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that when it is really right, it feels peaceful, tranquil, good, quiet. Just right and wonderful?
Apparently most women (not sure about men) think that when things are right they should feel that constant buzzzz. They think that when it feels peaceful and quiet something is wrong. That the guy is maybe boring, it isn't true love, or just not the right guy. And then they get tempted to break things off. Thing is, when it IS right, it does feel peaceful, good, quiet etc. When it feels like you got your fingers in a socket and you get zapped constantly, it is not right. That's not true love, that's infatuation and/or lust. I have recently worked that one out myself, at first I didn't understand it. I had never felt that way. Never experienced it before. And I did sometimes feel off-kilter because ... it felt and feels so good and peaceful. *Isn't that daft?* I must say I was relieved to hear a relationship coach say the exact same thing. I'm not going as far as to say it's true love, very early days still. But at least I know I'm part of something really good. I wonder how many ppl have experienced this in their lives, or think that not feeling a constant zapping and buzzzzzzzzzz is wrong? And does it work that way for you guys too, or are you generally more relaxed about it all? |
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that when it is really right, it feels peaceful, tranquil, good, quiet. Just right and wonderful? Apparently most women (not sure about men) think that when things are right they should feel that constant buzzzz. They think that when it feels peaceful and quiet something is wrong. That the guy is maybe boring, it isn't true love, or just not the right guy. And then they get tempted to break things off. Thing is, when it IS right, it does feel peaceful, good, quiet etc. When it feels like you got your fingers in a socket and you get zapped constantly, it is not right. That's not true love, that's infatuation and/or lust. I have recently worked that one out myself, at first I didn't understand it. I had never felt that way. Never experienced it before. And I did sometimes feel off-kilter because ... it felt and feels so good and peaceful. *Isn't that daft?* I must say I was relieved to hear a relationship coach say the exact same thing. I'm not going as far as to say it's true love, very early days still. But at least I know I'm part of something really good. I wonder how many ppl have experienced this in their lives, or think that not feeling a constant zapping and buzzzzzzzzzz is wrong? And does it work that way for you guys too, or are you generally more relaxed about it all? i wish i could feel that soon too Crystal 
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The human body could never sustain the constant onslaught of emotions from finding oneself 'in love.'
I think we are meant to go through it all..the euphoria, angst, fear, speculation..to get our attention focused on another. But when it settles into a peaceful, reciprocal situation, some peeps cannot get past the earlier emotional roller-coaster and think they must maintain that..to prove love. They feed on the..turmoil. It makes them feel involved. The peace and contentment, may be underestimated, but I think it can be just as joyful, and much easier on the system :-) |
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that when it is really right, it feels peaceful, tranquil, good, quiet. Just right and wonderful? Apparently most women (not sure about men) think that when things are right they should feel that constant buzzzz. They think that when it feels peaceful and quiet something is wrong. That the guy is maybe boring, it isn't true love, or just not the right guy. And then they get tempted to break things off. Thing is, when it IS right, it does feel peaceful, good, quiet etc. When it feels like you got your fingers in a socket and you get zapped constantly, it is not right. That's not true love, that's infatuation and/or lust. I have recently worked that one out myself, at first I didn't understand it. I had never felt that way. Never experienced it before. And I did sometimes feel off-kilter because ... it felt and feels so good and peaceful. *Isn't that daft?* I must say I was relieved to hear a relationship coach say the exact same thing. I'm not going as far as to say it's true love, very early days still. But at least I know I'm part of something really good. I wonder how many ppl have experienced this in their lives, or think that not feeling a constant zapping and buzzzzzzzzzz is wrong? And does it work that way for you guys too, or are you generally more relaxed about it all? i wish i could feel that soon too Crystal Hopefully you will take an active role and meet many gentleman to double your chances as waiting on men is foolish and quite passive too Regards |
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that when it is really right, it feels peaceful, tranquil, good, quiet. Just right and wonderful? Apparently most women (not sure about men) think that when things are right they should feel that constant buzzzz. They think that when it feels peaceful and quiet something is wrong. That the guy is maybe boring, it isn't true love, or just not the right guy. And then they get tempted to break things off. Thing is, when it IS right, it does feel peaceful, good, quiet etc. When it feels like you got your fingers in a socket and you get zapped constantly, it is not right. That's not true love, that's infatuation and/or lust. I have recently worked that one out myself, at first I didn't understand it. I had never felt that way. Never experienced it before. And I did sometimes feel off-kilter because ... it felt and feels so good and peaceful. *Isn't that daft?* I must say I was relieved to hear a relationship coach say the exact same thing. I'm not going as far as to say it's true love, very early days still. But at least I know I'm part of something really good. I wonder how many ppl have experienced this in their lives, or think that not feeling a constant zapping and buzzzzzzzzzz is wrong? And does it work that way for you guys too, or are you generally more relaxed about it all? i wish i could feel that soon too Crystal Hopefully you will take an active role and meet many gentleman to double your chances as waiting on men is foolish and quite passive too Regards thanks for that sweet advice i wont be foolish and wait though i admit i am passive about it. maybe i need to build on my self confidence first  
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And does it work that way for you guys too, or are you generally more relaxed about it all? It appears to me that both genders are relaxed.  Wait. What were we talking about again? |
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I'll have to take your word for it.
