Topic: Why guys won't date single moms????
izzie
Joined Wed 02/21/07 Posts: 31885 |
   QUOTE: QUOTE: at the risk of bringing my bad vibes to your comment. i absolutely agree with what you said and live my life the exact same way. I'm really not worried about bad vibes. Almost everyone here has been quite tolerant and accepting of my beliefs, even when they disagree. I find it really just boils down to how you get things across. Some of the people I love the most on this site are single/divorced mothers. And they put up with me, just the way I am. And I'm grateful for that -- it shows people can have a difference of opinion without it becoming personal. |
Winx
Joined Fri 08/31/07 Posts: 37424 |
QUOTE: QUOTE: QUOTE: QUOTE: QUOTE: QUOTE: nad yet the woman raises the child (not in all cases but in alot) and the man walks away with his every other weekend visitation.... NICE. Do you have kids? The man only gets the weekend visitation if the mommy is nice and lets him or if he pays for the time through child support. has never paid... he would email me and tell me where and when to meet him.. of the 45 times i drove them in.. he saw them exactly 9!!!!! SxBoY.. i like you.. but you are starting to pizz even me off here! dont always blaim the mom.. my ex beat and raped me on a regular basis.. he cheated on me with 29 girls in the time of 6 years.. he brainwashed me to beleve that i could never find better... i finaly got the strength to leave after he held a gun to my head once... he broke in my house and raped me.. and a few weeks later after he found out that i was preg.. he came back and tried/threatened to cut the baby out of my stomach.. his gf at the time lied for him and so the cops did nothing.. and STILL i tried to let him see his kids.. i did NOTHING wrong.. stood up and take care of my kids... love every one of them.. they are MINE!!! but i have to put up with attitudes like you are presenting EVERY DAY OF MY LIFE!!! i am sincerely sorry about your troubles. thats truly f*cked. still if a guy doesn't want to be involved in your life because of the things that happened to you or the children you have that doesn't make him a bad guy. Yes, it does. He's being a terrible father. End of story. huh?? You're right. I read it wrong. |
GeniuSxBoY
Joined Sun 06/15/08 Posts: 8189 |
QUOTE: OK I'm studying Web Design and the my whole area is logic honey...there is no logic and 90% of the things you said on here. You seem to get off on pissing people off...I'm noticing a trend throughout this discussion How would you like me to rebut a fictitious argument aimed at making me look evil? |
Amagurl
Joined Tue 08/19/08 Posts: 752 |
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Dredz_Hang_Low
Joined Fri 12/28/07 Posts: 796 |
QUOTE: QUOTE: QUOTE: wait i'm getting confused...are we talking about the single guys with no kids not dating moms, or are we talking about the single guys who leave their kids high and dry and won't date single moms? 
big difference there isnt it? some guys are assholes others just dont want to become assholes no?? ok.. back to my corner!! sorry lily! ill be quite! i think you need a hug. seriously you live your life and thats cool for you. you dont have to worry about me because we will never meet. i will never ask you out. theres no need for me to care what you think about me. if you dont like my opinion and live your life feeding on your emotions more power to you. |
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Winx
Joined Fri 08/31/07 Posts: 37424 |
QUOTE: QUOTE: at the risk of bringing my bad vibes to your comment. i absolutely agree with what you said and live my life the exact same way. I'm really not worried about bad vibes. Almost everyone here has been quite tolerant and accepting of my beliefs, even when they disagree. I find it really just boils down to how you get things across. Some of the people I love the most on this site are single/divorced mothers. And they put up with me, just the way I am. And I'm grateful for that -- it shows people can have a difference of opinion without it becoming personal. You are not being a jerk. You just know what you want. There is a major difference.
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Lily0923
Joined Sun 12/02/07 Posts: 20428 |
QUOTE: QUOTE: QUOTE: QUOTE: wait i'm getting confused...are we talking about the single guys with no kids not dating moms, or are we talking about the single guys who leave their kids high and dry and won't date single moms?
big difference there isnt it? some guys are assholes others just dont want to become assholes no?? ok.. back to my corner!! sorry lily! ill be quite! i think you need a hug. seriously you live your life and thats cool for you. you dont have to worry about me because we will never meet. i will never ask you out. theres no need for me to care what you think about me. if you dont like my opinion and live your life feeding on your emotions more power to you. I'm sure she's heartbroken now, since she had so hoped to dump her incredible boyfriend who is down to earth and logical to date you... She was waiting with baited breath for your email I'm sure... 
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Gypsy41
Joined Tue 05/15/07 Posts: 123381 |
what are we fighting about today??? I just woke up...
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izzie
Joined Wed 02/21/07 Posts: 31885 |
oh thank GOD!!
i dont have to come up with an excuse why i wouldnt date people like you that would sound polite. 
(all in debate spirit.. but honestly... if you would reword things to be a lil less MEAN and attacking sounding.. then you wouldnt rile so many people..) jmo QUOTE: QUOTE: QUOTE: QUOTE: wait i'm getting confused...are we talking about the single guys with no kids not dating moms, or are we talking about the single guys who leave their kids high and dry and won't date single moms?
big difference there isnt it? some guys are assholes others just dont want to become assholes no?? ok.. back to my corner!! sorry lily! ill be quite! i think you need a hug. seriously you live your life and thats cool for you. you dont have to worry about me because we will never meet. i will never ask you out. theres no need for me to care what you think about me. if you dont like my opinion and live your life feeding on your emotions more power to you. |
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Amagurl
Joined Tue 08/19/08 Posts: 752 |
QUOTE: what are we fighting about today??? I just woke up...
