrong!!!!


DMA'S cover Cher 'Believe' for Like A Version
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MmwFnoMoDDg



True to some extent but that's why I said what I said in my other post. simply trying to change one's perspective without changing what brought you to feel that way in the first place will only bring you full circle to where you started and feeling the same way. Believe me, I've been on the same treadmill for over a decade. One thing that must be understood as well is that real change takes time. Never expect change overnight. Build a plan, build steps to achieve the goal at the end of that plan but be prepared to wait 1-5 years to see that change that you strive for and if that seems like a long time then think about how you'll feel 1-5 years from now if you do nothing. A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.

murphysstrings's photo
Tue 11/01/16 12:17 PM

my life has been loaded of successive turning points that made me believe it's a formula 1 circuit , not a life


Mine, too, Fox. whoa

murphysstrings's photo
Tue 11/01/16 12:20 PM
shades I don't mean to be dismissive, but it's a mindset. Either life happens to you, or you happen to life. It can get you down, but don't stay down.

inni_dreamz's photo
Tue 11/01/16 02:30 PM
My Father's death, the birth of my children,, getting the job I've had for 20 years, meeting new people, falling in love, losing in love... Waking up each day, and holding on to hope.

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Wed 11/23/16 02:40 PM


everybody must has somethin that somehow make a big change in their life. what make u change? what is ur turning point? seems like im lost of purpose..i need somethin..


The turning point is when you stop relying on other people and find strength within yourself to reach your goals. I don't mean turn to god and become religious, that's one way to empower yourself but it is false and no better than relying on other people. People are false, deceptive and self serving and there are very few that are not. You can only rely on you and the sooner you can learn that the better. Having someone at your side is nice, the real icing on the cake but them being there can't be expected or relied upon.

It is human nature to rely on those around us but American culture pushes us apart in so many ways including fear and superficiality.

So set goals, long term and short. Take baby steps towards those goals, every step is a small triumph. Get a hobby or healthy addiction to fill the gaps along the way. Get a regular sleep/wake schedule that works for your mind/body and if within your means eat healthy.

You are in charge of your life and if you aren't for any reason then you need to get into a situation in which you are, make a life change because if you aren't happy, what do you have to lose?

Oh and if you regularly listen to hard rap or death metal, stop it. That crap is horrible for people that have emotional issues. But too much soft sad music isn't good either, try listening to upbeat music that makes you feel good.

I like this and as of now taken this on board and started this list .so true my wize man thank you i see the light now

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Wed 11/23/16 05:14 PM

When I realized any day on this side of the dirt is a good one.happy

Second that. I reply to "How ya doin'?" from cashiers et cetera with "Six feet up and still sucking air." :smile:

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Thu 11/24/16 10:01 PM

everybody must has somethin that somehow make a big change in their life. what make u change? what is ur turning point? seems like im lost of purpose..i need somethin..

Julie hang in there. Everyday is a new day some are exciting, some are routine,some are ho hum regardless, some are stressful it is always something to look forward to! you may not see it today but you may when you look back in time.think
tunrning points for me were each time i obtained new employment, birth of my son and death of my daughter, becoming born again, dealing with family sickness, sons kidney transplant, etc, etc.flowers

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Fri 11/25/16 03:32 AM
Topic: what is ur turning point in life?

When my passenger yelled, "You missed the exit!"

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Tue 12/13/16 09:32 AM
I am still going full speed ahead
do not look left or right
do not pass go or collect 200 quid

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Tue 12/13/16 10:49 AM

When I realized any day on this side of the dirt is a good one.happy


I reached this "turning point" after the first day of being in a war.

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Tue 12/13/16 11:16 AM
It was a series of turns in Luxembourg city, actually.

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Tue 12/13/16 03:10 PM
Topic: what is ur turning point in life?

When I saw this sign:


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Mon 12/19/16 09:03 AM
Edited by Plentyofheart76 on Mon 12/19/16 09:03 AM
when God gave me to two angels(my kids) who make me smile daily.

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Mon 12/19/16 09:34 AM
Edited by msharmony on Mon 12/19/16 09:45 AM
three more to add:

the first I can recall was when I was in grade school

I am the only girl with four older brothers and the two youngest used to occasionally get in serious physical altercations,,,


I remember one particularly bad one,,,involving a garden spike,,,and obviously very harsh words and feelings afterwards,,,


This tension went on for two days and then, on the third day, I came home from school and my brothers were playing basketball together....

I remember thinking how much energy had been wasted in those three days, just to have things go back to 'normal',,,,I actually remember deciding that I would not waste time staying angry or bummed over anything or anyone,,,,, and to this day I 'recover' emotionally pretty quickly


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The second was when I was stranded in Skokie Illinois(Klan country) as a teen, being very trusting and naive at the time, I accepted the 'help' of a young man who had his own place and offered me shelter for the evening , claiming he would have someone take a look at my car the next day

anyway, long story short, he locked me in and I was assaulted and I remember thinking that if I got out, instead of being angry with him, I would use the experience to learn and not be so naive in the future


I have, by grace or effort, avoided being assaulted since,,,and not needed years of psychiatry over distrust or hatred of men or many things that others suffer from after these types of things,,,

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the third, and most recent,, was a more personal revelation having to do with my faith


in observing how unhappy people seem to be in general, it almost seems like it stems from a belief they should be 'free' and 'happy' and anything that interrupts those things keeps them unhappy

it almost seems like the striving for those things is the very factor that keeps them from every feeling them for more than fleeting moments


my mind works alot in analogies and it struck me recently, that much like the belief people have that money and material things are more precious when 'earned' than just given freely,,,,happiness that is expected freely and just because is fleeting and possibly the key is earning JOY instead

when one has earned joy, through discipline , restraint, and higher purpose,, it has to be on a much higher plane than when one feels 'happy' through self indulgence and entitlement


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lol,, those are just moments off the top of my head,, my life has been filled with epiphanies that helped me to evolve emotionally and intellectually

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