Have you or would you go out with someone who had to persuaded you to accept a date invitation?

And flip-side, would it be worth it to you to persuade someone whose turned you down before?

I would say no because either I like them enough to go out or I don't. No amount of persuading on their part will change my mind. And I would never try to persuade someone to go out if they turned me down before. That's not in my nature. If someone turned me down I would simply say I understand and let them know that I will always be here if they ever change their mind. That certainly is not persuasion. That is just being a gentleman.

Leaving the ball in their court is more my speed too. It is a gentleman’s move in my book. But I’m so old school, I don’t know how things are done on the dating scene today. Lol!

I am also old school Jan. A really old school. Let the kids of today have their ways and we can keep ours.

I agree! I’m hip with a lot of things, thanks to my kids and grandkids, but dateing again will be on the comfortable terms I had the first time around. No BFFs or Hook-Ups for Granny here. Haha!

I am not looking forward to the day I am called grampy. When that happens, I will fan their behinds with my cane.

I am not looking forward to the day I am called grampy. When that happens, I will fan their behinds with my cane.

I'm with ya both on this one.
At my age I feel I am wise enough to know who I want to be with and who I don't. Plus I realize I can't 'make' anyone love me. Its always their own choice.
There have been a few women that have changed their choice from nay to yay after seeing me being me. It wasn't persuasion that did it, it was realization that I was not what they thought I was. I call it time on target. Plus, its not just women. Most people like me better, the more they get to know me.

I have to say no. I can make up my own mind thank you very much. The more persuasive a guy gets the less chance there is of me accepting but that's just me. I prefer gentlemen who are respectful.

Unless she's riding in the back of a Rolls, with a bottle of Dom and a stack of 100's, and looks like a super model, I'm not easily persuaded.

Have you or would you go out with someone who had to persuaded you to accept a date invitation?

would it be worth it to you to persuade someone whose turned you down before?

...Yes?
The question isn't all that clear...they persuaded me to accept a date invitation?...if I didn't go on the date, then I'd kinda be an a-hole. Agreeing to something, and then not doing it.

Have or would I go out with someone who had to persuade me to accept a date invitation?
Maybe.
Are they a friend? Do I have an ongoing relationship with them already like coworker?
Are they persuading me to go against my negative feelings for them?
Do they have to persuade me because I don't want to date them?
Or because I feel I shouldn't date them, maybe due to logistics?

Or trying to persuade me to notice feelings that are neutral or hidden but do exist? Like I see them as a friend, and they're trying to persuade me to see them as something more?

Or are they a stranger? Going out with someone new always requires some persuading. It's generally called "hitting on" or "picking up."


Depends on how/why they turned me down and what are the available alternatives/situation.

I would try to persuade a hottie who turned me down because they said they were too busy with work.
I wouldn't try to persuade a girl who turned me down because she said she wasn't attracted to me.

I would try to persuade a hottie who turned me down because they said they were too busy with work.
I wouldn't try to persuade a girl who turned me down because she said she wasn't attracted to me.

This brings up a tangent consideration.

When turning someone down for a date, Do you lie or are you truthful?
If you are truthful, are you brutally truthful or do you let them down easy?

When I end a relationship or turn down a date I am truthful.
I also take the time to let them down easy.

I will take the time to tell them that even tho they are not the right one for me, they still have great qualities that someone else might favor.
Then I wish them luck.

...Yes?
The question isn't all that clear...they persuaded me to accept a date invitation?...if I didn't go on the date, then I'd kinda be an a-hole. Agreeing to something, and then not doing it.

Have or would I go out with someone who had to persuade me to accept a date invitation?
Maybe.
Are they a friend? Do I have an ongoing relationship with them already like coworker?
Are they persuading me to go against my negative feelings for them?
Do they have to persuade me because I don't want to date them?
Or because I feel I shouldn't date them, maybe due to logistics?

Or trying to persuade me to notice feelings that are neutral or hidden but do exist? Like I see them as a friend, and they're trying to persuade me to see them as something more?

Or are they a stranger? Going out with someone new always requires some persuading. It's generally called "hitting on" or "picking up."


Depends on how/why they turned me down and what are the available alternatives/situation.

I would try to persuade a hottie who turned me down because they said they were too busy with work.
I wouldn't try to persuade a girl who turned me down because she said she wasn't attracted to me.

Here's the thing.
I have gone out with some who persuaded me, maybe after
years, but it seems I more admire their steadfastness
than whatever reason I had to say no..make sense?

Rooting for the underdog, probably :-)