am conducting a 'social experiment' if you will on another site after becoming incredibly suspicious that yes men just look at the pictures and no further....

the profile i have seems to be getting plenty of hits and have had lots of contact...then it came to the photos....

i have a choice of several photos - one taken at the end of a six year old birthday party after a week of working fourteen hour days - it is in black and white and i am wearing absolutely zip makeup - the photo i think is quite ok for an 'a la naturale' look and shouldnt scare anyone away

the second photo is of course in colour - and i am wearing makeup - you can tell it is the same person but this is quite an attractive photo...

the experiment?

i alternate btw sending the black and white photo and the colour one

no prizes for guessing which one gets the most responses

what amuses me no end though is that all these men absolutely insist that 'looks' are not 'that important'....it is a brain they are looking for - someone with a sense of humour, an intelligent mind, who is caring and compassionate and who has their shite together

blah blah blah....

oh and btw - it doesnt matter if they are 'ugly' men or 'good looking' men (if you subscribe to an aesthetic point of view' - they all go for the pretty photo...

the next part of the experiment - i will make contact again with those that didnt respond to the plain photo by sending them the pretty one...

lets just wait and see if they respond to that...if they do...it proves me correct...you really are a shallow species...

☆most people like good looking and attractive soul mates but the real deal is its the inside of the person and how he or she treats u.☆

that to me sounds just like lip service....

everyone has preferences in what they like and are attracted to. I don't see this as necessarily shallow and generalizations aren't a good idea IMO

*edit* example:
not all guys are...
not all women are....

I like my man to be tall and hot...I'm ok with being shallow!

hey I'm not the one who insists that LOOKS ARENT IMPORTANT....

I dont care if they are to an individual

but dont crap on about it if you dont hold true to the adage....

People in general are shallow!

it is a sad state of affairs isnt it heavenly?

i am an incurable optimist (usually) but this one is weighing me down quite heavily........

sincerity is a dying art methinks!

Very well said

some people are very shallow..some more than others...both guys AND girls. but that doesn't mean all are

don't lets be shallow. how about just being selective?

another example of shallowness - generalisations are a tool we use in life to get by - it simply isnt possible to discriminate between - let alone consider - all alternatives to any question....if the best you can do is come up with a red herring of 'dont generalize' in response to my post then perhaps you really dont have anything much to say that is worth hearing....after all - you arent seriously suggesting that YOU never generalize....

where is the take a bow smiley?

Oh save me

can't really think of time that I do. I know all isn't possible since no one can possibly know all of something. just like never and always aren't possible since they haven't happened yet.

my point is not all guys are this way. there are some great guys on here and lumping in with a few that you have encountered isn't fair IMO

So, let me get this straight. You did an experiment in which you posted pictures of yourself online, one where you looked so-so, and the picture was in black and white, and one where you looked pretty, and used a color photo.

The experiment results revealed that men, who are browsing online, and have nothing to go by but a picture and a blurb of text, found your good-looking picture more appealing than the so-so one?

I have one response to this.

Well, DUH!

well geez... when you put it that way ...