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Topic: Dating yourself
Duttoneer's photo
Fri 12/09/22 02:32 AM

Dating yourself seems to be the latest thing to do, even by those with partners, to give yourself some me time, relaxation and collecting your own thoughts.

Do you think this a good idea when in a relationship? Create suspicious minds maybe?

For us singles where would you take yourself on a date?

SparklingCrystal 💖💎's photo
Fri 12/09/22 04:42 AM
Absolutely very important to create time for yourself, spend time with your own friends, or by yourself doing things you love to do. That's called personal freedom.
A healthy relationship allows for both parties to have this.
A relationship is not about giving up who you are and what you do and make the partner/relationship the centre of your universe. Possibly to please the partner even. That would be changing yourself which isn't healthy.

A good relationship exists between 2 people who both are themselves and add to each other's lives.

I can understand that in the old model of seeing relationships this is regarded as odd.
In that model I suppose some tend to think that personal freedom is about sex. It's got nothing to do with that though.

It's about being able to stand on your own two feet, not leaning on the other, trusting each other, supporting one another to be themselves and to grow and evolve and to be happy in life.

I need a lot of personal freedom. If I cannot have that with a partner things won't work out.

no photo
Fri 12/09/22 06:08 AM
Absolutely very important to create time for yourself, spend time with your own friends, or by yourself doing things you love to do. That's called personal freedom.
A healthy relationship allows for both parties to have this.
A relationship is not about giving up who you are and what you do and make the partner/relationship the centre of your universe. Possibly to please the partner even. That would be changing yourself which isn't healthy.

A good relationship exists between 2 people who both are themselves and add to each other's lives.

I can understand that in the old model of seeing relationships this is regarded as odd.
In that model I suppose some tend to think that personal freedom is about sex. It's got nothing to do with that though.

It's about being able to stand on your own two feet, not leaning on the other, trusting each other, supporting one another to be themselves and to grow and evolve and to be happy in life.

I need a lot of personal freedom. If I cannot have that with a partner things won't work out.

:thumbsup:

Duttoneer's photo
Fri 12/09/22 06:17 AM
Edited by Duttoneer on Fri 12/09/22 06:27 AM

Absolutely very important to create time for yourself, spend time with your own friends, or by yourself doing things you love to do. That's called personal freedom.
A healthy relationship allows for both parties to have this.
A relationship is not about giving up who you are and what you do and make the partner/relationship the centre of your universe. Possibly to please the partner even. That would be changing yourself which isn't healthy.

A good relationship exists between 2 people who both are themselves and add to each other's lives.

I can understand that in the old model of seeing relationships this is regarded as odd.
In that model I suppose some tend to think that personal freedom is about sex. It's got nothing to do with that though.

It's about being able to stand on your own two feet, not leaning on the other, trusting each other, supporting one another to be themselves and to grow and evolve and to be happy in life.

I need a lot of personal freedom. If I cannot have that with a partner things won't work out.


Yes, I agree with you, time with your friends or on your own is essential in a healthy relationship.

The new trend I was referring to is actually going on a date with yourself. Involving exactly the same preparations you would do on going on a date with someone new ( or a partner say), to the cinema, theatre, a meal, but entirely on your own. This is different from a night out with the girls, or the boys, or just time out on your own.

Would you prefer those kind of dates on your own sometimes, or always with someone, your partner if in a relationship, do you think it may cause friction in going on that kind of date alone when in a relationship.

no photo
Fri 12/09/22 06:38 AM
I could only ever date myself...no one else would put up with me! Hahalaugh laugh laugh

Farid's photo
Fri 12/09/22 07:00 AM
Humanity is a seed of love, and whoever does not have mercy and humanity in his heart will not be able to know the meaning of true love

Duttoneer's photo
Fri 12/09/22 07:13 AM

I could only ever date myself...no one else would put up with me! Hahalaugh laugh laugh


Me to. laugh laugh laugh

Mr Good Guy's photo
Fri 12/09/22 08:39 AM
I "dated" myself this morning upon waking for a few minutes, does that count?

no photo
Fri 12/09/22 08:47 AM

I "dated" myself this morning upon waking for a few minutes, does that count?

Couldn't you make it last longer?

Duttoneer's photo
Sat 12/10/22 01:24 AM
Edited by Duttoneer on Sat 12/10/22 01:29 AM

Thanks everyone for all the comments.

I am single, and my date with myself is to enjoy going to a restaurant for a meal, I am mostly surrounded by couples and groups of people, but it doesn't bother me I enjoy the meal.

