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I love Crystal's posts.  That is sweet, and does me good!  Thank you, Gia 
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So then if they are using the wrong terminology.... what would be proper terminology in which they are referring to - and does that exist? Proper terminology could be, the right lover/partner for me (right now). Or, the perfect lover/partner for me (right now). They could also say soul mate provided they then meant the above and not "The one and only perfect lover in existence for me this lifetime." There is no "one great love this lifetime", and most of us who have been in several relationships should know this. Someone could be a lasting partner, the love we stay happily in relationship with for the rest of our life, but we all know there is no guarantee. I do feel we should have the intention that it's going to be a lasting relationship as you then enter it with a different, healthy mindset. But if it doesn't work out... Even after a lover that was once great there are always chances of a new great love, and another, and another. There isn't this "only one perfect match for me" that many seem to be focused on and looking for. And that's great news as it means we can always find love. Even if we'd be moving to China, Russia, the other side of the country, or stay where we are. What you generally see is that the ones looking for this 'one great love this lifetime' are desperate, in fear, not standing solidly on their own two feet, lack self-esteem etc. so they latch on to some external idea that they think will solve all their problems and make them feel better. Confident and stable people know that is a flawed premise and they wouldn't work nor think that way. Which was what I was saying all along! |
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So then if they are using the wrong terminology.... what would be proper terminology in which they are referring to - and does that exist? Proper terminology could be, the right lover/partner for me (right now). Or, the perfect lover/partner for me (right now). They could also say soul mate provided they then meant the above and not "The one and only perfect lover in existence for me this lifetime." There is no "one great love this lifetime", and most of us who have been in several relationships should know this. Someone could be a lasting partner, the love we stay happily in relationship with for the rest of our life, but we all know there is no guarantee. I do feel we should have the intention that it's going to be a lasting relationship as you then enter it with a different, healthy mindset. But if it doesn't work out... Even after a lover that was once great there are always chances of a new great love, and another, and another. There isn't this "only one perfect match for me" that many seem to be focused on and looking for. And that's great news as it means we can always find love. Even if we'd be moving to China, Russia, the other side of the country, or stay where we are. What you generally see is that the ones looking for this 'one great love this lifetime' are desperate, in fear, not standing solidly on their own two feet, lack self-esteem etc. so they latch on to some external idea that they think will solve all their problems and make them feel better. Confident and stable people know that is a flawed premise and they wouldn't work nor think that way. Which was what I was saying all along! |
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So then if they are using the wrong terminology.... what would be proper terminology in which they are referring to - and does that exist? Proper terminology could be, the right lover/partner for me (right now). Or, the perfect lover/partner for me (right now). They could also say soul mate provided they then meant the above and not "The one and only perfect lover in existence for me this lifetime." There is no "one great love this lifetime", and most of us who have been in several relationships should know this. Someone could be a lasting partner, the love we stay happily in relationship with for the rest of our life, but we all know there is no guarantee. I do feel we should have the intention that it's going to be a lasting relationship as you then enter it with a different, healthy mindset. But if it doesn't work out... Even after a lover that was once great there are always chances of a new great love, and another, and another. There isn't this "only one perfect match for me" that many seem to be focused on and looking for. And that's great news as it means we can always find love. Even if we'd be moving to China, Russia, the other side of the country, or stay where we are. What you generally see is that the ones looking for this 'one great love this lifetime' are desperate, in fear, not standing solidly on their own two feet, lack self-esteem etc. so they latch on to some external idea that they think will solve all their problems and make them feel better. Confident and stable people know that is a flawed premise and they wouldn't work nor think that way. Which was what I was saying all along! Not exactly. You were saying they donΒ΄t exist and call it silliness. I say it does exist but many people donΒ΄t have a proper understanding of it or use the term wrong. That only causes confusion. But soulmates exist for sure. |
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Definitely not exactly.... but I think it's safe to assume when people use the term soulmate - they aren't exactly using the definition you go by. We both agree that there's no "The one and only perfect lover in existence for me this lifetime." And where we disagree is, my believe in it's silliness. It's insensitive, but I'm more a shoot from the hip kinda guy.
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maybe
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maybe @Molina seems missing Maybwecan 
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No such thing as a soulmate So what do we have if not soulmate? |
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I think we all are looking for love the last one that makes our toes curl makes her hair go straight the one person that laughs at all the things that we laugh at now can we find that person that's a question for sure
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Is there any chance to find someone whom you will settle with for the rest of your life? be optimistic. there is a lot of chances to meet someone but certainly for rest of your lives both need to be in love to stay together |
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So what do we have if not soulmate? soulmate i believe is just a term on how long you'll stay together π€· |
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In my opinion, we don't need to find our soulmate because they are already destined to be connected with us in the soul level at some point in our lives.
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transgender
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soulmate i believe is just a term on how long you'll stay together π€· no reg men where you transgenders |
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