Topic: Losing Belief in Good Guys
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BlkBamagal Joined Thu 06/25/09 Posts: 1 |
I guess this will sound like a typical woman complaining, but I'm really starting to believe that there aren't hardly any good guys left in the world.
I got stood up last Sunday by a gentleman I just met who I've been chatting with for weeks. He made himself out to be a decent good who was just like me looking for love and wanted a family. When he stood me up, I was devstated. Not because of him per say, it was because of what he did, and the fact that I was starting over again and I let myself trust someone yet again he didn't deserve it. It wasn't just him, it was a guy I met on here who talked to for a week or two who just up and disappeared for not reason. I'm just staring to believe there aren't many good guys out there any more. And my believe in men became crushed even more after what happened to me last week. |
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yellowrose10 Joined Tue 12/11/07 Posts: 27656 |
hang in there. work on yourself and be happy with you
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tanyaann Joined Mon 12/03/07 Posts: 26135 |
Blow it off. And keep your chin up!
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Gambinator Joined Sat 10/10/09 Posts: 2 |
Oh my dear. . .I completely understand where you are. I have my days where I think that men are like parking spaces. . .The good ones are taken..and the rest are all handicapped. I guess the only words of encouragement that I can offer are these. . .everything happens for a reason..and you will meet that reason. Maybe not here, and maybe not right now..but you will. So don't lose faith. . it will happen :-)
Edited by Gambinator on Sat 10/31/09 11:06 PM
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Calleigh12 Joined Tue 04/01/08 Posts: 13411 |
Not all men suck, just like not all women suck. Keep looking, and maybe think about the kind of men you're going after, could be a pattern you need to break. Good luck.
Edited by Calleigh12 on Sat 10/31/09 11:15 PM
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artman48 Joined Sun 07/12/09 Posts: 925 |
The right guy is out there. put some more work into it and don't think all men are like that. We aint! There are good men still around.---Hummmmm--Mybe not in mingle??? But I don't cruse the guy profiles in here!! Just kidding, Chin up and move on.
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earthytaurus76 Joined Wed 04/08/09 Posts: 6232 |
Oh thats so mean! You desereve better. Let me kick him in the nuts!
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FearandLoathing Joined Fri 12/28/07 Posts: 20016 |
QUOTE: I guess this will sound like a typical woman complaining, but I'm really starting to believe that there aren't hardly any good guys left in the world. I got stood up last Sunday by a gentleman I just met who I've been chatting with for weeks. He made himself out to be a decent good who was just like me looking for love and wanted a family. When he stood me up, I was devstated. Not because of him per say, it was because of what he did, and the fact that I was starting over again and I let myself trust someone yet again he didn't deserve it. It wasn't just him, it was a guy I met on here who talked to for a week or two who just up and disappeared for not reason. I'm just staring to believe there aren't many good guys out there any more. And my believe in men became crushed even more after what happened to me last week. There is a fraction of the population that is good, regardless of sex. I did the math figures and with somewhere around 7 billion in full population you have about a 10 percent chance of finding someone good. I suppose 10 percent doesn't sound all that bad, but taking into account 7 billion people that gives you about a 700 million shot, which also doesn't sound bad...but to further the equation you have a 700,000,000 out of 7,000,000,000 chance, which is a seven percent cut over 2000, which held a staggering 14 million out of 6.1 billion, which is still roughly 10 percent of the population. Ultimately, mathmatically, we are all screwed. |
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cindyredhead Joined Sat 04/26/08 Posts: 23 |
Don't give up. There are some really nice guys out there. Keep looking and don't let this one get you down.
You go girl! Cindy |
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PacificStar48 Joined Tue 10/02/07 Posts: 6339 |
Darlin shake it off and realize you are just that much closer to finding a good one. They are out there.
I don't think the good ones mess around for weeks. A good guy will talk to you half a dozen times and then he should be offering a phone number and meeting you in a public place if he is really single before a month is up. After a couple dates if he isn't giving you specifics about where he lives and works he is hiding something. Dump him and keep your heart open. |
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artman48 Joined Sun 07/12/09 Posts: 925 |
QUOTE: Oh thats so mean! You desereve better. Let me kick him in the nuts! That would work for some guy's i think!!
