My life is completely in a funk right now... I feel lost and clueless.... I feel alone, and I feel like I'm missing something in life. I'm missing friends... And at this point I've been friendless for so long that I'm not sure how to get back out there... I am a student but that doesn't lead to many friendships, not even many acquaintances. I don't have a job, I do volunteer though but I live in such a small town that most of the people I volunteer with are about 60 years older than me (LOL, doesn't make for friends that you can hang out with). I just need help in figuring out where to even start looking to find new friends... I'm open to anything at this point...


Thank you for any help that you offer...

Stay in the forums , make some friends & have some laughs

I agree.

I get in funks sometimes too. it's something we all go through....just don't stay in the funk

Yeah, I'm hoping to get out of this one soon... its been way too long this time around...

i hope you feel better, i agree that we all get in funks and sometimes we feel we are sad or overwhelmed or down more than we are happy or excited. i'm kinda a loner so i understand what you are saying.

there really are great people here though, there are new pals just around the corner to chat with, email and maybe even telephone or visit some day.

having that connection here with a few people has always really helped brightened my day! i hope it does the same for you...welcome to mingle!!!

sometimes i wish i had a magic potion that would make us all happy.....

You have to talk to people- be the first to start a conversation.
I dont know what youre into- but somebody else is probably into it also.
I talk to people in the market, a flea mkt,the bars, when I used to go.
You have to be open.

I would check with your dr. Let him or her know how you feel. It sounds like you could be depressed..

I know the feeling. I live somewhere where I know almost nobody. No close friends, no job, no direction. It's rough. Hang in there.

I'm in a funk too! I guess we'll be a funky duet.

Well, the worst thing to do in your fragile condition is to sit around.


Start talking to people when your out, and get some numbers, and dial them.

yep--You can't not talk to people that me-ander into your life. Old people young, good looking ugly--makes no diff. Some people will like you and talk, some won't------I'm all-ways starting conversations with people i don't know. it's fun and sometimes you end up with a new friend, or just learn things new. And sometimes they look at you like your from another planet! life is like that--I live by a small town that speaks mostly spanish----and it still works!!!

Sometimes a funk = depression. Sometimes not

If not

Hop into the forums with us crazies

There's always someone who makes ya laugh out loud

And brightens your day!!

There are magic potions to make you happy. They're called drugs. (side effects may vary. long term use is not recommended)

Moderate exercise helps with low level depression as well as medication does.

brisk walking

I agree....
How about coffee shops,libraries,book stores, video stores, ect... go hang out awhile andjust spark up a conversation with people. But be careful.

i get in a "funk" probably weekly. i'm starting to notice the pattern and trace it to a particular event. what exactly about this event causes me such severe and miserable depression i dunno. but everytime this one ol girl comes out to visit me i get really REALLY excited to see her. then as soon as she's gone i get terribly depressed and i didn't realize at first why i was getting this way, but i began to notice that it would happen after she left. so at least i've sort of identified what's causing it... somewhat.
i kno i'm really lonely and so i think after she leaves that feeling of loneliness is only magnified by her absence. i feel like it's an unhealthy obsession, because the rest of the week all i think about is the next time i might see her. and on nights i think she might stop by and see me after she gets off from work i'm up for hours, can't sleep with anticipation. if i had money and insurance, i'd see a doctor about this... meantime i have no clue what to do about it. at least i've somewhat identified where my problem stems from.

i dunno if i can help u w/ur "funk" in any way, but if there's some way i can i'd be more than happy to help. hope this reply finds u in better spirits than when u first posted.

you should eat more vegetables

Hi, Lots here have had some great ideas. One more to think of.
You said that you volunteer- do you volunteer at your local
hospital? I'll bet there would be ppl there closer to your
age. I'll bet they would be glad to have you too.

Anyone believeing they maybe suffering from depression, or any mental health issue, should go to their county mental health. They have fees based on slideing scale and can give you useful current information on how to understand your issue and often get it under control via a plan you agree to. Usually a mixed approach; reading, journaling, exercise, ect.ect..

A licensed phychitrist will have to see you before prescribeing any medication but usually the intake appointment with a highly skilled therapist can be very helpful. Often they can direct you to peer support groups that are confidential and very low cost or free.

Often seasonal depression can be associated with treatable allergies.

Finding age approriate friendships is a good idea. Calling United Way First Call for Help can help with many things includeing directing you to places to volunteer with people your own age.

Good Luck!