Topic: Love
Twister's photo
Sat 05/11/19 08:30 AM
How do you deal with a guy who shows interest of love and communicates frequently but doesn't want to commit and is never open with what he really wants?

Freebird Deluxe's photo
Sat 05/11/19 08:48 AM
Maybe try and act similar and see what the effect is?

Mike6615's photo
Sat 05/11/19 08:51 AM
And how old is this guy?

no photo
Sat 05/11/19 09:20 AM
Love Is life...
Without Love No Life..

soufiehere's photo
Sat 05/11/19 09:25 AM

How do you deal with a guy who shows interest of love and communicates frequently but doesn't want to commit and is never open with what he really wants?

You have described 90% of all men.
You are not going to change this.
But you can make him want to ;-)

Twister's photo
Sat 05/11/19 10:00 AM
He is 29

Twister's photo
Sat 05/11/19 10:01 AM
How can I make him do it please?

Chrismilim's photo
Sat 05/11/19 11:32 AM
Have you actually met yet, talked on the phone, video called or are you still chatting online?

If he isn't willing to meet or talk to you via webcam or phone you then you have to ask yourself if he really wants a relationship or not. That might sound a bit harsh but there are people out there that will string an online contact along until they get what they are looking for.

Be careful of anybody that asks you for money or credit on a phone, and especially if they have have pushed the online relationship part along really fast. The vast number of these people are doing something called "Catfishing" and will make you think they care about you just to get a financial or physical payout.

Watch out for such things as telling you they have suddenly found them selves in financial hardship and they make you feel guilty for not helping them.

Most of these are from an area outside your geograhical location, or that they have travelled to one and now need your help or that they can't afford to come meet you as they don't have enough money

If they seem too good to be true then they probably are.

Mike6615's photo
Sat 05/11/19 03:16 PM

How can I make him do it please?


As some here have advised, you can't. It's like trying to put a metric bolt into a hole with American SAE threads--forcing it won't work; it'll just damage the bolthole, possibly beyond repair.

SparklingCrystal 💖💎's photo
Sat 05/11/19 03:39 PM
Edited by SparklingCrystal 💖💎 on Sat 05/11/19 03:39 PM
What you do with such a guy? If you really want to know, and how to deal with it, watch & listen to this. Matthew Hussey addressing this exact thing with a young woman who's in the exact same situation.
Best advice on the matter you'll ever get.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uU7hcQwBVoE


And Soufie is right. You cannot change a man / men. But you can inspire him to want to change.
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mzrosie's photo
Sat 05/11/19 04:09 PM

How do you deal with a guy who shows interest of love and communicates frequently but doesn't want to commit and is never open with what he really wants?


How long have you been communicating with each other? A year? Two years?
If at this time he still cannot commit, then you might just be wasting your
time.

End it and move on. It's easier said than done, I know. I had experienced this
kind of situation a long time ago. It will hurt like crazy but as the saying goes
"what doesn't kill you makes you stronger." I think that is a Kelly Clarkson song "Stronger".. listen to it, if you haven't.

Good luck
happy

almisam's photo
Sat 05/11/19 04:28 PM

How do you deal with a guy who shows interest of love and communicates frequently but doesn't want to commit and is never open with what he really wants?

My personal opinion... Never heart plz listen him...no promises in all discussions

Liz's photo
Sat 05/11/19 06:36 PM
Don't contact him first. Only answer 8 hours later w short response. See what happens.

Smartazzjohn's photo
Sat 05/11/19 06:48 PM

How do you deal with a guy who shows interest of love and communicates frequently but doesn't want to commit and is never open with what he really wants?



Did it ever occur to you that he "is never open with what he really wants" because he DOESN'T know what he really wants?