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Calleigh12 Joined Tue 04/01/08 Posts: 13411 |
QUOTE: QUOTE: I guess this will sound like a typical woman complaining, but I'm really starting to believe that there aren't hardly any good guys left in the world. I got stood up last Sunday by a gentleman I just met who I've been chatting with for weeks. He made himself out to be a decent good who was just like me looking for love and wanted a family. When he stood me up, I was devstated. Not because of him per say, it was because of what he did, and the fact that I was starting over again and I let myself trust someone yet again he didn't deserve it. It wasn't just him, it was a guy I met on here who talked to for a week or two who just up and disappeared for not reason. I'm just staring to believe there aren't many good guys out there any more. And my believe in men became crushed even more after what happened to me last week. There is a fraction of the population that is good, regardless of sex. I did the math figures and with somewhere around 7 billion in full population you have about a 10 percent chance of finding someone good. I suppose 10 percent doesn't sound all that bad, but taking into account 7 billion people that gives you about a 700 million shot, which also doesn't sound bad...but to further the equation you have a 700,000,000 out of 7,000,000,000 chance, which is a seven percent cut over 2000, which held a staggering 14 million out of 6.1 billion, which is still roughly 10 percent of the population. Ultimately, mathmatically, we are all screwed. My brain just exploded all over my keyboard. |
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daytime Joined Sat 04/25/09 Posts: 2275 |
Hang in there and Welcome to the Mingle Forum
I hope to see you in the forums
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FearandLoathing Joined Fri 12/28/07 Posts: 20016 |
QUOTE: QUOTE: QUOTE: I guess this will sound like a typical woman complaining, but I'm really starting to believe that there aren't hardly any good guys left in the world. I got stood up last Sunday by a gentleman I just met who I've been chatting with for weeks. He made himself out to be a decent good who was just like me looking for love and wanted a family. When he stood me up, I was devstated. Not because of him per say, it was because of what he did, and the fact that I was starting over again and I let myself trust someone yet again he didn't deserve it. It wasn't just him, it was a guy I met on here who talked to for a week or two who just up and disappeared for not reason. I'm just staring to believe there aren't many good guys out there any more. And my believe in men became crushed even more after what happened to me last week. There is a fraction of the population that is good, regardless of sex. I did the math figures and with somewhere around 7 billion in full population you have about a 10 percent chance of finding someone good. I suppose 10 percent doesn't sound all that bad, but taking into account 7 billion people that gives you about a 700 million shot, which also doesn't sound bad...but to further the equation you have a 700,000,000 out of 7,000,000,000 chance, which is a seven percent cut over 2000, which held a staggering 14 million out of 6.1 billion, which is still roughly 10 percent of the population. Ultimately, mathmatically, we are all screwed. My brain just exploded all over my keyboard. I'm good with numbers and math...
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daytime Joined Sat 04/25/09 Posts: 2275 |
QUOTE: QUOTE: QUOTE: I guess this will sound like a typical woman complaining, but I'm really starting to believe that there aren't hardly any good guys left in the world. I got stood up last Sunday by a gentleman I just met who I've been chatting with for weeks. He made himself out to be a decent good who was just like me looking for love and wanted a family. When he stood me up, I was devstated. Not because of him per say, it was because of what he did, and the fact that I was starting over again and I let myself trust someone yet again he didn't deserve it. It wasn't just him, it was a guy I met on here who talked to for a week or two who just up and disappeared for not reason. I'm just staring to believe there aren't many good guys out there any more. And my believe in men became crushed even more after what happened to me last week. There is a fraction of the population that is good, regardless of sex. I did the math figures and with somewhere around 7 billion in full population you have about a 10 percent chance of finding someone good. I suppose 10 percent doesn't sound all that bad, but taking into account 7 billion people that gives you about a 700 million shot, which also doesn't sound bad...but to further the equation you have a 700,000,000 out of 7,000,000,000 chance, which is a seven percent cut over 2000, which held a staggering 14 million out of 6.1 billion, which is still roughly 10 percent of the population. Ultimately, mathmatically, we are all screwed. My brain just exploded all over my keyboard. Oh dear!!! Not the brain explosion? |
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earthytaurus76 Joined Wed 04/08/09 Posts: 6232 |
QUOTE: QUOTE: Oh thats so mean! You desereve better. Let me kick him in the nuts! That would work for some guy's i think!!
yeah, your right. lmao.. still gratifying though.
