I've sent out 10 messages to women I think I can connect with and none of them have written back. Do most women just assume that all guys on this site are sleazy and are very picky who they write back to, or do they just like recieving messages with no intention to write back.

I just want to know if I am wasting my time on this site.

post in the forums people respond to regular posters welcome

Actually... The only time I got a response, is when they mailed me first. So not really a response.

Hey if you see unread deleted don't be disappointed, some users (.01%) get 100 new emails a day if they have a great picture up. People like that don't have time to read your message even if they wanted to.

You can always improve your technique and what you write to them, but at the end of the day its a numbers game, just keep on trying and you will get there.

'blind emailing' like that is tough and i could never be bothered with it. But post in these threads and you will be seen by a whole load of women, and you will naturally get talking to them. The forums is the easy way.

yup, post your opinion or ideas or something interesting in the forums, helps people get to know you a little bit better, its all about trust and trust is fickle. Just be yourself and be honest. Someone will respond when the time is right, keep on keeping on. smiles

Well, I guess it's just like dating out in the real world. If it doesn't work just keep on trying.

Thanks for the responses so far.

Post in the forums, keep trying emails, try mutual matches, and basically have some fun and be yourself! The forums are a great place to meet eligible girls!!

Welcome and have a blast

Thats not quite what we said.

The main point is about posting.

I could mail easily 50 women, maybe 100 or more who knows, that i have never spoken to and get a response from most, just because they will recognise me from here.

Yeah right...or you could get 50 or 100 sent emails to chicks thrown in the delete box! LOL

You would reply to me if i wrote you

Even the people that dont like me would reply. I am pretty hard to ignore.

LOL I'm so kidding with you and you know it! If you sent out 50 you'd get 55

Thats why i write none so i only have the 5 to deal with! lol!

Maybe the stunningly beautiful younger gals are "flooded" but if you write something friendly and at least halfway directed at that particular person I would think you would at least get a majority of responses. Especially if you listen to what they say they are looking for. If you are not you are wasteing your time. Posting in the forums can really help if you don't whine or say something really stupid.

I say stupid stuff all the time though!

I dont think you are wasting your time.

However,
I have meet About 8 or so women here, And communicated with them for from several weeks to several months.
I currently dont message or receive messages from any of them.

Looking back i wonder if it would have been better if i had never wasted my time with any of them.

Most people dont want real relationships, Thay want excitment and a new thrill.
It is a social problem in america, People dont 'Need' other people.

Here is a copy of a post I made in another forum. You seem like the type of guy that really wants to know. While I am specking for myself in this post, I think many women feel the same way.

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What do your messages look like?

I came here from another dating site because I was getting a lot of messages (a good thing) but 90% of the messages were less than 7 words (a bad thing).

Examples:

"hey babe how R U"
"you pretty girl hit me up"
"How are you girl, lets f**k"

Most guys didn't even read my profile. I don't respond to these short messages. Not even the short "How are you, have a nice day" ones. There's just too many guys and too many messages and I'm not going to spend an hour a day sending out rejection letters. You need to stand out.

If you write me a message with at least 4 or 5 sentences and mention something you think we have in common from my profile I will usually reply even if it's just to tell you to go away.

When women see those short 5 word messages we know that the guy is just spamming every pretty girl he sees. Most of us women like to feel special.

In your messages, go for quality, not quantity.

p.s. If you have been sending out good messages, well then, I don't know what your problem is.

Try using my picture on your profile.