single moms and the men who fear them...next on Springer 
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Winx
Joined Fri 08/31/07 Posts: 37424 |
QUOTE: QUOTE: QUOTE: QUOTE: nad yet the woman raises the child (not in all cases but in alot) and the man walks away with his every other weekend visitation.... NICE. Do you have kids? The man only gets the weekend visitation if the mommy is nice and lets him or if he pays for the time through child support. has never paid... he would email me and tell me where and when to meet him.. of the 45 times i drove them in.. he saw them exactly 9!!!!! SxBoY.. i like you.. but you are starting to pizz even me off here! dont always blaim the mom.. my ex beat and raped me on a regular basis.. he cheated on me with 29 girls in the time of 6 years.. he brainwashed me to beleve that i could never find better... i finaly got the strength to leave after he held a gun to my head once... he broke in my house and raped me.. and a few weeks later after he found out that i was preg.. he came back and tried/threatened to cut the baby out of my stomach.. his gf at the time lied for him and so the cops did nothing.. and STILL i tried to let him see his kids.. i did NOTHING wrong.. stood up and take care of my kids... love every one of them.. they are MINE!!! but i have to put up with attitudes like you are presenting EVERY DAY OF MY LIFE!!! You are making the critical error of passing your inability to learn to making it other people's mistakes. 1) You can only be brainwashed if you can't think for yourself. 2) Nobody forced you to drive 50 miles, 45 times. That is nobody's fault but your own. If he only met them 9 times out of 45 times, you should have learned after the first 5 drives what the pattern would be. If he really wanted to see the kids, he would have driving 50 miles to see them. 3) I don't sympathize for you if you stayed with him and allowed him to do all those things to you. If you are looking for sympathy, look somewhere else. You are all about responsibility, yet, when it comes to personal responsibility for yourself, you blow it off. 4) I don't see how you can relate my attitude to a person that abused you and cheated on you 29 times. That's a little overboard. Again, a mean and uncalled comment. Why the hate? She can think for herself and she has the ability to learn. Methinks that you may do well with a psychology class and learn more about abused women and what happens to them psychologically while they are being abused. Computers can't teach about life, you know. |
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izzie
Joined Wed 02/21/07 Posts: 31885 |
QUOTE: I'm sure she's heartbroken now, since she had so hoped to dump her incredible boyfriend who is down to earth and logical to date you... She was waiting with baited breath for your email I'm sure...
and aparently even if you could teach pigs to sing.. they cant carry a tune.. so ive been sent back to my corner!!! something about how tho its fun to WATCH a trainwreck.. its a bad idea to BE IN one... hate it when hes so flippen logical!!! *pouting smiley* |
DeniseC86
Joined Tue 09/23/08 Posts: 158 |
funny how the guys don't seem to realize that we women don't know that some guys have preferences. Preferences? I thought guys were just supposed to go to work, give me ALL of their money, and be quiet. I didn't know they had feelings. I guess I learn something new everyday.
No offense to you tho Lex. I like how you worded your post :) |
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Lily0923
Joined Sun 12/02/07 Posts: 20428 |
QUOTE: QUOTE: what are we fighting about today??? I just woke up...
single moms and the men who fear them...next on Springer
I thought it was single men who don't want to share their toys with a 7 year old? I'm so off base today... I'm sick that's why I'm a minute behind everyone else today.. You know I'm sick, my daughter is sick and I'm taking care of both of us while her father will go out to his band practice tonight... |
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izzie
Joined Wed 02/21/07 Posts: 31885 |
QUOTE: QUOTE: what are we fighting about today??? I just woke up...
single moms and the men who fear them...next on Springer
heheheeh |
LexFonteyne
Joined Thu 12/07/06 Posts: 32260 |
QUOTE: funny how the guys don't seem to realize that we women don't know that some guys have preferences. Preferences? I thought guys were just supposed to go to work, give me ALL of their money, and be quiet. I didn't know they had feelings. I guess I learn something new everyday. No offense to you tho Lex. I like how you worded your post :) Thanks. I think it helps if we phrase things to get our points across without being insulting or offensive. Some people seem to think this subject requires a "gender war" -- it does not. |
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Amagurl
Joined Tue 08/19/08 Posts: 752 |
QUOTE: QUOTE: QUOTE: what are we fighting about today??? I just woke up...
single moms and the men who fear them...next on Springer
I thought it was single men who don't want to share their toys with a 7 year old? I'm so off base today... I'm sick that's why I'm a minute behind everyone else today.. You know I'm sick, my daughter is sick and I'm taking care of both of us while her father will go out to his band practice tonight... well if they are sharing toys..would you really want another kid to raise?? Sorry to hear about you being sick..my kiddo has been experienceing something between a cold and allergies... |
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Lily0923
Joined Sun 12/02/07 Posts: 20428 |
QUOTE: funny how the guys don't seem to realize that we women don't know that some guys have preferences. Preferences? I thought guys were just supposed to go to work, give me ALL of their money, and be quiet. I didn't know they had feelings. I guess I learn something new everyday. I read the sarcasm, but I just don't see it....   THAT IS MY PREFERENCE...
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Amagurl
Joined Tue 08/19/08 Posts: 752 |
QUOTE: QUOTE: QUOTE: what are we fighting about today??? I just woke up...
single moms and the men who fear them...next on Springer
heheheeh Don't make me get the girly security..hahaha |
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izzie
Joined Wed 02/21/07 Posts: 31885 |
ok while this is the most fun ive had since yesterday.... i gotta go be a mother now.. my daugher is riding horses in school today and im totaly not missin it for this!
have fun... and take off the side blinders and see the world around you!!! its beautiful and bright colored place! |