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WHEN A GUY IS QUIT HE IS IN HIS NOTHING BOX....NO YOU CAN NOT GO THERE..!!! LEAVE HIM ALONE, AFTER A WHILE HE WILL MISS YOU AND COME OUT..... |
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that when it is really right, it feels peaceful, tranquil, good, quiet. Just right and wonderful? Apparently most women (not sure about men) think that when things are right they should feel that constant buzzzz. They think that when it feels peaceful and quiet something is wrong. That the guy is maybe boring, it isn't true love, or just not the right guy. And then they get tempted to break things off. Thing is, when it IS right, it does feel peaceful, good, quiet etc. When it feels like you got your fingers in a socket and you get zapped constantly, it is not right. That's not true love, that's infatuation and/or lust. I have recently worked that one out myself, at first I didn't understand it. I had never felt that way. Never experienced it before. And I did sometimes feel off-kilter because ... it felt and feels so good and peaceful. *Isn't that daft?* I must say I was relieved to hear a relationship coach say the exact same thing. I'm not going as far as to say it's true love, very early days still. But at least I know I'm part of something really good. I wonder how many ppl have experienced this in their lives, or think that not feeling a constant zapping and buzzzzzzzzzz is wrong? And does it work that way for you guys too, or are you generally more relaxed about it all? i wish i could feel that soon too Crystal GIVE YOURSELF PERMISSION....... |
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that when it is really right, it feels peaceful, tranquil, good, quiet. Just right and wonderful? Apparently most women (not sure about men) think that when things are right they should feel that constant buzzzz. They think that when it feels peaceful and quiet something is wrong. That the guy is maybe boring, it isn't true love, or just not the right guy. And then they get tempted to break things off. Thing is, when it IS right, it does feel peaceful, good, quiet etc. When it feels like you got your fingers in a socket and you get zapped constantly, it is not right. That's not true love, that's infatuation and/or lust. I have recently worked that one out myself, at first I didn't understand it. I had never felt that way. Never experienced it before. And I did sometimes feel off-kilter because ... it felt and feels so good and peaceful. *Isn't that daft?* I must say I was relieved to hear a relationship coach say the exact same thing. I'm not going as far as to say it's true love, very early days still. But at least I know I'm part of something really good. I wonder how many ppl have experienced this in their lives, or think that not feeling a constant zapping and buzzzzzzzzzz is wrong? And does it work that way for you guys too, or are you generally more relaxed about it all? i wish i could feel that soon too Crystal GIVE YOURSELF PERMISSION....... please elaborate
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This is an excellent example of how it isn't so much what's true about your situation that matters, as what you THINK is true about it.
My own negative experiences dealing with (in my case, women) who thought that everything had to be fabulous and exciting all the time, or they would run off with the next "Raoul" who sauntered by, is part of what led me to decide long ago, to do what the more romantically inclined people of the world directly advise against: I always look very closely at all of my feelings of attraction and love, to figure out exactly what I'm feeling and why. I asked WHY love was supposed to feel frightening and confusing, so that I could tell the difference between "frightening and confusing because I may be about to commit to something long term," and "frightening and confusing because she refuses to communicate her intentions or plans in any clear manner." I remember long ago, I told a coworker seriously, that either I was falling in love, or I was coming down with the flu, because both sensations were the same. In that case, it did turn out to be the flu, thankfully. |
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sparkyae5
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Wed 11/30/16 12:26 PM
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that when it is really right, it feels peaceful, tranquil, good, quiet. Just right and wonderful? Apparently most women (not sure about men) think that when things are right they should feel that constant buzzzz. They think that when it feels peaceful and quiet something is wrong. That the guy is maybe boring, it isn't true love, or just not the right guy. And then they get tempted to break things off. Thing is, when it IS right, it does feel peaceful, good, quiet etc. When it feels like you got your fingers in a socket and you get zapped constantly, it is not right. That's not true love, that's infatuation and/or lust. I have recently worked that one out myself, at first I didn't understand it. I had never felt that way. Never experienced it before. And I did sometimes feel off-kilter because ... it felt and feels so good and peaceful. *Isn't that daft?* I must say I was relieved to hear a relationship coach say the exact same thing. I'm not going as far as to say it's true love, very early days still. But at least I know I'm part of something really good. I wonder how many ppl have experienced this in their lives, or think that not feeling a constant zapping and buzzzzzzzzzz is wrong? And does it work that way for you guys too, or are you generally more relaxed about it all? i wish i could feel that soon too Crystal GIVE YOURSELF PERMISSION....... please elaborate WE ARE THE ONLY ONE IN THE WAY OF OUR OWN HAPPINESS.....ITS ABOUT OUR BELIEFS ABOUT OURSELVES AND OTHERS.....WE ARE THE ULTIMATE LAST WORD, SOMETIMES ITS A MATTER OF GIVING OURSELVES PERMISSION TO BE HAPPY .....A LOT OF US CARRY INJUNCTIONS FROM CHILDHOOD THAT GET IN THE WAY OF OUR OWN HAPPINESS.....OUR FEELINGS ARE OUR OWN, THERE IS NO RIGHT OR WRONG...SO WE CAN CHOOSE TO FEEL GLAD OR SAD ETC ITS OUR CHOICE ALONE..... WHEN SOMETHING NEGATIVE AND REPETITIVE IN OUR LIVES IT WILL ALWAYS ORIGINATED FROM CHILDHOOD...... 
