Topic: Dating in late 30s and early 40s..
Kibali's photo
Thu 12/29/22 08:59 AM
An here wondering am I the only one who is not meeting serious guys ready to settle and start a family or we are many :pensive:

Kibali's photo
Thu 12/29/22 09:00 AM
I would really love to hear other people's opinions.

Consuela 's photo
Thu 12/29/22 01:11 PM
I havenโ€™t met anyone serious yet either. They claim they are serious and pretend to be and then 2-3 years into the relationship, they do something wrong . The guys in this market is just not it right now .

SparklingCrystal ๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’Ž's photo
Thu 12/29/22 02:53 PM

An here wondering am I the only one who is not meeting serious guys ready to settle and start a family or we are many :pensive:

I've noticed that being single again after a relationship seems to be experienced different by the 2 genders.
Women seem to be ready much sooner to get involved into a committed relationship than men. Men need more time to find their feet and often aren't in any hurry to get involved as they like playing the field.
I've also had the impression that men in their mid-40 weren't very interested in a committed relationship. Most are fresh out of one, often still have young kids from the first relationship, and they enjoy their singlehood.
Real pain in the butt if you're a woman early or mid 40s looking for a man of same age or a few yrs older.
So there seems to be a discrepancy between single men & women at the age you ask about.

Also, your profile likely won't help. It does come across as forceful with a lot of pressure on having children. Considering your age I can understand that, we women have a bit of a clock to keep in mind. But it is something that will scare off many men.
It doesn't allow a guy to carefully explore, come closer emotionally and growing ready -again emotionally- to have another child with a woman. This has to come from a sense of freedom, not from a demand.
I wouldn't get involved with a man either if he basically demanded I'd give him a child. I'm not a brooding machine and that's not what the basis of a relationship should be.
You cannot demand a new man to impregnate you just because you fear it's not going to happen.
So don't present it that way to men and you'll likely be more successful. Take the pressure of, present yourself as a great catch, a wonderful woman to be with and not with "Gimme a child or buzz off!"



Kibali's photo
Fri 12/30/22 05:49 AM
Edited by Kibali on Fri 12/30/22 05:49 AM
That is a good piece there you gave written Though I think it would be good from the word go to let a man you want children of your own or not. A serious man will not take off just because your profile Says you want kids.

Kibali's photo
Fri 12/30/22 05:52 AM

I havenโ€™t met anyone serious yet either. They claim they are serious and pretend to be and then 2-3 years into the relationship, they do something wrong . The guys in this market is just not it right now .
I feel you... Don't give up the right partner will come your way when you least expect it.

Hhezel's photo
Tue 02/21/23 09:25 AM
i can't seem to find a serious man here, The one's are still having fun with life

Miller 's photo
Sun 03/05/23 09:37 PM
I'm here