Topic: help please....
iam4u
Joined Fri 10/13/06 Posts: 30190 |
QUOTE: There won't be any happy resolution to this issue. And any grieving I needed to do about my mom was as I said done a long time ago. I think this just knocked the blocks out from under me for a bit and reinforced just how alone and cut off I am. Not that I didn't already know that, it was just a harsh reminder.  Could "THIS" be a calling to make a CHANGE?
GOD does MOVE in ways we do not fully understand.. I would THINK LONG on everything. And you have my PRAYERS.
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gjb001
Joined Sun 08/31/08 Posts: 5 |
You don't say why the break with your family took place, and that is understandable. If as you say your mother has been gone for 2 years there is not likely to be any probate issues, however it doesn't hurt to check.
Otherwise there is nothing you can do, except get on with your life. The loss of your mother is after all a painful thing and grief must take its course. Perhaps this is the time to consider mending the bridges to the rest of the family. If the division is so great that no forgiveness is possible, then be prepared to be alone as only those of us who have no family are. |
oldsage
Joined Thu 09/14/06 Posts: 17688 |
Frst, SORRY for your loss.
My thoughts would be, if there is any family member or friend you can contact, try that frst. If dad is still living, most likely everything just went to him. Sounds like you came to terms withmost of it yrs ago. I am not real close to my family & when my father died the distance widened. I hear from them when they NEED me; otherwise I am left out. I made my piece with it, but yes it still bothers. God Bless you in your pain & help you find more peace with the situation. |
Jeanniebean
Joined Wed 01/30/08 Posts: 37584 |
QUOTE: I did and I did. The reasons for the estrangement were and still are valid. I don't know I feel as if I should have some sense of loss knowing. But I don't because I think I did my grieving and she died to me when the estrangement started. But I feel displaced and out of step with time. As if it is happening all over again. There is no need to feel that way. We are spiritual beings and unless there is unresolved Karma between you and your estranged family that needs to be resolved, you have already burned your bridges and should not look back. Keep your eyes on the present moment and on the path in front of you. Don't look back. JB |
mcattygarnett
Joined Fri 12/07/07 Posts: 3524 |
QUOTE: That's a very, very difficult thing. Being estranged from family is hard, but it usually means there was a good reason. Still, it's hard to believe they wouldn't have let you know, and I'm sure it hurts. I don't know what kind of advice I could really offer here. Follow what your heart tells you. I have to agree with this statement totally. Good luck to you 
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