Suppose you had to decide to leave this place never having contact with any of the people and friends you have met on here..... Or give up the one you want to be with forever. Would there even be a question? Would you leave this place?

For that one person I dreamed about, longed for, ached for, I would leave this place

Ditto

Why would there be a choice...

You mean being giving an ultimatum?

If I had to yes. But I would make sure my friends knew how to get in touch with me.

I was given an ultimatum (well sorta) by my last gf about this site & left for her. Didn't work out so now I'm back. So yeah, I'd leave this site.

No not really a ultimatum, just respect for the other person.

I don't do ultimatums. I'm not here for dating anyway, so no, I would stay.

If you were in a relationship with someone, would you want them spending time on a dating site in the wee hours of the night? Just a thought

Who is that directed towards?

No one in particular. Just thought I'd throw that out there

me!!!!!!

Ah, well I'll answer. Like I said, I'm not on here for dating, there is absolutely no one that I'd ever consider dating, so that's not why I'm here. So, in my head, it's more of a friendship site than a dating site. If I was dating someone, the kind of man I would choose wouldn't want to date anyone from here either, he would also consider it a friendship site. If either of us thought of it as a place to "hookup" or "date" then yes, I'd leave and I'd expect him to, as well. Hope that's clear enough.

I don't do ultimatums either...and I don't give them.

If one were uncomfortable about me being here I suppose I would leave..

I would want to discuss it. If I were taken, and loved this person..

everyone on this site would know it and it wouldn't, or shouldn't be

a problem anyway. I have made friends here..I'm not sure if it's fair

to be guilted into giving that up.

Edit to say...if I were with someone I'm sure I would be here much less and more with him..having all sorts of fun..

No -- I would not want him "secretly" on a dating site.

Since this is also a social site for me like "otherspace" then I would ask him to join too and meet my friends. I would include him.

When I finally meet someone of profound quality and integrity, I would hope we honor our wishes together -- out of respect and trust. If he didn't want me on Mingle, I would deactivate if he didn't want to join. If he belonged to another social site then I would expect even-steven.

If it becomes a jealous one-way street then LET THE AZZZZ KICKING BEGIN!!

really?

if someone i met on here and i wanted to be with but yet gave me a ultimatum on having my friends. you know there is more fish in the sea.. he would get his *** kick. im sorry. no man is going to interfer with my friends or family, and tell me who i can or can not talk to, if there is no trust then whats the point on having a relationship