I was just wondering does everybody, right around twenty start getting that feeling that there's really no such thing as mr. or mrs. right because honestly, even though the thought doesn't really get me depressed, that thought just kind of makes me wonder what's the point in even saying two words to anyone of the opposite gender and it's really affecting my social life. I have friends and I talk to women but The closest thing I've had to romance was a crazy girl in highschool that needed serious psychiatric help.

Aw baby, you're way too funny! Cheer up chum! Life's too short to let that get ya down. Ask anybody who's been here long enough. Ya spend too much time concentrating on one thing, ...........it'll bite ya azz.

My realization came along a lot later than 20 -- !!

After many, many really horrible relationships, I began to understand what it was I truly wanted/needed in a partner. Just a few months ago, I finally came to the realization that that person probably doesn't exist.

Yeah, it's depressing on any number of levels. But I've realized that I can't base my life on the hypothetical existence of another person. It's two different things. I do what I do (write books and goof off, mainly) with the understanding that I'm actually better off alone than getting into another catastrophic relationship.

There ARE worse things than being alone. In my experience, being married is one of them.

Your feeling this at 20???

Wow

Go enjoy life!!

Live!!!!

Do it with gusto!!!

You got plenty of time to worry!!!

DON'T become an emo kid!

No offense, and all of us older than 20 years were in your shoes, but OMG you need to flip your attitude! You have so much to learn. All of the emotions you feel now will not be the same in 5 years. 10 and 15 years from now you will look back and realize how young and dumb you were at 20.

Relax and find a hobby! Don't allow love and relationships to take over your life right now. You don't know enough about life to have a good, functional relationship. Your hormones are dictating your thoughts rather than your common sense. Honestly, you probably don't have a lot of common sense yet either. Again, no offense -- it's just a wicked fact.

Date, have protected sex, and just enjoy being 20 without worry about stuff you will be saddled with in another 15 years.

holy **** I just got called an emo. nothing brings you down to earth faster than that

Yeah... Suck it up dude. We've all been through what you're feeling. You haven't even scratched the surface on what you can do in the dating world. Eventually you'll see for yourself. Keep your chin up.

No -- I didn't call you an emo kid. I said, "Don't become one!"

I was trying to "check you".

You're acting like an emo kid.

You're becoming an emo kid.

You are an emo kid.

Notice the difference!

yeah honestly guys I have been feeling these things but I just posted this because it's my first day here and I wanted to say something serious instead of spending all day responding to the sexy forum about the people who posted above me. I figured I get this response and I do appreciate it but let's not put too much thought to it.

Well, this is probably too much thought but....

I think we can become oblivious to the desirable qualities in people when we search too hard for a preconceived notion of what we believe we desire. In otherwords, we make it hard on ourselves more than anything else.

Hahaha

Forks and Dorks forum!

Yea to much time there has been known to cause depression
And serious sexual dysfunction!

You have alot to learn, young padawan. So, allow me to throw in some advice here.

At twenty, I was in love with a woman that I did marry. And, I felt she was "Mrs' Right". I felt she was "the one" who was meant for me. But after nine years of marriage, it turned out alot differently. What I learned was that there isn't a "Mr. or Mrs. Right" out there. There isn't just one woman who was meant for me. Now, I believe that there is a woman out there who will be a compliment to me. Who I will love with all I have, and to whom I will build a relationship with. But is this woman "The One" who was always meant for me? No, I don't see it that way. I feel that my love life has two chapters. One is the past love (my ex wife) who I did fall in love with, but it just didn't work. That chapter is closed. Now, I was dating, but right now, I don't want to. But, eventually, I will begin to date and I will go through life meeting women, and hoping that one "connects" with me. I don't worry about it, simply because I have learned that life is too short to do so.

My point is this. Don't get hung up on something that hasn't happened, and just live your life. Who knows. You could meet someone special on this site. It can happen.

DUDE,,,,,,, THATS the kind I meet,,,,,our WE related??

lol,,,The nuts just age man,,,,they don't just stay back there in high school,,,,,,SOME,,,,even go as far as to look you back up ten years later,,,,,,and they're worse..........lol

I've noticed that people really start going nuts about Mr. or Mrs. Right in their late 20's, then when they hit say 33 to 35 they start finally dismissing the dream

hormones

from about 16 to about 25 your hormones are going crazy and pummeling you emotionally. that is the source of so-called "teenage angst"

Mr Maybe real simple... Go to college, get the grades and like we all did...PARTY.. worry about all that stuff LATER

Actually no, I never felt that when I was 20. When I was 20, I was stuck in a town in Iowa where there was no way in hell I was going to get Mr. Right or Mr. Wrong, so it was a total non-issue for me.

I didn't really start thinking about men til much, much later, and the only reason I ever ended up with one at 24 was because he was the only one at the college I went to who had nothing to lose and I didn't have anything better to do.

I'm sure it sucks though, take the advice of the people here who really have been through that. Good luck.

Really? Damn, I must be way ahead.

Dont try so hard,its not a question of "if" you will ever find the right one.Just dont fret it, and enjoy time with one you can relate to and find,than go from there.

A relationship (or looking for one) takes a long time in most cases,a person just has relax ,and find themself and their own quirkie behaviors before they can have the cahones to know someone elses intricate quirks and deal with them as well.

I think everyone has a mate,its just a dang big world....your ex for instance might meet the nut job or balanced person of her dreams, that offsets or (gah i tried not to say it) completes her....and so can u,relax

something I've noticed that's funny is how easy some people make themselves think they're with the right person. Example I've dropped acid with my friends a couple times who are together and it's guaranteed, every time, that at some point they will hold eachother crying for twenty minutes and make out, and when watch that you think, "man that's commitment."