I think were I in a serious relationship, I would always take my partner if she wanted to go with me on a dinner date. If my partner dressed to the nines and said she was going on a dinner date, to the cinema, or theatre, with herself and I wasn't invited, then call me old fashioned, but I would be very peeved about it, new trend or not.

SparklingCrystal 💖💎's photo
Sat 12/10/22 02:13 AM


Absolutely very important to create time for yourself, spend time with your own friends, or by yourself doing things you love to do. That's called personal freedom.
A healthy relationship allows for both parties to have this.
A relationship is not about giving up who you are and what you do and make the partner/relationship the centre of your universe. Possibly to please the partner even. That would be changing yourself which isn't healthy.

A good relationship exists between 2 people who both are themselves and add to each other's lives.

I can understand that in the old model of seeing relationships this is regarded as odd.
In that model I suppose some tend to think that personal freedom is about sex. It's got nothing to do with that though.

It's about being able to stand on your own two feet, not leaning on the other, trusting each other, supporting one another to be themselves and to grow and evolve and to be happy in life.

I need a lot of personal freedom. If I cannot have that with a partner things won't work out.


Yes, I agree with you, time with your friends or on your own is essential in a healthy relationship.

The new trend I was referring to is actually going on a date with yourself. Involving exactly the same preparations you would do on going on a date with someone new ( or a partner say), to the cinema, theatre, a meal, but entirely on your own. This is different from a night out with the girls, or the boys, or just time out on your own.

Would you prefer those kind of dates on your own sometimes, or always with someone, your partner if in a relationship, do you think it may cause friction in going on that kind of date alone when in a relationship.

Yes, I understood it that way.
And my answer is what I already said.
That can go further than going to the cinema or a date, it can also be going on holiday by yourself, a weekend away etc.
Nothing wrong with that and also healthy.
My ex went on a brief holiday to go fishing in Denmark. Many with old-fashioned ideas were rather shocked I wasn't going with him while I wasn't phased in the slightest.
He loved fishing, for hours on end, I really don't like that. Should he then give up on something he likes and makes him happy because of me?
THAT would create discord & friction.

I kind of grew into that when I was in Australia where I met people that were in a relationship and travelling around without their spouse.
One woman was going to travel for a year, by herself, and she was married, her husband was at home.
Another couple I know love each other a lot, but she needs to be out and about while he prefers to stay home. So she goes by herself, he stays home by himself with the kids.
Eventually she became a singer in a band -still is to date- meaning she's off regularly.
He sometimes comes to see the gig as he's so proud of her, then goes home again.

It doesn't matter whether it's dinner, cinema, or holidaying or with other friends. It all comes down to the same thing: giving your partner the freedom to do what they need in life to be happy.

As long as there a healthy balance between alone & together it's perfectly fine. And this balance can vary per couple.

Duttoneer's photo
Sat 12/10/22 05:29 AM

Yes, we are all different. I don't believe in living in one another's pocket, everyone needs space, time with friends and relatives, but for me there are limits. If she preferred to spend more time away from me than with me, I would seriously question why we were together, but these are the things you should discover by dating for a year or so. Compatibility, mutual interests, life's goals are all very important in a relationship, and you both need to be one of the same mind in what you both want in life in my opinion. Some people have open marriages, complete freedom to do what they want when they want, it all depends on what you both want or accept.

soufiehere's photo
Sat 12/10/22 05:52 AM

Dating yourself

I don't think I am hawt enough.

bobtail76's photo
Sat 12/10/22 07:29 AM
Me,me,me,me,me....

Hope you're content with being single with that attitude

Morticia's photo
Sat 12/10/22 07:31 AM
I wouldn't even date myself, that's why I'm single! 🤣

no photo
Sat 12/10/22 03:06 PM
I'd take it a step farther and say that I'm married to myself.

no photo
Sat 12/10/22 03:22 PM
I love walking barefoot on the beautiful beach with white sand and azure ocean waves.. before sunrise..

no photo
Sat 12/10/22 03:29 PM
Dating myself .. never lol :joy: I much prefer company bigsmile

europeanimport7's photo
Sat 12/10/22 05:30 PM

I wouldn't even date myself, that's why I'm single! 🤣

Just upload a few pictures that show you smiling, you won't have to date yourself for long anymore sunshine!

Duttoneer's photo
Sun 12/11/22 02:44 AM

Thanks for all the comments.

Keep up with the dating whichever you choose.

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