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Calleigh12 Joined Tue 04/01/08 Posts: 13411 |
QUOTE: QUOTE: QUOTE: QUOTE: I guess this will sound like a typical woman complaining, but I'm really starting to believe that there aren't hardly any good guys left in the world. I got stood up last Sunday by a gentleman I just met who I've been chatting with for weeks. He made himself out to be a decent good who was just like me looking for love and wanted a family. When he stood me up, I was devstated. Not because of him per say, it was because of what he did, and the fact that I was starting over again and I let myself trust someone yet again he didn't deserve it. It wasn't just him, it was a guy I met on here who talked to for a week or two who just up and disappeared for not reason. I'm just staring to believe there aren't many good guys out there any more. And my believe in men became crushed even more after what happened to me last week. There is a fraction of the population that is good, regardless of sex. I did the math figures and with somewhere around 7 billion in full population you have about a 10 percent chance of finding someone good. I suppose 10 percent doesn't sound all that bad, but taking into account 7 billion people that gives you about a 700 million shot, which also doesn't sound bad...but to further the equation you have a 700,000,000 out of 7,000,000,000 chance, which is a seven percent cut over 2000, which held a staggering 14 million out of 6.1 billion, which is still roughly 10 percent of the population. Ultimately, mathmatically, we are all screwed. My brain just exploded all over my keyboard. I'm good with numbers and math...
I know...that's sooo hot....
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Calleigh12 Joined Tue 04/01/08 Posts: 13411 |
QUOTE: QUOTE: QUOTE: QUOTE: I guess this will sound like a typical woman complaining, but I'm really starting to believe that there aren't hardly any good guys left in the world. I got stood up last Sunday by a gentleman I just met who I've been chatting with for weeks. He made himself out to be a decent good who was just like me looking for love and wanted a family. When he stood me up, I was devstated. Not because of him per say, it was because of what he did, and the fact that I was starting over again and I let myself trust someone yet again he didn't deserve it. It wasn't just him, it was a guy I met on here who talked to for a week or two who just up and disappeared for not reason. I'm just staring to believe there aren't many good guys out there any more. And my believe in men became crushed even more after what happened to me last week. There is a fraction of the population that is good, regardless of sex. I did the math figures and with somewhere around 7 billion in full population you have about a 10 percent chance of finding someone good. I suppose 10 percent doesn't sound all that bad, but taking into account 7 billion people that gives you about a 700 million shot, which also doesn't sound bad...but to further the equation you have a 700,000,000 out of 7,000,000,000 chance, which is a seven percent cut over 2000, which held a staggering 14 million out of 6.1 billion, which is still roughly 10 percent of the population. Ultimately, mathmatically, we are all screwed. My brain just exploded all over my keyboard. Oh dear!!! Not the brain explosion?
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Monier Joined Sat 03/17/07 Posts: 2256 |
The trying part does'nt get any easier, but you'll enjoy having that good guy one day much more if you don't give up on us. When people give up and become jaded, it's harder for them to notice a great person when they actually meet one.
Just keep going, and welcome |
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papersmile Joined Fri 10/12/07 Posts: 4548 |
that's why i won't ever invest a lot of emotions into any further internet relationships, be them friendly or romantic, until a few things have been shown, constantly and consistently, over time.
one of them is cam chats. i want to be sure that the person with whom i am speaking is accurately portrayed by the photos they've posted. it isn't only from an attraction point of view, but it allows their honestly (or lack of) to show. i want an address. i usually send some little token just to be sure that they've given me a location where they aren't afraid to receive some mail. i then ask for verification of what they got, just to be sure the address wasn't fictitious. i'd like a telephone number. i'd like to be sure that he is available during odd and varied times during the day and/or weekend. the more accessible he is, probably the more available he is as well. i want a meeting after some rapport has been built. i'd like to meet their friends, their family, and/or their co-workers as soon as is feasible. if they don't shy away from that, i can be relatively assured that they are not married and i am not the other woman. none of the above guarantees an honest and upfront person. at some point, common sense and gut feeling must come into play but at least this is a start. |
yeah, your right. lmao.. still gratifying though.