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that when it is really right, it feels peaceful, tranquil, good, quiet. Just right and wonderful? Apparently most women (not sure about men) think that when things are right they should feel that constant buzzzz. They think that when it feels peaceful and quiet something is wrong. That the guy is maybe boring, it isn't true love, or just not the right guy. And then they get tempted to break things off. Thing is, when it IS right, it does feel peaceful, good, quiet etc. When it feels like you got your fingers in a socket and you get zapped constantly, it is not right. That's not true love, that's infatuation and/or lust. I have recently worked that one out myself, at first I didn't understand it. I had never felt that way. Never experienced it before. And I did sometimes feel off-kilter because ... it felt and feels so good and peaceful. *Isn't that daft?* I must say I was relieved to hear a relationship coach say the exact same thing. I'm not going as far as to say it's true love, very early days still. But at least I know I'm part of something really good. I wonder how many ppl have experienced this in their lives, or think that not feeling a constant zapping and buzzzzzzzzzz is wrong? And does it work that way for you guys too, or are you generally more relaxed about it all? i wish i could feel that soon too Crystal GIVE YOURSELF PERMISSION....... please elaborate WE ARE THE ONLY ONE IN THE WAY OF OUR OWN HAPPINESS.....ITS ABOUT OUR BELIEFS ABOUT OURSELVES AND OTHERS.....WE ARE THE ULTIMATE LAST WORD, SOMETIMES ITS A MATTER OF GIVING OURSELVES PERMISSION TO BE HAPPY .....A LOT OF US CARRY INJUNCTIONS FROM CHILDHOOD THAT GET IN THE WAY OF OUR OWN HAPPINESS.....OUR FEELINGS ARE OUR OWN, THERE IS NO RIGHT OR WRONG...SO WE CAN CHOOSE TO FEEL GLAD OR SAD ETC ITS OUR CHOICE ALONE..... WHEN SOMETHING NEGATIVE AND REPETITIVE IN OUR LIVES IT WILL ALWAYS ORIGINATED FROM CHILDHOOD......  that was clearly explained . thank you i will choose happy anytime over any other feeling
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This is an excellent example of how it isn't so much what's true about your situation that matters, as what you THINK is true about it. My own negative experiences dealing with (in my case, women) who thought that everything had to be fabulous and exciting all the time, or they would run off with the next "Raoul" who sauntered by, is part of what led me to decide long ago, to do what the more romantically inclined people of the world directly advise against: I always look very closely at all of my feelings of attraction and love, to figure out exactly what I'm feeling and why. I asked WHY love was supposed to feel frightening and confusing, so that I could tell the difference between "frightening and confusing because I may be about to commit to something long term," and "frightening and confusing because she refuses to communicate her intentions or plans in any clear manner." I remember long ago, I told a coworker seriously, that either I was falling in love, or I was coming down with the flu, because both sensations were the same. In that case, it did turn out to be the flu, thankfully. That last bit made me laugh, comparing it to coming down with the flu, lol. I'm starting to relax more and more into this feeling of relaxation and tranquility, but it still feels odd to me to be feeling this way. Maybe it's also odd to feel this way, because I think feeling at home and comfortable with myself is also relatively new. Most think they are -I did too- but found that I wasn't. Not really. And now I can not only be 'me' with myself, but also around him. And still be and feel loved and appreciated. *Pinch me, I must be in heaven!* (OUCH, that was too hard!!) |
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it has been a turbulent ride here the calmness and tranquility happens when im asleep. hello crystal
 hope this is still your thing i mean nothing changed 
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